I recently found out that I have HPV...which in case some of you don't know, is the "common cold" of STDs. Somehow everyone at work has found out about my having the virus. I have been through a lot lately, and am not sure where to go from here. A little over a week ago I had a miscarriage, and i need the support of my coworkers now more than ever. But I was told today that there are a few of them that have been talking behind my back, saying that I shouldn't have been sleeping around when I was yonger, and that they want to get the shot to prevent them from "catching' the virus. My husband tells me not to worry about them, but they are like my family...and are some of what I thought to be my best friends. So I don't know if I should just let it go, or take this chance to educate them. Please help if you can...
2007-04-24 13:28:38 · 10 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I'm not exactly sure how they found out...the doctor called me at work to tell me what was going on and I was very upset when they told me. So I was crying and had to tell my boss what was going on so I think that the rest of the girls overheard. It's kind of hard to avoid them...I am a hair dresser and there are only 10 of us in the salon...
2007-04-24 13:46:06 · update #1
Sorry to hear about your situation.
Coworkers are the last place that I would look for support -- expect where it is directly related to work. I find it is important to have clear boundaries between who you consider friends and who are coworkers.
I wouldn't educate them anyways. You leave yourself in a difficult position. If you are ever considered for a promotion, performance appraisal, or a coworker who just dislikes you, you now give them information that could affect your future.
I keep work and private separate.
Cut your losses and find some true friends who will be respectful of you and the the issues that you face.
2007-04-24 14:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HPV is very common among women. Do not worry, it is normal. Many people do not know they have had it since sometime it is sleep and it is invisible. The warts may go away on its own and recovery, go away, recovery, etc.
HPV is known to 120 type strains but 37 are known to sexual transmitted disease with high contagion. It would be spreaded through skin to skin contact with infected area during sexual intercourse, especially for genital area. So you should be careful when you have sexual intercourse with your husband. It is reported condom is not the 100% effeciency stopping people from HPV since it is impossible to cover all the infected area.
Try to do more self-educated and researches. You will find you are not the only one who have had it. There are a online community for Herpes, HPV people to share the experience, see how they work: http://www.positivesingles.com/blog/mala_11
2007-04-25 18:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, your co-workers are not your friends. Find friends OUTSIDE of work. They shouldn't know your business. Sounds like you have a good man. Listen to him. Just ignore them and let it go. If it makes you feel better, get some information on the internet printed up, or see if your doc has literature you can give to them.
2007-04-24 13:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hon...if they are talking about you behind your back...then they are NOT your true friends. Trust me! Also, if someone is dumb enough to talk about you for that...then they are just that...DUMB! Get some more friends. Or maybe you should let them grow up a bit!
I'm sorry for your loss. Keep your head up and realize that everything will eventually be okay.
2007-04-24 13:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by ascloud@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Your past is behind you, so let it go. You seem to have a loving husband who does not make a big deal about it. Just be strong and don't lower yourself to their level. You have people that love you, surround yourself with them. Don't let anybody bring you down.
Besides, why should you care if people are talking behind me back. I don't like people who talk behind your back so I could care less what they think.
Just be strong.
2007-04-24 13:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by kyl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to grow up or you won't associate with them any longer! How would they feel if the shoe was on the other foot and they were dealing with something like this?
2007-04-24 13:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by goddessbella77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE BEST THING TO DO IS JUST DON'T PAY THEM ANY MIND BECAUSE THERE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE SOME ONE WHO THINKS THEY ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN EVERY ONE ELSE SO I SAY JUST QUIT TALKING TO THE ONES THAT ARE TALKING ABOUT YOU
2007-04-24 13:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by slick o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up the facts of HPV and tape it to the bastards cubicles from " a friend " of yours and act surprised about it. they don't know the facts. just curious, how did they find out?
2007-04-24 13:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would take this as an oppurtunity to educate everyone! screw what they think!
2007-04-24 13:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl41_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>Unless your (female) co-workers are all virgins, they too most likely have HPV.<
2007-04-24 13:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Druid 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋