Just agreed with my husband to have an open marriage, what do you think?

Answer 1

Then why be married at all?

This is especially bad if there are children to consider.

So your husband wanted to be able to screw around openly, and you let him? If the marriage has lost that much respect between it's partners, I would have gone for divorce instead.

Answer 2

who initiated the "open marriage" concept, him? Maybe he has an affair and wanted to legalize it. Open marriages do not work in the long run. You will be open and exposed to the "outside world". You run the risk of stumbling into someone else. with an open mind, you are more likely to entertain this new guy. The same goes for your husband. That will make the fiber of your bond very weak and susceptible. But if at the end of the day, you end up in each other's arms again, that feeling of regret will linger on. Think it over and over again. You still have the option of recalling your agreement. Dont do something you may regret in the end. Cheers! Have a good one!

Answer 3

i would be cautious. i think i largely depends on why you are doing this!?

are you both just so securely and happy in love that you dont think this decision will be a threat to your relationship?

are you doing this because you are not getting what you want from your partner and are just too scared to move on? therefore agreeing to open relationship to get the best of both worlds?

personally i could not imagine having an open relationship. i love my partner so much that it would break my heart to know he was seeing other people.

i am in no way religious but a marriage is supposed 2 people being faithful. thats 2 not 3 or 4 or howver many people it may take for your relationship too be a happy one. if you are both looking else where and you are perfectly happy to let your partner see other women you cannot be truley happy in your exisiting relationship. if you were then why do you need to see other people.?

its sounds like a couple has givn up on the relationship but they are still friends and do not want the hassle and heartache of a real split.

Answer 4

Hmmm - well i say good luck! It doesnt work in most cases as at some point jealously will creep in and casue pain and upset....if you're asking what other people think, i'd say that ur not completely convinced yourself...it'll NEVER work if you do this kind of thing just to make someone else happy. If you're doing it to save an unhappy marriage i doubt it'll work i am afraid as introducing more people into the melting pot will just confuse and prolonge the issue! Sorry but i really dont think its a good idea. But its fundamentally your choice so if You and You husband BOTH want it as much as the other, then go for it!!!! Hope it all goes well for you both xxxxx Remember - just practice safe sex!!!!

Answer 5

Well personally speaking - I think it was a stupid thing to do - how can you be ok with your husband sleeping around with other women? It sounds as though he iniated this form of marriage - and that you are not 100% happy with it.
If it was a case of you both wanting this type of arrangement- like many couples do , the I guess it would be more ameniable to you - but from reading your question I dont think this is what you want at all - and shouldn have agreed to it
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Answer 6

open marriages usually end in divoce. Ive seen it happen,
fantacy is great but you have to leave it at that. Or you will be
very heartbroken! My husbasnd and i explore through friends on computer with web cam, but we don't know them and they
will never meet us in person. Just saw a friend of mine"s marriage break up because of open marriage and they've been together 12 years. I hear about it all the time! My
x marriage ended because oof that. It"s very dangerous and
people get hurt. So BEWARE, you can bet on disasterand
why does he want that? your his wife he should stand by you!
Plus with all the vd"s in this world if he sleeps around you could be sleeping with a lot of people that may have something.Be careful and dump his *** if yours isn't enough!
He wan"t his cake and eat it too, don't put up with it!
I"m sure yor worth more than that, hope this helps. Stay safe and good luck:)

Answer 7

Tread very carefully. It may well sound OK in a calm and reasonable conversation but what when one of you is sitting at home and starts wondering what the other is up to? The imagination starts working overtime and jealousy kicks in. Jealousy is the most corrosive and uncontrollable of emotions. If you can deal with all that go for it but don't think it will be easy.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

Most of your answers seem to be negative, but this is only a social inhibition. If you both make that decision, and have relationships with other people independently on a relaxed arrangement, I see no problems. But you must communicate with each other - not necessarily about those other relationships, but to retain your own links in your marriage. Your other relationship partners must realize the situation, and not get too precious about it. It's a big responsibility, taking this on, but many people make it work for the rest of their very fulfilled lives.

Answer 9

I think your marriage is finished then. Why bother to get married in the first place? Infidelity whether mutual or not, is still infidelity and will bring on lack of trust, that is if ever there was any in the first place.
Before the year is out, one of you will have packed your bags and gone, I'd put money on it.

Answer 10

Just the facts--I've never known anyone who successfully managed a healthy "open relationship" (despite a few having tried), nevermind an open marriage. It's just a psychological minefield. I'd seek couples counseling. Do you have kids?