genital warts what to do?

Question

I just found I have them and I know at this point I have given them to my girlfriend, so the damage is done. I didnt know before or I would have done something about it. My question now is, can anything good come from me telling her I just found out I have them or can I just wait till she finds out like I did and then talk it over. As it is I think I have had them for sometime without ANY symptoms.

Bummer. I am afraid if I bring it up it may just ruin out relationship and she wont be able to forgive me.

Answer 1

First off Genital warts are not that dangerous. They are "low risk" of HPV and can be easily treated. Genital warts are not always visible and therefore you weren't abel to detect them. It is very common and most genital warts go away on their own. NOTE you will always have the virus that causes genital warts but you will not always have genital warts. Genital warts are curable....they "at times" come and go...some times you'll only get them once and never again...some don't even have any warts.

Yes tell your gf and tell her in a very calm way. Learn as much as you can about the virus and let her know...it's VERY COMMON and tell her you care for her health and wanted to tell her right away. If you tell her in a Panic she too will panic.

I went through this with my ex...this is how I realized that he didn't love me and cared for me because he was the only one I was with and when I told him he said I was lying and didn't believe me and left.

Yes it was over whealming since I had to deal with it on my own but at the same time...I was thankful because it taught me that he didn't really care for me.

Sooo just get informed and let her know. If your bond and trust is strong...you should be fine.

Good luck and don't worry...you'll be just fine. =)

Answer 2

First schedule an appointment with the doctor and bring her along. Let the dr explain to her the facts and let her know that you may have had it before but it was dormant. I also got HPV from my bf of 7yrs on our 2nd year I was diagnosed with HPV. I knew I could sit here and point fingers if I wanted too since he was my first and I had never had any partners BUT, since it normally lies dormant then I really couldn't say whether he cheated or not or whether I had gotten in the beginning of the relationship since he already had it. Most man don't get any symptoms. I've had it now I believe for 5yrs and I haven't experience any warts. Please tell her and don't lie because if you end up lieing and it shows up later your going to have to give her an explanation and when you tell her that you already knew this and you didn't want to tell her she might not even believe you. Plus she needs to know so that she may get tested and get the new vaccine Gardasil. Good luck!!!


*I disagree with the below answer...I am sorry Shirley but Genital Warts does NOT cause Herpes. Genital wart and Herpes are two different conditions. Genital warts cause warts and Herpes causes blister.

Answer 3

Genital warts can be a symptom of an incurable condition called "Herpes Virus". Only a medical doctor can determine that diagnosis.

If that's what you have contracted, it is extremely contagious at the onset of the symptoms, and while the blisters are present. The blisters resemble red spots that almost look like a mosquito bite. They are itchy, and sting when urinating, depending upon where they are located in a man or a woman. They are usually present in the genital areas.
The blisters are present for up to three days. Once the blisters have disappeared, you are "safe" in terms of spreading the condition to another, until your next outbreak.
Stress can often be a cause for the outbreaks. "Valtex" is a prescribed drug to help the outbreaks of Herpes, but NOT a cure.

You really need to go and see a doctor while the genital warts are present for a proper diagnosis. Once you speak with the doctor, you will have to make a decision as to how you will handle the truth with your girlfriend. It may be unclear how you contracted it, if you both have been with other partners while together. You having the symptoms does not designate necessarily that you contracted it first. She should also be checked and treated as well, if necessary.

Only you know who is the guilty party here....who fooled around on who. Judging from your guilt as to how you prresented this question, I think you may know who's responsible! You have to be a man and step up to the plate. I think a woman would respect a man more for his honesty. Not to mention her health if contracted and it causes her uterine complications later.

Neither you nor your girlfriend can control relationships or affairs you had with other people prior to you both hooking up.
That's why condoms and practicing safe sex in general is always a good idea.

Good luck with your condition and your outcome. I hope I have helped. You did the right thing by asking us all for our opinion!!!

Answer 4

There is a chance that they haven't been passed on to her----yet. It is important, and extremely responsible that you tell her ASAP.

Tell her that you just found out and that she should visit her doctor ASAP. Sure she'll probably be upset, but she'd be positively furious if she found out about it years later after potential damage has been done to her and she had had an opportunity to pass it on to others.

Bottom line--tell her now. She might forgive you and you can help stop the spread of it. Don't tell her now, and she'll want to hunt you down like a dog later--AND it will have a chance to be spread to other people.

Answer 5

You HAVE to tell her ASAP. Genital warts can cause cervical cancer in women. Don't worry about whether it will ruin the relationship. Worry about her health and yours.

Answer 6

chop your genitals off, and throw it away. That will get rid of the warts! Yeah, I'm pretty sure she's going to be pissed at you. You just ruined her life that's all:)

Answer 7

Tell her now so she can get a doctor's help! Ruining your relatioinship is better than your health! Waiting can be worse!

Answer 8

You may but she will definitely never speak to you again if you DON'T tell her. Tell her so she can get treated too. It can cause many problems in women that COULD kill her.

Answer 9

The best thing for both of you is to take anti-viral treatment from a good doctor or a good homeopath.

Answer 10

You should tell her and be honest with her. Of course she isn't going to be happy about it, but it is your duty to inform her what you gave her..