Would you be upset if you son or daughter tells you they are gay?

Question

It would not be an issue for me.
Love is unconditional and I think there is no difference between being gay or straight, in terms of people's morality so the only thing i would ever fear is bigotry from christians?

Answer 1

Not the least tiny bit. I'd prefer they be out and live a normal life, being honest to the world than feeling they have to hide due to fear of harm from the religious folk. And I'd support him 100 percent of the way.

Answer 2

No. And not even the bigotry from Christians would I fear. It's none of their business to begin with. And if they harmed any of my children for being gay - it's me they better fear.

Edited: FreeBubba - One cannot compare unconditional love with a child being gay and divorces. Not in reality anyway. Because for one gay is not a choice. For two - would you like to remain in an abusive relationship, even as it continues to escalate? Even marriages have ended in divorce because one of the partners has always been gay trying to live with traditional expectations of friends, and family. But these are only a few of the reasons, and a couple of them address divorces. Still it doesn't mean that they have stopped loving each other, just can't continue to live with each other.

Answer 3

I think that most parents would be upset by it. Some would be furious and stop talking to that child. Others would be upset but make their peace with it and remember that they love that child unconditionally. Me personally, I feel that being gay is a form of mental disability and that people need to accept that 99% of all gay people are that way from birth. Think about a hetero-sexual, did they choose to be that way or was it just their natural evolution? Same applies to gay people, they don't need to be reminded that it goes against our Heavenly Fathers wishes, they're constantly being reminded of that. The sexual part of their brain doesn't function on the hetero-sexual wave length so therefore it's a disability, no different that someone with down syndrome, they were born that way.
I would be upset if either of my children were to tell that they were gay but I'd love them no different and make no difference in the way that I treated them. Make no mistake about it though, I would be disappointed in a way that I think lots of others would be.

Answer 4

I'd still love them to peices, but . . . . yeah I'd probably be a little . . . I don't know. I'd have some kind of reaction and ultimately it would be positive, but I'm honestly not sure how well I'd take the immediate confession. I'm not known for my aplomb.

EDIT:
Just so we're clear though. If my kid suffered bigotry I'd tear the wall down with my own hands. If he was assaulted, then god help the person that did it (they'd need it because I would go fugging bat-dooky on them).

Answer 5

I would be sad, but not because they were gay. I would be sad that they would be facing a much harder life in terms of achieving acceptance and not being discriminated against. There are also more hate crimes directed at gay people than straight people (solely considering sexual orientation, of course), and I would be sad that this is something they would have to be wary of. I have no problem with friends or family being gay, but I wouldn't want my child to suffer at the hands of those who do.

Answer 6

Don't you know that there are Christians who have children and relatives that are homosexuals and they still love them very much. Over the years, I have talked with homosexuals and the issues that they deal with and I have seen God work in their lives for the good. Don't put all Christians in one category. There are homosexuals who are in the church who no longer walk that life style and they will tell you they have never regretted taking Christ as their Lord and Savior. Not all of them, but some have.

Answer 7

The only thing that would upset me is the fact that others would make life hard for them! I don't care who you love, just LOVE that person with all of your heart! Be honest,, don't cheat, make it work. Same as anyone else! Too much hipocracy in this world!!!

Answer 8

You should not fear bigotry from Christians, the church is the place for the sinners. I believe that there are people that would be willing to help you with your sin, just like they help the adultery, the murder, the person that steals, etc. all are sins and all need forgiveness. So you need not fear the place that you can find forgiveness. The church is a place for the sick. So feel free to go if you need help. That is what a real church is for. If they are not willing to help you with your sin, find a real Christian Church. We are taught to love the sinner but hate the sin.

Answer 9

Bigotry from christians? There are places in the world where they would KILL you if you announced you were gay. Same goes for being a christian, thousands of us die every year around the globe but nobody mentions it, we are easy targets for our enemies to pick on.

Would it bother me? Yes of course I would get upset. I wouldn't stop loving them though. Did God stop loving me when I did something wrong? Nope. I will not assist them in any matters that has to do with that aspect of their lives, but I am open to assist in the rest. I will not help nor encourage sin.

Answer 10

we fear what we don't know. Only recently has sexual ambiguity and homosexuality been public domain. we can expect that for the next fifty years, homosexuals will struggle for social freedoms the way minorities have throughout history.

This is not what God wants. I believe it is our job as parents to send love, compassion and kindness to our children in the same manner that Jesus Christ did.