My wife mentioned this question in one of her blogs, and I thought that this would be an interesting question to ask. I would like get your thoughts How do you all feel about it? I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.
2007-04-22 18:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by bigd501 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People who are in "committed relationship" are not really all that committed if you ask me.
Committed people would not dream of cheating.
2007-04-22 18:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people feel that way. My husband is a truck driver so i see him maybe 8 days out of the month...if that. I have plenty of oppertunity if I wanted to, but I just don't want to. Couldn't think about losing him. If you really love someone...not just infatuation, or lust then that kind of thought or question makes absolutely no sense and doesn't even have an answer except for pthhh.... If you are TRUELY in a committed relationship and there is love between the two of you, then you just don't even think about stuff like that....The question, in my opinon should have been What kind of relationship must you be in in order to feel it's necessary to cheat? Definately not a true, committed, and loving one, cuz when ur in one of those...ur heart is with the other person all the time and you would never want them to feel pain.....well that's just my opinon :)
2007-04-23 01:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by crunchyyellowlion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a society we always want more, the next greatest thing, and although some people are having in a relationship and should be content they want to know what else is available to them. Maybe it's the challenge, maybe they are crazy...
Or they could be unhappy or unsure if they are unhappy and want to find out what things would be like outside of a relationship.
I honestly don't understand how people can cheat though, even if you are unhappy you should realize that this other person you are in a relationship with you either still care for them or did for some time and it makes no sense to want to hurt them. Just end the relationship and move on...
2007-04-23 01:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Misch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most people in a committed relationship that feels like it is necessary to cheat would mostly be immature kids who doesn't really know what a committed relationship is. When I was committed to a relationship I was never tempted to "cheat" and I'm 59 yrs old and have had 3 meaningful relationships that I considered committed.
2007-04-23 01:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me know when u find out cause i wondered the same but i can tell u this i have learned from personal experience...those who cheat often feel resentment anger or feel the other person in the relationship holds all the power...cheating is a an ego trip a power trip...its rarely about love...yet for men they seem to have this craving to feel needed in a relationship they want to know that we depend on them...when we break free and become independant they become insecure
2007-04-23 01:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by $$$$$$ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard an interesting story once about the act of cheating. Let me share it with you.
A man was arriving to his home/apartment on the 10th floor of a beautiful apartment building. He was barely sliding his key on the keyhole when he realized that he should better check the mailbox downstairs. So he went downstairs really quick.
At the mail room, he ran across one of the neighbors on his floor from across the hall. She was a gorgeous brunette, great figure, shoulder-length wavy hair - a doll in pijamas who was also picking up her mail.
She started a conversation with him as soon as he walked inside the mail room. She was excited, anxious to tell her story. She was describing the immense joy and pleasure that she gets whenever she masturbates in front of someone else.
"You have to help me," she said. "You have to come and see me, just for a little bit. I'll be quick."
A bit reluctantly, although certainly curious, the man followed her upstairs, down the hall to her apartment door, and inside her bedroom.
He sat on a chair - a wooden chair, nothing fancy about it. In fact, it was a little bit uncomfortable.
She sat on her bed, cushioned herself with rolled up blankets and pillows, unbuttoned her pants, dropped them, and lowered her pink and tight, cute-looking underwear.
She masturbated. She reached orgasm. She stopped.
"Thanks," she said. "I really needed that. Thanks a lot."
"No problem," said the young man. And so he stood up, waved her goodbye, and he carried himself out. He finally walked down the hall and inserted his key on the keyhole. He walked in, and was greeted by his charming, beautiful, and loving wife.
"Hey, guess what happened, hun," he said.
"What happened?" she asked.
He explained the neighbor and the anecdote, how he ran into her, how he helped her blow off some steam, and how he finally made it home.
"WHAT!?!?" his wife yelled.
An argument followed. She accused him of cheating - and of having no shame. And the fight carried out so far as to cause the separation of the two.
She couldn't take it.
The end.
The question, however, is: Did he really cheat?
It raises an interesting question because the man clearly believes that he did not.
He had, shall we say, an "occurrence," like finding a wallet on the side of the curve, something to which he was only a witness, not something which he acted upon intentionally.
He obviously loves his wife. He wanted to tell her all about it. And his love and trust and honesty toward her extended so far that he found absolutely nothing wrong with telling her about it.
It was all perfectly normal.
She didn't think the same way about it.
So my opinion about your question is this:
Committed relationships are strong units. Cheating doesn't become "necessary." There is no "necessity," per say, to cheat.
Cheating, in my opinion, happens only when maliciousness exists, when a member in the relationship just doesn't fit. When the trust of a "solid unit" never really existed, and when ONE person is dilluding himself or herself, believing that what they have with the other person is special.
People can carry a lie for years. The lie being, of course, that they never really loved their partner.
2007-04-23 01:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to want what you can't have. Also, people may feel trapped in a committed relationship and feel that they need to do something that proves they are a free person, even if it's just to themselves.
2007-04-23 01:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are truly committed wouldn't feel the need to cheat. There's your answer.
2007-04-23 01:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea who told you that because I think cheating is always wrong no matter what if you really like a person you should have no need to sleep with anyone else.
2007-04-23 01:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by LiL_MaMa_1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some feel the need to cheat cuz the person they are with is effing wack job but they love em but they also need a no pressure bang.
2007-04-23 01:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by spayhappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋