My husband apparently had genital warts when we first met. He did not know much about it and didn't realize that he could give it to me since he had no signs at the time. Eight years later, while I have very little visible evidence of it, he is covered. We have not had sex in almost three years and honestly I don't really want to even if he would. Problem is that I really miss sex and I am having serious issues dealing with the idea of never having it again. What do I do?
2007-05-02 05:03:01 · 4 answers · asked by cantstopnow 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Only about 1% of people carrying wart-causing strains of HPV ever show warts, and even presentation of warts varies greatly. I'm sorry this is impacting your relationship. Because there is no test for HPV in men, a VAST majority of men who carry HPV will never know they have it. The only ones who do find out are those who get warts. About 70% of all people have encountered HPV at some point in their lives.
How is your husband's immune system? People with weakened immune systems have worse occurrences of warts. So if he has any immune issues (severe allergies, medications ,etc.), try some homeopathic therapies to boost his immune system. And just because he has more warts doesn't mean that contact with him will give you more warts as well. Again, only a slim percentage of people carrying that strain get warts, and those who get it bad are a smaller minority. Has he had his warts treated? They can be surgically removed. That can help a bit. And if they recur, he can get them removed again.
In the meantime, are you able to enjoy other forms of intimacy with your husband? Do you harbor some negative feelings about his infection? Does the appearance of the warts turn you off or make you afraid of getting more warts?* If so, you might want to consider couples counseling to talk things through and get education about HPV and how to deal with it. The thing about STDs usually isn't about the infection itself, but how it impacts people's relationships.
Also, if you haven't done so already, make sure you stay really up to date on your Pap smears, and get your warts removed if you have any.
* If you are turned off by how his genitals look, encourage him to get the warts removed. If you are afraid of getting more warts from more contact with him, don't be because you can't be superinfected with the exact same thing you already have.
2007-05-02 05:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Gumdrop Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question why havent they been removed they can do this.I do understand but I cant much blame you.I suggest you go seek professional to talk about your concerns.
2007-05-02 10:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a therapist.
2007-05-02 06:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you should still take your time for now.
2007-05-02 05:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋