When me and my boyfrined have sex i never have orgasims anymore and its not thati am loose because my boyfriend would tell me its just we have sex for like an hour and i always used to get them but now its just like nothing i feel nothing and its not fun anymore....,if you know anything that can make it better please help me.
2007-05-10 00:41:01 · 14 answers · asked by Kayla O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start experimenting with him and try new things. get yerself some toys and go to town.
2007-05-10 00:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Haywood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When sex becomes the same routine and you can predict whats coming next, no it's not exciting anymore. My best suggestion is when alone you explore your body and see what feels good. And the next time you have sex you tell your boyfriend what you want him to do. Guys can't read a women's mind, they don't know if there getting the job done or not. You can always help your guy out to. Men are more visual in sex, and a lot of men like to see there women touch them own self's, which then stimulates the man. By doing that it makes them want to try new things. Go to the book store and find a book to help out. New positions or new toys. There is many ways to explore and be pleasurable. I hope this helps.
2016-05-19 21:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have become desensitized to certain stimulation. Try different positions, toys, vibrators (which can be a new adventure when shared with your partner!) etc. Make sure that you aren't focusing on problems of the day, or expecting an orgasm. You might be putting to much mental pressure on yourself. Try water sex--pool, hot tub, or bath tub--the water has an AMAZING effect on the clitoris as it surrounds it during penetration. The act of sex is intended to be fulfilling. Communicate the issue to your BF and provide him all the instruction and information that he needs to help you achieve orgasm. If your boyfriend doesn't give you an orgasm--the YOU give one to you, and maybe he will get the point that you need a little extra time and effort from him. Make sure there is plenty of foreplay. Good Luck
2007-05-10 00:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women need mental foreplay. The hugging, kissing, telling you how much he loves you, making you feel that he needs you and wants you badly before you hit the bed. After the relatiosnhip gets older they stop doing that and that is when the problem that you have occurs. Try to put some spice in the relationship, and those orgasms will come back! Roleplay, romantic dinners, body massages, etc... will help.
2007-05-10 00:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK' Here's what's going on. You have been with this guy for a while and the novelty has worn off. He use to really turn you on. But now it isn't the same. He is going to have to find other ways to excite you. Do you love the guy or is it just sex? If it just sex your done with him. If you are sure you love him then you need to talk to him and go see a pro about it. Start by seeing your doctor.
2007-05-10 00:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you stop focusing on the big 'O' and relax more. How about lots more foreplay. Plenty of stroking and oral. Relax and enjoy the sensations without thinking about the climax. Take it easy. Go slow. Follow your instinct with your body. Try switching positions where your 'bits' are getting rubbed and some friction is being created. Get your BF to rub gently on your 'bits' while he is penetrating you. Good luck!!!
2007-05-10 00:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bitzer Maloney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically u hvnt mentiond ur age.
bt den also, thinkin ur 15-22 avereage age i cn say, dnt wrry smtimes sm gals need 2 hv time 2 hv a gud satisfied sex.
hv patience, try 2 watch blue films, bt dnt hv sex, u cn masturbate urslf bt nt complete means nt till dat point 2 satisfaction. do dis til a month & aftr it hv a gud sex wid ur partner. b4 dat i wud suggest u, 2 tel ur partner 2 activate G-Spots.
G-Spots r d sex activation points of gals, de r - boobs, nipples, d dark circle around d nipples, vagina etc. try 2 concentrate ur bf on G-Spots, aftr d 20-25 mins, get him 2 ur vagina & tel him 2 lick ur vagina, aftrwards GET HIM ON A RUNWAY! means hv a hard sex wid him & GET A TAKE OFF!
u wil surely hv sences dat time, dats my promise!
dnt wrry u cn hv a best sex of ur life!
ALL D BEST!
2007-05-10 00:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Aryan Maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol maybe ummmmm he needs to take growth pills or something lol if u said it's not fun anymore its because u probably got used to it so yea maybe u two need to try something new
2007-05-10 02:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start doing kegel excercises. They will tighten you up and give you awesome control to squeeze him.... Stop focusing on having an orgasm. It will never happen until you forget about it. Try many different positions.
2007-05-10 00:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Always PO'd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had the same experience, I talked to a radio talk host called Dr Laura, and she advised us to spice it up a little bit. more passionate foreplay before sex. get aroused by foreplay before sex. let him make love to your mind first, let you get excited first. play games like find my new hot spot, make him kiss you all over. now you'll beat him there.
2007-05-10 00:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by scorpio75 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fore paly is so important when you get like this. it's just gonna take you longer a women can go for hours and not get there.
realx and lose yourself in the moment and keep your mind free
2007-05-10 00:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋