should i let him invite them?

Question

even though our wedding isnt year from now, we started talking about who we will be inviting. he wants to invite this couple who he went to school with to come but the problem is, they hate me. they told him how he could do so much better and all and i dont think its right to invite them. Then theres this other girl he wants there and we cant stand each other. she likes him as bf material and shes so rude to me and all these people tell me they dont like me. a wedding is a celebration and am i wrong for wanting them to not come?

i have talked to him about the issue but he still insists that they come. this girl is trying to do whatever it takes for him to leave me and even though i know he wont, wouldnt i mean more to him?

Answer 1

My first impulse was to say no don't invite them but if they really dislike you then it's unlikely that any of them will come to the wedding. For whatever reason these folks are important to him so they should potentially be invited. If they RSVP that they are attending have a talk with him about your concerns.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have been sucked into the drama. Draw a triangle on the floor. Name the players on the points. Then step the hell outta there. They are renting out space in your head girl. You have a wedding to focus on and more importantly a groom. The room could be full of Ronald McDonald look alikes, seriously, and it shouldn't matter. You got yer man. Don't let this HS drama crap of who likes who mess with you. In our family, we split the guest list 3 ways....so the grooms family gets 50 seats, the brides family gets 50 seats and the couple gets to fill 50 seats (or whatever the number). Keep it simple. Make a list of the top 5 things about your wedding day----my guess is that the guest list hardly makes the top 20----(if your groom doesnt make the list, run). Your bridesmaids and ushers wont let anyone mess with your day, neither will the groom or the two families. If you keep your focus on why you are there and what you are doing, they can't get to you. But if you walk around with this awful attitude----it will never end. All the best to you.

Answer 3

No you are not wrong at all. It should be a happy day for you in every way. Personally honey, I would not invite some one to my wedding if they didnt have the best intentions of wishing us well. That is what a wedding is all about. Celebrating your love and having the people thier that support that. You express this to your fiancee regarding the couple that does not like you and hopefully he will understand. Why would they even want to go in that case, if they dont like you 'right'. And as for the other girl, well I would invite her just to rub it in her face, u know
Maybe when she sees that you are married to the one she wants she might wake up and realize that he loves you and has no chance in hell. However if she didnt like me I wouldnt have her there either. Its like why invite people on one of the most important days of your life if you feel they could put a damper on it, Any how early congradulations and I hope this was help ful for you...good Luck shunnydunn

Answer 4

There's an easy way to take care of this: invite these people to your house now, with just you and your bf, perhaps for dinner or a movie or something. If you get to know the couple, maybe they won't hate you. You can invite the woman and invite some eligible guys you know and try to set her up: if she sees you trying to help her, she might appreciate you, or at least she'll show her true colors to your man. Be noble, be kind, and be confident that he loves you and you will prove these people wrong. You can catch more flies with honey, as the saying goes. Also, learn to compromise, it will help your marriage a lot.

Answer 5

I think there are a few things that could happen. First of all, I think you should invite them. They might not come if they don't like you and don't agree with the two of you getting married. If they do show up, kill them with kindness even though you will hate it. You'll love it more seeing how it irritates the crap out of them that you are so nice to them and then also that way your new hubby will see how nice you are being to his friends and so if his friends keep trying to tell him that you aren't good for him, he won't believe them. He'll notice how hard you are trying to make nice with them cause you love him! AND maybe at that point he'll tell them to cut their rude bahavior out or just not come around any more. Who knows?!

Answer 6

You know what? They 'hate you' for a reason. Whether that reason is valid or not doesnt matter, What matters is that you 'allow' your partner to invite them. They will think twice about you if they recieve an invite. If they dont recieve one, they will think what they think about you is correct & will probably moan & groan about you because of that.
You dont even have to acknowledge them on your day, regardless of what they think about you or what you think about them, they are clearly still a part of your partners life so you need to consider that before saying no.
Oh & heck no you are NOT wrong for feeling that way, just think about it some more before you go ahead & deny your partner his friends being there. Who knows, maybe in a years time you will all be great mates? Yeah right, I know it probably wont happen but they might see after a little while that their initial thoughts of you are waaaaay off base ;o)

Answer 7

It's a little too early to be talking about this. It's practically a non issue, and a LOT can change by the time you're ready to send out the invites. My advice is to let it go for now and see what happens. There's plenty of time to discuss it later if it's still an issue. For all you know, they may show their true colors to him and he may not even want to invite them when the time comes, so why fight about it now?

Answer 8

You need to put your foot down. There is no way that I would let my husband invite someone to our wedding that was trying to break us up, or a couple that didn't like me. Your fiance is just being immature and doesn't care about your feelings. Tell him if they were true friends that they would try to get to know you better before making a judgement about you. As for this other girl, just flat out tell him if she shows up at the wedding that you will have her thrown out!

Answer 9

probably 5-10 ladies. Ask her which of them are your perfect acquaintances which you are going to have a reliable time with and not forget approximately approximately. there's a project in you invite 24 ladies. some might experience ignored. additionally ask her which ladies might get alongside and not wreck the social gathering? those are the questions I asked my self while i became into having a birhtday/sleepover. i finished up inviting 7 ladies who have been given alongside, does not wreck the social gathering, and does not experience ignored and have been my perfect acquaintances. wish this permits!

Answer 10

I agree with you. Also adversely, you should show the same respect to him with regard to your people who have said similar things about him. My husband and I decided that our marriage would be tough enough, without the people at our wedding not wishing us well together. We decided to save the money for a home, and just got married by a judge at the local courthouse. We went to the movies, and our wedding cake was fudge brownies from the great American cookie company. That way it was all about us, and not the drama of flowers, cakes, rude friends and in-laws, just what we wanted, and as long as we wanted. We had a nice dinner with my family later that evening (couldn't have his as they live overseas!).