I broke up with my now ex today. He is a really good man and I really care for him. It was incredibly painful. I still have deep feelings for another man and i know that i will be able to love again i just didnt feel that i could ever love him (my now ex)enough in that way to make me or him happy. He was a very good man though the type you dont come across very often. Is it normal to feel unsure and remorseful of a decison like this.
2007-04-22 23:09:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep especially you were saying he's the type whom you rarely come across. why broke up with such goodluck? Is it too late now to kiss & make up?
Well, every break up is hard and getting over it depends on the reasons behind the split. If he broke it up due to other woman involved,you can use that to add zest to your life by vowing to become better so that he will see what he missed provided you weren't anyhow a burden to him during your relationship. While if you were the culprit in breaking up the chain & you're now regretting it, keep your chin up. Stand by your decision unless you want to get down on your knees just to win him back. Either way, it entails both sacrifices. Losing the person or swallowing your pride. You choose.
2007-04-22 23:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is very normal. Not so much regret, but doubting yourself. You went with you gut, something was missing, and you absolutely did the right thing by breaking it off now before it got worse. You can think she is a great girl and all but if the feelings aren't there, then there is no point of a relationship. If you stayed in it, it would be like you guys were just friends and thats all and thats no good. You may also be feeling bad for her which is also normal but you can't let that make you second guess the choice you made. Again, breaking it off now was the most fair thing you could have given her because now she can find someone who will fall in love with her. She will be ok, and so will you.
2016-04-01 03:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, I know how u feel I have a very similar situation in my life at the moment. I wouldn't rush out looking for love though, even with this other guy. You need time to find yourself again. Have time on your own and then you will be able to decide what you want out of life.
Good luck xx
2007-04-22 23:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Vixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good move!!!! You are one of the smart ones. Too many people jump into marriage thinking that marrying them will make them more desirable. If it is not right, and you know it, please give it up and find true happiness before you end up with children. Children are always the casualty of broken marriages. If you can't consider your own feelings think of your future children.
Sorry I got on my soapbox, but I just think that it is a shame how many children are suffering from broken homes because the parents jumped in too quickly. I wish someone had told me that before I got married. My kids would not have suffered so badly.
2007-04-22 23:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your unsure of what ya did and maybe ya really do love him. look at your feelings once again maybe your not feeling remorse but pity for him! sounds like hes a great guy but shoulda been friends only... too late now tho. also work on one guy at a time thats what you should be working on... decide which one ya really want
2007-04-22 23:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by cinsjunglejim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course is very normal to feel unsure for this decision.If you start living with the other guy i'm sure that you will be sure after that.You will be sure only if living with the other guy is better than the previous.So, if it is worse you will regret your action.But go on you will finally find what ever you are looking for.....
2007-04-22 23:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by john m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No regrets please. What we are doing is karma. If we are doing right, we will reap fruits of it and we are doing wrong, we will reap hurt and pain. So if it will be happiness or regrets and remorse will be clear in the future. Though, I wish you sow good to reap happiness and joy in the future.
2007-04-22 23:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to what you just said. You didnt feel you could love him so something was missing. Better to do it now than later. This feeling will fade in time. Better this than drag him along making you both miserable
2007-04-22 23:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by colesey72 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you might not should have done it. Hope the other guy is worth it. Maybe down deep inside you know you messed up.
2007-04-22 23:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal to regret in the end. That's why before making decision you should think twice.
2007-04-22 23:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋