Were you extremely excited or extremely panicked before you were married? I have 20 days until I am married, and I'm really excited but scared in a way. I was married once before, and it wasn't so great. I've known the person I'm marrying for many years and I know he is nothing like that, but I'm thinking it's human nature to be cautious and suspicious. For those of you who are remarried, how long after your divorce did you remarry? Were you anxious? Did you pray about it?
2007-04-22 23:11:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He's my best friend of 10 years. So, I know him very well which is why I say my fears are unfounded, but it's just human nature to feel hesitation when you've been through something bad.
2007-04-22 23:21:08 · update #1
The first time I married I was young and I felt anxious and nervous. Something did not feel right even on the day we married but I stupidly went through with it anyway. We ended up divorcing 7 years later. I waited 4 years to remarry. I did not feel anxious this time, I felt very peaceful and happy. I knew deep in my heart that I found the perfect man for me this time. He is more than my husband, he is my best friend and my soul mate. He is my everything.
Relax, you have so much on your plate right now. Do pray about it and let Allah guide you. Best wishes.
2007-04-23 00:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I didn't pray about it because I was not saved at the time, but I thank the Lord for both of us being (saved) born again now and I thank the Lord that I have a wonderful, caring and good Christian man for a husband. I was not scared of getting married. If there had been any fear, the marriage would not have taken place.
2007-04-23 06:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I really think that the expectations of others can tend to get in the way. People have all sorts of reasons for arranging marriage. Pray to God for assistance to look after you.
1 Corinthians 3:16, 17
16 Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit dwells in your midst? 17 If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy that person; for God's temple is sacred, and you together are that temple.
2007-04-23 06:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Christian person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 20 days until you are remarried and you are asking if you should pray about it? That's scary. You should have prayed about it before you started dating this person. Are you both saved? What happened to your first marriage? Have you been through some good premarital counseling to go through any issues you may have? If you are asking these questions you are not ready to be remarried and depending on the circumstances of your divorce it may not be biblical for you to marry again. You need to talk to a born again pastor and figure all this out before you take this step.
2007-04-23 06:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by CaTcHmEiFuCaN 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I was excited and nervous and anxious all the same time.
My husband was my best friend for 6 months before he "proposed." He's my first husband so I can't answer your second question.
Don't be nervous about the past my friend, God will handle it! :)
Hey random note - I LOVE to hear about the traditions and practices done during an Islamic wedding!
2007-04-23 08:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was nervous, but it turned out to be the best decision I ever made. Sit down and write out the good, and bad points, and see if your fear is rational or just butterfly's.
2007-04-23 06:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Robert S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for 35 years. I am in no hurry to make that mistake again. Be sure you know him well and have look at how his father treats his mother. That will tell you more than you know.
2007-04-23 06:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was all the above. Excited, panicked, scared etc. . . not to mention extremely naïve.
2007-04-23 06:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kedar 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with ur marriage, I hope it goes well for u and u will both be happily married together forever. Ameen :-)
2007-04-23 06:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
may you have a successful marriage.Ameen
and don't worry inshallah everything will work out.
2007-04-23 06:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋