Why do women ALWAYS think we are hitting on them when we talk to them?

Question

I always enjoyed the company of women and always when I walk up to a girl and talk to her they think I am flirting. Why can I have casual conversation with men but not with women?

Reason I ask now is: I am good friends with one of my girlfriend friends and this is causing tension in our relationship because 'i must have subconscious feelings etc...' I do care about this friendship and I don't want to end it because of irrational behavior.

Women please, why do you always think our attraction to you is always physical?

Answer 1

sometimes it depends on the way u talk and the words u use.

Answer 2

Well, I have the opposite problem, I never think a guy chatting with me is anything OTHER than just casual conversation. (*laughter*) Can't begin to describe all the problems that's caused over the years.

Anyway, not ALL women think every casual conversation is an invitation to a deeper, more meaningful relationship.

All you can do is to tell her, honestly,that you adore her as friend, and you do have feelings about her, but they are very conscious ones. Explain to her that you're a guy, and pretty much what you feel is what you feel, you aren't hiding anything. You love her friendship, and having a female friend who you can just relax and be yourself with.

Either she'll accept it, or she won't.

I have been friends for 10 years with a guy, and he gave me the "I don't become romantically involved with friends because the friendship is more important to me than the possibility of romance" speech. It was cute, and I nearly died laughing, especially since I was seriously involved with a man at the time he delivered the speech.

Now, I've wondered about our relationship from time to time, however, I really adore him as a friend, so I decided not to even take that mental trip. At this point, we finish each others' sentences, like the same things, and are incredibly supportive of each other. I can even say to him "You know, I really do love and adore you." and he doesn't even flinch anymore because he knows it's not a romantic declaration.

We're more like siblings at this point. It can happen, it just depends on your level of honesty and whether or not she can cope with it.

Answer 3

It sounds like you may have a bit of the "I'm God's Gift to Women," testosterone syndrome affecting your brain. Women do not ALWAYS think that men are hitting on them whenever words are exchanged. Maybe the closeness between you and this girlfriend as you call her are triggering things for you.

How about you stop making blanket statements about ALL women and focus on your relationship with this "girlfriend" and her "irrational" behavior, also ask yourself if you may be the one being irrational.

And while you're at it......Get over yourself!

Answer 4

Hey, if you want to keep your friendship alive the best advice is keep her out of your sex life until at least she signals in no misunderstandable words that you are her choice for romance and marriage... good luck... Let us know what happens and how you have dealt your romance game deck... remember you have just one Ace up Your sleeve but She has the other three

Answer 5

Maybe you don't have enough boundaries?
Men and women operate differently.
If you are way full on, the message is gonna get mixed.
But hey, most of my male friends do have a crush on me, *sigh*

Answer 6

Because too many men are not like you--they are like randy dogs. Sooner or later we get suspicious of the motives of all. It sucks, but there it is.

Answer 7

They think men think about nothing else. Well I was horny all last week. I wasn't thinking about intellectual convo. So they're probably right.