Quick question on marriage?

Question

I know somebody who is married to a man who is not that great. Recently they had a big fight and he left his briefcase on the porch. When she figured out the code (she had to, apparently, since he was so mysterious about it) she found inside documents of another man's name in his handwriting. What would religion tell you to do? How should she go about investigating this?

She found safe deposit box keys signed in his handwriting but a different name. And her husband is abusive. She had reason to see what he was hiding.

Answer 1

she should confront him(she should also let a friend know what she's about to do to be safer just in case). at the end of the day they are married, and the best way to keep a relationship going is by being honest with each other. if he's an idiot in the first place and not that great with her, she should leave him...what's the point of living an unhappy life with someone that brings you down? is not about religion is about leading a happy life.

Answer 2

Why would you leave your briefcase on the porch in the first place?

Here is the description of how human beings tend to idolise each other. It's really not all that nice. I don't know what people expect from others, but it's not reasonable most of the time, I think.
Romans 1:21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal human beings and birds and animals and reptiles.

She seems to rest her hopes of wellbeing in material things. Is she married to her husband, or his stuff? I don't know which religion this is, but a good dose of humility might come in handy, although most people don't seem to know what that is either. There is nothing that's worth putting in front of being constantly ready for change.
Matthew 24:40 Two men will be in the field; one will be taken and the other left. 41 Two women will be grinding with a hand mill; one will be taken and the other left.
42 "Therefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will come. 43 But understand this: If the owner of the house had known at what time of night the thief was coming, he would have kept watch and would not have let his house be broken into. 44 So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect him.

Answer 3

Curiosity can be a terrible thing indeed,the lady had no right to pry into her husbands briefcase in the first place,this was wrong,and now she is left with a bigger problem than before.
As a Christian I would have to say that now this has happened she should be honest and confess what she did and then hope that a sensible explanation and conversation happen.

Answer 4

God Kills an Extended Family

"You have done more evil than all who lived before you. You have made other gods and have made me furious with your gold calves. And since you have turned your back on me, I will bring disaster on your dynasty and kill all your sons, slave or free alike. I will burn up your royal dynasty as one burns up trash until it is all gone. I, the LORD, vow that the members of your family who die in the city will be eaten by dogs, and those who die in the field will be eaten by vultures.'" Then Ahijah said to Jeroboam's wife, "Go on home, and when you enter the city, the child will die. All Israel will mourn for him and bury him. He is the only member of your family who will have a proper burial, for this child is the only good thing that the LORD, the God of Israel, sees in the entire family of Jeroboam. And the LORD will raise up a king over Israel who will destroy the family of Jeroboam. This will happen today, even now! Then the LORD will shake Israel like a reed whipped about in a stream. He will uproot the people of Israel from this good land that he gave their ancestors and will scatter them beyond the Euphrates River, for they have angered the LORD by worshiping Asherah poles. He will abandon Israel because Jeroboam sinned and made all of Israel sin along with him." (1 Kings 14:9-16 NLT)

Answer 5

Call the cops and let him sit in jail for fraud, then pray that he gets better and repents this terrible sin of a lie called forgery.

Answer 6

If she thinks that she has to go behind his back like this, she doesn't have enough respect for him to be worthy of marriage.

If he has done something wrong, please say so. From your description, he's done nothing but piss her off.

If your religion convinces you to suspect people in your own family for as little as this, dump your religion and take care of your family.

Answer 7

A certain topic has come up that has been on my mind quite frequently over the past few days. This topic is; the validity of the belief that God creates humans specifically for each other. I.e. Bob for Grace and Tom for Judy. The idea that when God made you, He had one specific other person that He made for you, and you for them.

The predominant counter belief is that there are "kinds" or "types" of people that God created to work well together. And that’s as good as it gets. I could write many paragraphs on why all the other theories are wrong, but I will try to refrain and stick to my own beliefs. the Other counter question that I have heard is; "...if Bob lived his life horribly, sleeping around, dating around and ultimately marrying a likewise horrible person and Grace lived her life in God's presence saving herself for the one she was made for. But misses out because if Bob... how could God let that happen? How is that fair?" Well, its not, but I feel as if I am getting ahead of myself.

Let’s start here. To understand where I come from, a couple assumptions must be made. A. God exists and He created everything in nature; from flowers to mountains to human beings. And every intricate detail was His idea and His plan. B. God is perfect. He knows everything before it happened. He knew that we, His creations, would reject Him and in turn have to pay the price. But He also thought of the "back up plan" that we are living in now. Thanks to His son.

So with that said, these are my arguments. Like I said, God is perfect and His plans are perfect. Ephesians 1:11 says "In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will," I don't believe God has plans that are open ended. Most people would agree with that. So why would I assume He doesn't have a very specific person in mind for me? He "works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will!"

Second, is this. If you look in creation, there are so many pictures of Christ's intent for us. If you were to look in the Bible, you should notice the picture of a Bride and Bridegroom used a couple times. I think this is no mistake. Christ refers to us as His bride, and He our bridegroom. We are to be spotless, and set apart for HIM AND HIM ALONE. Not Buddha or the Dalai Llama or John Smith or Muhammad. To see Christ go to such great heights to show us this picture is interesting to me. I think I cheat Him to cut His involvement in my future marriage down to just Him, blessing two of His creations that happened to find each other and work well together.

This leaves a question. If my belief is indeed right, then how does the whole Bob and Grace thing work out? How is it fair? And why does Grace have to pay for Bob's mistakes? There are no easy answers. The fact is we live in a world where innocent people reap the pain and suffering of other's mistakes everyday. The best example is 9/11. Or how about that guy who drinks way too much at the bar, and tries to drive home, and in the process, killing an expectant mother and leaving a reeling twenty-something year old widower? We live in a sinful, fallen world. Life's not fair. So why should relationships be? If you think about it though, We as Christ followers are living out God's back-up plan. God's original intent is clearly seen in the beginning of creation. Adam walked openly with Christ in the Garden. An unhindered, unashamed and unsecretive relationship and communion with Him. That is His creation as He intended! We all know we don't live there anymore, and God's son ended up dying to commence God's back up plan. And what a wonderfully, potentially fulfilling, joyful, peaceful existence! So my question is why can't He give Grace or anyone else who missed out on their perfect mate a blessed life beyond anyone’s wildest dreams?

So, in conclusion, I am convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that perfect matches exist.

Just my jumbled thoughts. Cheers.

Answer 8

Your English is a little off, I don't understand the question? Try again will you?
Peace....

Answer 9

I don't understand the question.

Answer 10

dump your religion and take care of your family.