i dont know whether what ive did was the dumbest thing or maybe even worse(as 4 me)..today i've decided to return back all of my ex bf pictures(f.y.i broke off 3 years ago)..before i have promise myself not to involve(hear anything from him) about him anymore...but when i found his childhood pictures that was given to me suddenly i felt it isnt right to burn the pictures since that pictures is valuable because we cant go back to our childhood only the pics can take the glimpse of it..so ive post the pics n send to his home address (we're are not in the same state) so ive been thinking bout this the whole day was it right or wrong i return back the pics cause i dont want he to think that i still want to get him(im already engaged) back or more than that..warghhhhhh was it right or wrong (
2007-04-22 19:41:29 · 23 answers · asked by tinkerbellpebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing...110%. Burning his pictures would be wrong because they are of his childhood and precious. It was very wise and kind of you to send them to him and don't worry about him thinking that you might want him back. If he does, then he is insecure and you are in a stable and fulfilling relationship, something that he was obviously unable to have with you. Sending the pictures showed a maturity and understanding that many people lack. So good job, give yourself a pat on the back. These are some extra good Karma points for you.
:)
2007-04-22 19:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by miriam_of_edinburgh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right to send his pictures back. It doesn't mean that you want him back or that you have feelings for him, it just means that you understand how much a picture can mean to someone. Burning it wouldn't take away the pain that he put you through and it wouldn't erase him from your memories, it would just cause you pain to go through ending the relationship again in a ceremonial way. By sending the pictures by post, you are not saying that you can be friends again, but that you don't care enough to come by and deliver them and that it would be worthless to burn them. You just did what you would have wanted him to do in the same situation.
2007-04-22 20:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to return these photographs. However, their return is more likely to signify that you have reached some sort of closure with your relationship rather than expressing a wish to reunite. Ideally you could have enclosed a note saying "I thought you might like these back" or something similarly innocuous. Give the matter no further thought. You have done nothing wrong.
2007-04-22 19:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Returning the pics , was the right thing to do. Now , let that be the end of it. I dont think he will see it , as that you want to get back together. You dont have to answer if he calls.
2007-04-22 19:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were absolutely right as the pic's will always disturb you whenever you will see them.
Moreover, you have done the right thing by returning them back to the guy.
All the best.
Enjoy your married life.
2007-04-22 20:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, never, destroy somebodies history cause you are having a breakup. Just cause your never going to speak to them again is no reason to be impolite. Have your current love object take the pictures over for you, so the point won't be missed, Your unavailable.
2007-04-22 19:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
good choice i dont see how returning anything of an ex could show that you still want them, i would take it as an "i'm over you" but it's really good to see that somebody can come out of relationship without a bitter hatred.
2007-04-22 20:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by lucky- gibbons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not right but it's okay... it just mean that you still have feelings for your ex because you're concerned about his pictures... and you didn't mind spending time to send back all those to him... well, whos to blame? you once had a relationship so it's okay to return his pictures back to him and in fact, it's his pictures. he might use it in the future and share those to his children...
but hey! does your fiance knows about that? he might get mad for afterall those years, and now that you're engaged you just decided to return the pictures and be involved w/ him.
2007-04-22 19:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by chixndstick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who cares about what he thinks now, he's in the past but you did the right thing returning his childhood photos
2007-04-22 19:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by big_round_geriatric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Just because you aren't dating doesn't mean you can't be civil. Smile, just as if you had made a total stranger happy.
2007-04-22 19:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by overlord_grim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋