We will shortly be having a housewarming party, but a guy I work with has invited himself and his partner?

Question

But no-one coming to the party likes them including us. Do we just tell him not to come he is not welcome??? Help.

He has been badgering other guests to get our address. His partner of 2 weeks is a violent drunk. That is why no-one invites them to parties. He usually turns up drunk in the first place and then trashes your place.

The house only holds so many. We have invited a couple of people from each department not everyone.

Answer 1

You could have a decoy party with people you dont like. Then when they show up and see's that no one is there, they will leave. Make it really bad by serving burt cassorole and get a friend to show up as a really bad clown. Then if any of the decoy party friends find out later about the real party just explain it to them that the place was so small you decided to have two parites so every one could come. No one is offended and especially at work that is a good thing.

Added benifit if you show them a real lousy time at the fake party maybe they wont want to hang out with you anymore.

Answer 2

Since he has been presumptuous and invited himself, because you have to work with him, unfortunately there's not much you can do now. If you elected to tell him he is not welcome, now, will just make you out the 'bad guy'. With luck they won't stay long and leave. I would also suggest if anyone confronts you and ask why you invited him, I would keep quiet about the circumstances he is there (shrug your shoulders)- at least until after the party. This is because if anyone has too much to drink and blabs your true feeling about him being there, then this could spoil the whole night for you and other party guests. Just try and take it all with a grain of salt and enjoy your night in your new house with your friends and don't let the situation get you down. Good luck and have fun.

Answer 3

I'm thinking that since the person you are working with obviously heard about your upcoming party thru the grapevine or continued references to it and thought you'd be as welcoming to him and his partner as you are to the rest of the group. In fact, I'll bet that he has absolutely no idea that he is the brunt of gossip and the dislike of everyone else coming to your party, which is unfortunate because then he might know that he will certainly be the brunt of even more gossip after the event for even showing up! So, here's the deal.....take the high road. Which means that you cease saying crummy things about him to your co-workers and friends, that you graciously accept his self-proclaimed invite, and treat him well while he is in your new home. You don't ever have to socialize with him again, but you can at least demonstrate integrity and grace where he's concerned in this thing.

Answer 4

Okay, not one person has suggested this, but I will tell you exactly what I would do...
I would allow them to come. It being a working relationship, asking him not to come will only make your work environment extremely uncomfortable afterwards.
But I will tell you what...at the first sign of obnoxious behavior, I would have no problem asking them to leave. I can put up with someone misinterpreting an invite, but under no circumstance will I allow them to trash my home, or make my other guests uncomfortable.
If they go so far as to make a scene, then you have every right to do what you have to, to remove them, work situation or not.
Period.
Good luck to you and I hope it all works out well!
Congrats on your new place, by the way!!!

Answer 5

First, talk to this person before the party and tell him that the party is private, and you're sorry, but neither he nor his partner are invited. Also tell him that if he does show up uninvited, you'll refuse entry to him. The idea is to be polite, but firm.

While you might not want to have a witness to your discussion, it might be advisable. If you have one, I'd suggest having your supervisor present.

Don't feel as if you're being rude to him. It's your party and your house, so your guests are your own choice.

Answer 6

I think it would be rude to ask him not to come. If he invited himself he must be somewhat friendly towards you or at least interested in being friends. Let them come you'll probably get a nice gift out of it if nothing else. Good luck does sound like an awkward situation.

Answer 7

I would put up with having him there since you have to work with him but one wrong move such as too much to drink,loud and obnoxious,or trashing your house and I would tell them they have to leave immedietly.

I hate it when people invite themselves to things without being officially invited.I think that's very bold.However,since you work with him that is what I would do.
Good Luck and have a great house warming party.

Answer 8

Heaven forbid you might have to deal with someone at a party that you don't like. Look, it's work, you make concessions for your livelihood. That includes unfortunate guests at parties. Just keep a beer in his hand, be nice, and welcome yourself to the real world. It's a housewarming party, not a wedding.

Also, hint to him that you need a juicer.

Answer 9

I carry some delicious hen salad and 3 bottles of champagne and that i will organize a activity with music, perchance musical chairs in case you do no longer techniques. i will gown up particularly colourful and humorous if it particularly is okay. carry some photos from my holiday too, no longer too lots as i do no longer elect to bore every person. so as this is it.

Answer 10

I would tell him not to come he is not invited. I would tell him that you don't like drunk people and no booze will be served.

Good Luck.