Usually when my boyfriend doesn't pick up my phone calls I call back over and over, sometimes 20 times until he does. He sees it as cute more than anything else but I guess in a part it's a control thing on my part. What I don't understand though is why he finds it necessary to never pick up on the first call. I just find it strange and sort of inconsiderate, as if he thinks I have nothing better to do. I know I'm enabling him but I just thought that out of love you don't want to drag your partner to the lengths of doing things that I do, rational or not.
2007-04-22 19:32:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are someone that has no self confidence. You call him over and over even though deep inside you must know he is being shady....if you had a good man, he would pick up at the first ring...trust me I know, and they ARE out there. You just keep feeding his confidence by calling over and over and over. If I were a psychic I would predict this relationship aint going too far.....good luck
2007-04-22 19:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay honestly I would have left you by now. 20 times in a row is a bit excessive. I've had friends that had girlfriends that did this and while they told their girls it was cute, like your boyfriend tells you, it drove them nuts. Everyone needs space every now and then. None of those guys are still with those girls. If you have to talk about something important then thats fine, but if its just to say hi, not so cool. It is a terrible control issue and I'm sure he is picking up on it. Most people can handle being controlled by someone they like or love, but it eventually wears out and when you try to cage a beast, it fights like hell to break lose. Good luck.
2007-04-22 19:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the reason for answering a phone is you are busy with something and you cannot pick up the phone immediately that is a valid excuse. But if he keeps the phone ringing and listens to it ring for 20 times or more there must be a problem with him. He might be trying to annoy you or something. You wouldn't normally do that to the person you care about so I think its an irrational thing.
2007-04-22 19:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you call him like 20 times is a row, makes you seem strange to me. You are very clingy and maybe even insecure. You're the one with the problem not your boyfriend, I'm surprised he's still with you.
2007-04-22 19:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a little I don't know what the word would be but close to psyco I guess would be the word. I'm not trying to be sarcastic, it just that its not super bad, but not normal. Most people call once maybe twice and if they don't pick up they leave a message and wait for a call back. He probably does that cause all his friends are around and he wants to show them how whipped up you are on him and how you act a fool.
2007-04-22 19:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should probably stop being so obsessive. Stop calling back. Call once, and leave him alone.
You don't want to do all of the chasing in a relationship.
he probably doesn't pick up on the first call 'cause he doesn't want to talk to you? or he wants to see how many times you'll call back?
2007-04-22 19:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by nattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not a conscious thing that he does just to hurt you and irritate you. Very often it takes my phone ringing loads of times for me to even realise that someone is trying to call me. Sometimes I don't hear it, sometimes I don't feel it vibrating and sometimes I just don't have my phone on me, and so can't hear or feel it. It doesn't mean that hes deliberately waiting until you call him 20 times before he picks up. It could just be that he doesn't realise that you called him 20 times!
2007-04-22 19:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG, you have GOT to give it up. Be mysterious. Be hard to get. Don't keep calling him. That makes you seem worthless and kind of creepy. Don't call him, wait for him to call you. Read "The Rules" and follow them religiously. Otherwise, you'll always be chasing guys and never getting anywhere.
2007-04-22 19:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BACK OFF OF HIM!!
stop being clingy.. insecure. etc. ur gonna scare him away. don't call him for a few days.. the more you talk the more you guys will get bored of eachother. just back off. Make him chase you. make it mysterious. Make him want you. Make him need you. I dare you not to talk to him for a few days.
its being obsessive. stalkerish.
what do you hold his hand while he takes a **** too?. hold his penis while he pisses.?
If you keep on calling him. He will think of you as weak. pathetic. that you don't have a life of your own.
2007-04-22 19:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by Chikia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think for whatever reason he is doing so..it surely is weird. when in a relationship it is rather neccessary for both sides to make an equal effort and value each others time. he sees it as something "cute"? well.seems like you dont..go talk to him fairly about this and if he does value your opinion he will stop being so "inconsiderate"..
2007-04-22 19:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋