To lose or not to lose my virginity?

Question

im 17 right now, and i told him that when i'm 18, we could do it
i know that's a long time from now, but if we do last (and i think we will ...), would it be ok?

We've been together for a year now, and for some reason I feel grad would be the perfect time

he said he won't pressure me into anything, but a year from now, who knows i might want him badly too

would it be a bad idea? do you think we'd still be together afterwards?

or do you think he'd leave me?

Answer 1

i was 18 when i had sex for the first time and it was great unitl we broke up 11months later i wish i had not done it with that guy now we hate eachother and i tought he was the one when he came back into my life a litle over a year ago i wish i had said no just leave me alone but i thought i still loved him but it was just lust and he broke my heart again . so just wait this may not happen to you but it does happen

Answer 2

It's not a bad idea, as long as you're protected...pill or patch or shot AND a condom. The hormonal forms of birth control have to be used for a few weeks before they're effective, so don't wait until the day you're planning to have sex to go and get protection.

He won't leave you just because you had sex with him...but chances are that the relationship won't last the rest of your life. You may decide to go to school in different places and drift apart, or somthing else may happen.

Some people think they shouldn't have sex with anyone but the person that they marry. Others feel that it's better to have a little experience before marriage, so that they know what's out there and they're not always wondering what sex with another partner would be like. You just have to decide how you feel about it. In the end, you're the only one who knows what's best for you...a bunch of people on the internet can't really make such a personal decision for you.

Answer 3

Girl let me tell you that whenever you feel is the good time, then go for it, it's good though that he is not pressuring you, in most cases guys are the ones pushing you into having sex. It's better to wait though, your not in a rush, are you? as long as you both love eachother is all good, and I don't think that you should worry too much about thinking if you two will still be together or not, what matters is the present and about making the right choices, since you been with him like for a year, it doesn't mean you have to do it. Just do what your heart tells you and Good Luck

Answer 4

This is a question you need to ask yourself hun. All I can tell ya is you need to sit down and think what YOU want to do with your virginity and don't let anything change your mind :) Be strong, maybe he'll leave you maybe he won't hun....but if he leaves you because you don't give him any nookies, well then, he never did love you.Remember you can only give that to one person, once its gone you can't get it back. Think of the seriousness of what you are thinking....If I were you I would not put a set date on it.....when you decide the time is right then you will know.....It may or may not be with him. FYI he sounds like a good man by not pressuring you, but I would talk to my mother....mommas always know best and sweetheart she knows you better than we do. Good luck and if you do decide to do that, then always use protection with non-oxyl 9 spermicide.....be safe :) But from the way it sounds at the moment, no you are not ready....you're questioning yourself too much and not sure about it...when you're ready you will know it. :)

Answer 5

Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm 25 with 5 kids, 2 with a previous marriage and two are from my husband's previous marriage and we have a baby together. i met my first husband when I was 17 and I got pregnant when I was 18 and pregnant again and married him when I was 19. i left him at 22 and got pregnant at 24 and remarried to my TRUE love and best friend at 25. See how fast your life can change from year to year. I love my children to death, but sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I just till i was mature enough to understand the emotions, the responsibility and consequences that come with sex. I know your not me, but I sometimes wish I would have waited. Besides some guys think its a turn on to be a virgins first or a challenge, you never know who is with you for you or the title you carry.

Answer 6

You're too young to be thinking about being in love with someone and giving up your virginity. You should at least wait until you are almost finished with college if not until you get married. Believe me, Ive been fortunate enough to have the priviledge of taking three girls virginity. All I was thinkg about was getting some, you know the word that goes here, and being able to say I was her first. Two of the relationships lasted for about 1 year each. I haven't seen or heard from any of them since high school and college. So don't think you should lose your virginity because you think your relationship "will last" High school romances hardly ever do. Rather you should be thinking about keeping your virginity until you get married.

Answer 7

sex or lets term it making love is an important bond btwn two people. if u thk tht he is mr. right for u and tht he is someone u can trust with ur most precious possession, ur body, thn go ahead. one year from now, two years from now dosn;t matter. But if u thk tht ths may not work even 1% u shud abstain. becoz trust me the first time with the one man is the best and u'll remember it for the rest of ur life. ur neways too young for all this. focus on ur life and career now. give it some time. and if u feel he's the one, then go girl, dnt stop urself, but do remember the condom and some birth control if u get into it regular. u cnt afford a mistake at this point in life, and a child now will be a mistake. all the best.

Answer 8

Well, he waited this long, that's telling me the man is a gentlemen, loves you and therefore he will wait until you are ready.
If at 18 you are not ready, then don't do it! Wait until you are willing and your heart tells you.
I can't see this man dumping you ether way. (Only from what you wrote on your posting).
He may respect the fact he is dating a very special lady, A keeper. (Not many around like you and the man realizes this.)

You will do just fine, if follow your heart, after all you kept it this long, so you have done something right.
Good luck dear and the best.
may I add for 17 years old, you should be very proud of yourself, most today have traded their College Saving for baby needs.

Answer 9

Wait the year, if you feel that he's the right person, go ahead. If after that year you're still unsure, don't have sex. If he leaves you, then you'll know that he's more for the physical than the emotional. Remember birth control and protection, either way. Just wait till it's the right time for YOU - your virginity isn't something you can get back if you change your mind.

Answer 10

I don't know that there is a perfect time. I waited until I was 19, and it *felt* perfect. But it wasn't planned, and thats probably why :) I would say just do what feels right, even though sometimes its hard to know. Theres no way to know when something will last or end, even if you are 100% sure it won't. So make sure you do what you want and not something you feel pressured to do!

Answer 11

Nobody could know the answer to those questions because of all the factors involved. People change with time - feelings change, and it's impossible to predict what the outcome will be. My advice is simply to do what feels right at any given moment, and do not burden yourself with regret afterwards. You have to live your life in the moment - but be mindful of the future. It's up to you to decide what that means for you...