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I just got interested in this guy, im 18 and hes 27(soon to be 28) i like him alot so far. more than any guy in years. i really feel that he may be the one.

he told me yesterday that he has herpes. he found out when he was 24 ish and he never had an outbreak or anything. he was really upset and was cryin cause he had to tell me. he was worried cause im still young and if i would mind being in a relationship with someone who has it. and if we ever did do anything, he wouldnt want to give it to me.

i said it doesnt matter to me, cause i sex isnt on my mind right now. i was researching on it alot and i really dont know what to think. i told hm to get checked cause if its been 4 years and its still nothing, then get checked again.

any opinions or info for me?

thanks!

2007-04-27 06:17:18 · 9 answers · asked by alexs117 2 in Health Diseases & Conditions STDs

we have been talking for a while, and so far we have only kissed. he said that its not the biggest thing in the world to have sex. he got it from a girl he dated for a while, and she got raped. and she didnt even know i guess.

2007-04-27 06:42:05 · update #1

9 answers

Its up to you and you sound very mature for your age a lot of people tend to blow people off when they tell them. I am 24 and I got herpes when I was 19 my boyfriend cheated on me. If you really love him and you see a future you can give it a try but remember to take care of yourself. I would date for some while before ever coming intimate with him you dont want to jump so fast and then you realized that he's not the guy. Things are always fantastic in the beginning. I wish you lots of luck!

Sorry HEATHER but age has nothing to do with him having herpes and not having a gf. People like you IGNORANT dont give others the chance. Some people get raped or cheated on and its not there fault. Educate yourself before you open your mouth. I think he was gentlemen in telling her the truth a lot lie and then they say " i didnt know"

2007-04-27 06:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 0 0

i'M SORRY TO SAY THIS BUT IF HE'S THAT OLD AND SINGLE THERE IS A REASON!! hum, maybe the herpies!!

He is looking for younger females because nobody his age would have sex with someone that has herpies because they know how horrible of a disease it is and that it will NEVER go away!
If he's never had an outbreak then how did he find out he had it? Don't beleive everything he tells you.. Men lie to get into girls pants... What would a man his age want with a 18 year old girl?? SEX!!
How long do you think a 28 year old is going to wait when he's been having sex for probabley 10 years already.. Don't do something you'll have to regret for LIFE and then have explain to to every other man you meet you have this disease now just like he did with you..

2007-04-27 13:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0 1

if he has herpes, he has it for life, and he doesn't have to have an outbreak to pass it along to you. So, if you decide to pursue a relationship with him, ALWAYS ALWAYS use a condom and make sure he is taking Valtrex every single day. Valtrex won't cure herpes, but it does lower the viral load in the body so it isn't spread as easily. The sad thing is that the person that gave it to him probably didn't even know they had it at the time either. You are one step ahead knowing he has it, insist he always use a condom, and that he take Valtrex (prescription medicine), if you decide to pursue a relationship and it turns into a permanent thing, the last thing you need is to catch herpes, then if you become pregnant down the road it causes birth defects in your child.

2007-04-27 13:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0 0

He has issues. A 28 year old who seeks out an 18 year old has other issues to contend with emotionally -- not just herpes.

2007-04-27 19:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by guru 7 · 0 0

at 18 you do not want to be suceptable to herpes. as bad is it might sound you might want to reconsider how far you want to take your relationship with him...
just a thought.... good luck though and follow your heart.
God Bless

2007-04-27 13:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by J 4 · 0 0

just keep on doing what your doing. Good luck with the realtionship

2007-04-27 13:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by didaforeva 2 · 1 0

tell him to get herpes 2 IgG and IgM blood test...this will show if he has ever had it...................good luck..........

2007-04-27 13:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Steve B 6 · 0 0

cut it off and get him a strap on.
...seriously.

2007-04-27 14:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by divo j 1 · 0 0

get rid of him and his std you do not need that

2007-04-27 13:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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