I am a HIV negative and my partner is HIV positive. What is the best thing to do in staying negative?

Question

We are a lesbian couple and we have been dating a couple of months and she recently told me she was HIV Positive. I am HIV negative and I am not really familiar with the virus so I need some help on the matter.

We are a LESBIAN couple...

Answer 1

if toys are involved with you and your partners sex life it is important to remember to always use a condom. when performing oral sex there is something called a "dental dam" it is shaped like a giant square and has four adhesive corners and is made of latex. It is very very very unlikely to contract HIV from kissing. The way you get HIV is simple, it has to find a way 1. into the body 2. into the system and 3. into the blood flow. If you had a busted bleeding lip and your partner had a busted bleeding lip then your chances would increase. Other then kissing the rest follows the same guide lines, must have a way into the body, system, and blood flow. If you have only been dating for a couple of months I would suggest getting tested, to know your status. I would then recommend that for the duration of your partnership to get tested anywhere from every 3 to 6 months to once a year. The test itself is relatively painful and comparable to that of a diabetic finger prick. Accurate results for an HIV/AIDS test take 3 months from date of risk for results to show. When you take your test you should expect to wait about 2 weeks to get your results, unless your facility uses the mouth swab, that test usually reads in about 30 minutes to an hour. However it has been my experience that the 2 week test is more accurate.

Answer 2

I've heard of couples like you guys, that the negative person stays negative. Its a matter of being very careful not to mix fluids, but it is possible. I would talk to an HIV counselor, or a doctor. The first thing you should do is get tested if you've been intimate already. Sharing cups, forks, etc wont spread the disease but if you mix thats when you can get in trouble. I really think a doctor can help you, or an HIV counselor. You can go to the Department of health in your state, or to Planned Parenthood, and they can give you good info.

Answer 3

touchy subject. I would leave. The reasons.. 1) he lied to you 2) he cheated on you 3) you are putting your self at risk 4) you have a daughter to care for. 5) your putting your daughter at risk What would happen if you died? who will care for your girl.. that will be both of you gone. I know you don't want to hear this, but sometimes doing right thing is selfish.. let me explain.. you love him.. and now he's contracted something from another source while you where together.. you stay, you catch the disease, or you don't. either way you will watch the one you love die, and your little girl will too. If this was my situation, i would break up, but stay around to support the person. because you are right, he is living with it but you are not. Don't put your self at risk.

Answer 4

The absolute way on not becoming positive is not to have sex with your partner. If that is not a choice you wish to do then you should where a latex condom and if you need a lubricant make sure that you use a water- based one like KY. They have male and female condoms. Make sure that it is latex. If you are allergic to latex there is another kind out there but make SURE it is not lamb skin as HIV can be contracted with a lamb skin condom.

Answer 5

STUDY EXPOSES MYTH OF SEXUAL TRANSMISSION

The 10-year Padian study observed sexually active
couples in which one partner was HIV positive. The result: in 10 years, not one uninfected partner contracted HIV, even though all participants admitted to having sex without condoms. The study states, 'We followed up 175 HIV-discordant couples over time, for a total of approximately 282 couple-years of follow up. The longest duration of follow-up was 12 visits (6 years).

We observed no seroconversion [infection] after entry into the
study." In the three-year Stewart study (1985) not one male partner of HIV-positive women contracted HIV. Prostitution is not even listed as an HIV risk category by the CDC, because of the extremely low incidence of HIV transmission to clients who have no other risk factors (i.e. drug abuse).

These findings bolster the hypothesis of some AIDS scientists that chronic malnutrition and other environmental factors, and not a sexually-transmitted virus, are the causes of weakened immunity in people diagnosed with one of the nearly 30 AIDS-defining diseases (which vary from country to country).

Answer 6

if she knew she had the virus and didn't tell you prior to having sex with you, she has committed attempted manslaughter in most states, (48 of the 50). that's effed up and wrong in so many ways.

Answer 7

Well lets put this in another way. you are basically playing with a loaded gun. you just have to be careful where you point it.

there are lots of ways of showing your love for someone then just having sex.

Answer 8

no deep kissing, no cunnilingus, no tranference of body fluids of any kind. In other words, the only way to be sure you do not contract the virus is sexual abstinence. Good luck.

Answer 9

Stop having sex with this person, my sister passed from this disease and it is dreadful. Your girlfriend will understand your actions if she really loves you.