ok so heres the deal ... my friend is dateing this guy and we ment and we now love each other, hes still dateing her but its a long distance thing and she might be pregent with his kid ... he wants to be with me but if she is pregant what should i do and if shes not how should we tell her???
2007-05-10 02:11:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on , and dont be a homeweaker, find some one that is (SINGLE), Girls like you give girls like us a bad name
2007-05-10 06:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a terrible situation! It's definetly a good idea to think about it from her perspective, and also look at how he's treating her, because it could possibly be you next in that situation.
Sometimes, the guy really is worth going through a lot of BS for, but very rarely. Is this guy really special to you? It's hard to get a full understanding, like how long you've been together, she's been with him etc, but I think, when you're on Answers, asking us Yahoo's, if you should continue, I think you're head, and maybe even your heart is telling you something...
Do you know if this other girl is finding out the paternity before she has the baby, or after? Imagine going through all these situations, say, your boyfriend wants to be at the birth, cut the cord, be put on the birth certificate, incase it is his, and he misses it. What if he's goes through all that, and it turns out it's not his? Or what if he doesnt worry about the baby, or the mother, until say the baby is 6mths old, then he suddenly finds out it is his, and wants to do the "right thing" and support his child? What will you do then?
It's probably going to be the hardest thing ever, but by the sounds of things, it might be best to leave him. It doesnt sound like things started off in the best circumstances. You know the answer though.
You could always have a break, till you know exactly where you both stand, and whose Daddy the little baby's is, and then take it from there. By that stage you would be in a much better position to make a decision. You might have even completely moved on with your life by then too!
Also think about, what your relationship was like with this guy, before all this "stuff" happened.
Hope it works out for you. All the best xx
2007-05-10 02:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by *~Ally~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all this whole situation in my opinion makes you a bad friend...you obviously aren't her friend if you'd do that to her. And if she is pregnant you should totally just back off because that's just more trouble for you...But if this guy did this to your friend keep in mind that he could easily turn around and do the same to you...I'm sorry if this isn't the advice you wanted to hear but you were the one who asked..
2007-05-10 02:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by TiGgEr_LoVeR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she IS...think of how hard it will be to be with a guy that has a child with someone else. Could you trust him when he goes to pick the child up for a visit? If she ISNT, you need to tell her sooner, not later. If he seriously wants to be with you and only you...make sure you are with him when he tells her. Just so that you know for sure that he told her!
2007-05-10 02:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago have you and the boyfriend met? How long have they been dating? If he is still dating her, then he does not love any of you. He is just a wham bam thank you mame` kind of man.
2007-05-10 02:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by tjfuen25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying with him would just complicate your life. What kind of a friend are you anyway? Leave this one fast and stay away from other girls men.
2007-05-10 02:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes having fun with both of you....he was with her when u met him u didnt respect that fact! Can't complain now ...
2007-05-10 02:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's playing both of u. You must decide if your
friend is more important than him.
2007-05-10 02:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, girl, run. That doesn't sound like a good situation AT ALL.
2007-05-10 02:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i agree run like the wind. there are just going to be too many problems there. And if she is pregnant...oh my that will be even worse
2007-05-10 02:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by tiffmom78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋