I'm dating an amazing guy, succesful about to retire at the age of 32. we go out and I have a great time. I feel so good around him. he has brought me around his circle of friemds and even though he is so busy lets me know he is thinking of me. the problem is i have hsv II. I told him because i felt our relationship is scalating. is not fair to sleep with him without lettign him know my situation. I care about him i feel we compliment each other. I told him and he freaked out. he said that's a serious thing and that he needs to look more into it, research, to help him learn more about it to educate him. is the first time i'm actually out dating again after being betrayed by my ex and i'm so scared. I feel good I told him and he said he was going to get back to me after been well informed and that he feels the same about me that he admires how i handled it and how positive i am about my situation. i'm wating for his response, should i just think it's done or be optimistic?
2007-05-06 13:43:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
please honest answers, don't need to feel worse. thanks ;-)
2007-05-06 13:44:40 · update #1
Hang in there.
I've had to tell several guys over the years that I have genital herpes. I've always been honest and upfront about it because it would be completely unfair to them if they were to contract something from me when I knew I had it.
I can tell you though, from my personal experience, that all the guys I told stayed with me. None of them ran away screaming or anything, including my current fiance. That doesn't mean every guy out there will stay with someone who has genital herpes though. There are people out there who won't date someone with it. I guess I have just been lucky so far.
Hopefully this guy will do some research about the virus and learn a little more about it. Just give him a little time to think about it. If he just can't bare the thought of being with you because he's afraid he'll get the virus, then fine. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to date you for you, not the virus you have. Good luck!
2007-05-07 04:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-01 19:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am absolutely terrified and I feel so alone. I just found out last week that I tested positive for hsv1 and 2. I have been with the same man for the past 10 years and within the last year found out that he has cheated on me with numerous women. I am so scared that I can give it to my children by kissing them and them eating with me...I feel like my whole life has changed. And even though the nurses, my doctor, and websites say that a lot of people have it I still feel like I am by myself. My self esteem has dropped and I feel like I have been used up. But now, My life is very happy.
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2016-05-15 04:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does have every right to look into, not everyone is educated about herpes. I just want you to know there is hope. I am happily married with a child and my husband does not have herpes. We started off as friends and he knew I had herpes and he was ok with it, before I told him I printed off some information online for him to read. Also before I got married I dated and I was always upfront with the guys I dated and they to were ok with it. Just make sure that soon as you notice it's getting serious you need to tell them right then and there (make sure you have a pamphlet or online info to present too). Do not wait until it is a full blown serious relationship, that only causes more harm. Good luck to you, eveything will work out.
2007-05-07 02:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing by telling him before having sex. I know how terrifying it can me to have to tell your bf your situation. It's not a "fun" experience to say the least. If he can't understand and be comfortable with you, it should show you he's not the right person for you. I have been married to a wonderful man for many years and my illness has not effected our sex life at all. We have a wonderful daughter who's 4 now. I look back on those days I was diagnosed and thought my world was over. Now I see it was just a "wake up" call to take care of myself better. Don't be ashamed of your illness, but be empowered by it :)
2007-05-07 03:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be positive. If he really cares about you and wants to be with you then he will give it a chance. If not, then he isn't the one for you. Him looking into it is a good thing. At least he didn't just say no right off the bat. Give it time, be patient and positive. I know it's scary, but it is a serious decision he has to make.
2007-05-06 14:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by tlc3670 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has every right to look into it further. I think that if he truely feels a conection with you then it should not be a choice. And, if he does decide to go ahead and leave than you know that he wasn't REALLY that in to you. If he stays, then I think you'd go on to the next level. Thats a tough one. Good luck
2007-05-06 14:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by motormank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough to say, but if I were in his shoes I might hit the road.
2007-05-06 13:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by cobraman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, if i was him, i gotta go...
2007-05-06 13:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Michael B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋