I like a muslim man but wont dare to tell friends and family i like a muslim man cause im ashame he's muslim

Question

I never been attracted to muslim man, but this muslim man is sooo good looking.

Do u think its stupid of me to feel the way i feel?

Answer 1

Ignore the haters above this answer and listen up.

I have the pleasure, and privilege of being involved with a wonderful loving young man (who I sure as all heck would not kick out of bed for eating crackers), who is Middle Eastern and Muslim. I have little exposure to Islam as a faith, and am enjoying the experience of learning about this part of him. I read the Koran, stick Post It Flags over passages I have questions about, and pin him down with them every so often. He’s patient with me and my questions, and does not hesitate to break out with questions of his own which I try to answer honestly and truthfully.

He has some customs and Ideas that do take getting used to. But largely, he doesn’t drink, or eat pork. He doesn’t lie, cheat or steal. He treats his parents right, takes care of his family and hopes to make a family of his own someday. He has chosen to abstain until he is married, which I am enjoying immensely as it gives me a chance to pick apart and probe him mentally, allowing me to learn what I need to know about him faster and more efficiently than I have with previous live-in relationships. We talk, enjoy each other’s company, share an addiction for Starbucks, and I always look forward to seeing him.

Some of the odder things I’ve had to adapt to: 1. His prayer schedule. Muslims pray five times a day. None of the prayer periods is overly time-consuming (Usually between five and ten minutes) but the last one is at 7ish. That makes for a fairly late dinner for us. 2. Not being with him during “That Time of The Month.” Mind you, in this, I think Mohammed was a wise wise man who knows that all women go a little batty while this is going on. In America, we’re raised to not let this interfere with our routine at all, much less talk about it with someone we’re dating. But it is either disrespect him and his faith, or let him know that a natural and normal process is going on. I’ll take the latter. 3. His Diet. It’s not an overt inconvenience, but it definitely makes for a challenge when ordering pizza. 4. Not being alone with him. We always go to public places, or, if we go to his place, his brother is there. It doesn’t interfere with our getting to know each other at all; it simply precludes anything inappropriate going on.

I’ve found, the simplest solution to our differences is a mutual respect and desire for understanding.

As far as the beating goes.. Doesn’t happen any more so among Muslim men than among Christian ones. He would never raise a hand to me, he is such a peaceable and non-aggressive person. Four wives? Mine will tell you he can’t afford one, let alone four; but that the taking of another wife is not something done just to be done. There are very specific reasons behind it.. for example if his first wife was unable to have children, he might..with her permission, take a second wife to have children. Or if his first wife committed adultery, he might, in an effort to show mercy, keep her as his wife (She could not be punished by men from outside of her home if she is married) but being wounded and betrayed and unable to trust her, he would take another wife who he could trust to manage the home and affairs. The haters paint this image of an abaya-clad harem of women who hide their bruises behind the black robes. The reality is that most Muslim men only have one wife, she is not a whole lot different from an American wife, like all women she mouths off, is opinionated, expressive, and animated. She works just as hard as he does to manage and maintain their home and family. She can go to work, or stay home as income and desires allow. The two are respectful of each other, love each other, and desire to please each other.

Moon God? Please. That like saying Mexican Catholics worship a different God because they use the word “Dios” for God. Allah is simply how you say “God” in Arabic. That’s it. Want proof? Get an Arabic translation of the Bible. Ask a Coptic Catholic. (A division of Christianity prominent in Egypt)..they use “Allah” to say “God” as well. And don’t even get me started on the misquotes and incredibly inaccurate translations used in Juniper’s answer.

Hate is for the anti-Christians and the Anti-Americans. America is a country founded on the ideal of tolerance and understanding, and Christianity tore the curtain separating men asunder to unite them in the compassion of God. Islam.. honestly.. is an extension of that, a reordering and reprioritizing of things religious and faithful. See the Koran as an extension of the Bible and Torah…not as a counter to it.

Answer 2

It is stupid for u to feel ashamed. It is even more stupid for u 2 express it. How would u feel if someone says he/she is afraid 'cos u are Christian or something? Ask youself why anyone would feel ashamed for just one reason-he is a Muslim? Why bother with this psychological slavery when u know that Islam cannot be wished away and there is nothing u can do 2 stop it and also u cannot stop Muslims from being Muslims no matter your feelings?

Answer 3

u feel this way because of how the government in the UK and US are portraying Islam i presume... what is there to be ashamed of? as a muslim, im trying to understand ur point of view.. and i know how people seem to think that muslims are terrorists etc.. but u really shouldnt worry.. the majority of muslims are very nice people.. just like people from any other religion. there's good and bad everywhere. if you're ashamed that he is muslim, then i doubt that a relationship could be formed.

Answer 4

yeah it is definitely stupid to be ashamed. Why do you keep referring to him as a muslim man, first off he has a name and introduce him to your family as a person, not some muslim guy. love is about happiness with someone else, if you have feelings for him who cares about what other people think, its your life, make yourself happy.

Answer 5

I guess, your parents needs to understand more about Islam, and what it offers then saying no to you for not becoming a Muslim. This is difficult since your parents don't know much about our religion, which is Islam. If you like the religion. I say, go for it.

Answer 6

there is nothing wrong if u like a muslim man. just let him meet with your parent once and then let them decide. i think there wont be any problem, its just a religion just like cristainity, and when muslims dount mind marrying cristain why would we.and be relax there is nothing to be ashamed of,if u really love that guy then there shouldnt be any question of shame.

Answer 7

The very fact you are ashamed that he is a Moslem is very bad. He will probably not accept this, Moslem's are proud of their religion, and he would certainly not want to deny his religion, this would be robbing him of his identity.

Frankly, I dont understand why you are ashamed of him being Moslem. The majority of them are very decent people and their religion preaches only tolerance and respect. It is just unfortunate that a handful of fundemantalists skew God's words into something they are not and use it as an excuse to rage war against the Western Infidels. But then this happens all across the board, Christianity, Judaism, there are foolish fundamentalists in all religions.

Answer 8

test the water as to speak with this chap and see how things go
if good then approach your friends and family, and read the family way of life for a Muslim woman

Answer 9

Hormones are on overdrive, clit is standing at attention, but brain is turned off. Is it possible that you are ovulating?

Being ashamed of and defining this man only by his looks and religion is pretty shallow.

Answer 10

If you're ashamed he's Muslim, than you need to NOT let it go any further than your personal thoughts.

His religion is probably a very deep part of his life, and it would be wrong of you to even consider a relationship with him when you're ashamed of something that's probably very important to him.