Our wedding isn't for another year, 3 months and 4 days (who's counting though? Lol) but my fiance brought up the idea that he would like him, his best man & groomsman to wear shorts at our wedding. The shorts will be as formal as possible and they will also be wearing tuxedo jackets, tails and all. I am on the wall about this because since our wedding will be in July I want them to be as comfortable as possible BUT at the same time I just don't know how it would look in our photos. We had friends who had an outdoor wedding in July 2006 and their grooms men (which included my fiance) where in full black suits and it was almost 30 degrees out! We are also planning on having an outdoor wedding and I do not want my guy and his friends to suffer. I know lots of women feel that this is THEIR day so they should be able to make 99.9% of the decisions but to me this will be OUR day so I want both of us to make the decisions together. Any suggestions???
2007-04-22 18:00:41 · 37 answers · asked by MissLee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Also just a note.. my fiance wears shorts on a regular basis, even in the winter so him wearing shorts on our wedding day would be considered completely normal and our guests who know him well would definitely not be surprised or offended.
2007-04-22 18:03:05 · update #1
We'll be getting married in the Calgary (Alberta) area.
2007-04-22 18:24:12 · update #2
To be honest, I can't even believe he'd ask you that seriously. I'd think he's making a joke of the whole wedding.
I'd insist that he wear pants. If he and his groomsmen show up wearing shorts to a formal wedding, they're going to look ridiculous. Think about having a guest show up wearing shorts to a formal wedding. They'd be just as out of place.
Plus, it would be a major distraction and IMO, detract from your wedding in a major way. All most people will be able to talk about is the groom and his groomsmen wearing shorts. I'm sorry, but they don't make formal shorts, and to pair any kind of short with formal tux jackets is beyond ridiculous. And it will look awful in your photos. I can guarantee you'll cringe when you look back on them.
They're not going to suffer if they have to wear pants for one day. If it's going to be that much of an issue, rethink the whole wedding and go for a more casual feel - you can wear a shorter, lighter dress, the BMs can wear shorter dresses and the men can wear linen suits. But shorts, IMO are completely unacceptable at a wedding, most especially a formal one.
2007-04-22 18:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Well I am from near Calgary, so it may just snow in July ;-D. Just joking! I would compromise and say that they should wear pants during the ceremony and at least part of the pictures, and then they can change to formal shorts. I agree, it should be the "Our" day. My husband wanted to wear a tie with cartoon characters on it, so I said for the reception he could wear it and he was cool with that.
That being said, my hubby and I were very modern about some parts of the wedding, such as he helped me pick out the dress, so he saw me in it beforehand (not all made up, but still he saw me lol) so I am a little more modern.
On the other hand, I hate shorts, so I obviously think that tux on top and shorts on bottom would look hideous lol.
But stick with my top answer, don't look at my other comments!
Oh and, it doesn't generally get that hot in Calgary, so they shouldn't be suffering that badly. I wear jeans all year round when I am there, and I am perfectly fine. I would think the jacket would be worse.
2007-04-22 22:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think the issue is the shorts so much as the shorts/tails combo which would look silly. I like the kilt idea, though they are likely hotter than pants. I've seen summer weddings where the men wore linen pants and button down shirts not tucked in and sandals. I think this is a great look for a relaxed summer wedding. Just decide as a couple which look you are going for and do that look. But shorts with tails is just bad.
2007-04-30 13:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Cuddly Robbie Baby's Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shorts should not be combined with formal wear (tuxedos or tailcoats). If the men are going to wear shorts then they should be combined with something more appropriate, not formal jackets. Get some professional advice, go to a couple of Men's Formal Wear Stores . . tell them what you want to do, and ask for their suggestions or help. I have done many weddings where the Groom and the Groomsmen wear "half of a tuxedo" and it looks ridiculous. Even the Father of the Bride (who refused to wear half of a tuxedo) said to me, "You either wear a tuxedo or you don't, you don't decide what part of it you want to wear." Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A wedding ceremony officiant
2007-04-23 00:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Avis B 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
they don't have to wear tuxes. they could wear linen trousers with an open neck shirt, sleeves rolled. very cool and comfie but still dressy. they would certainly look far more handsome, and this is such a special day that personally i would nix the shorts idea.
but thats me! if you don't mind, and everyone knows him so well that they'll be expecting it, then why worry about it? you have to decide what to argue over and what to give in gracefully on!
what are you and your girls wearing? something pretty and feminine of course - and light weight i hope! calgary can be very hot and bloody humid - especially in a church in formal outfits! so the more comfie you can make your wedding gear, the better!
good luck to you and i hope your wedding day is sheer perfection!!!!!!!!
2007-04-30 12:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay seriously shorts with tuxedo jackets? Well do you want your wedding to be a joke? I'm telling you if they wear shorts NOBODY is gonna be talking about how you look, it will all be about the guys.
If you were having a completely casual wedding, then ok, like if it were outdoors or something, but even then NO tuxedo jackets!
2007-04-25 10:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way, its 20 degrees and he flitting around in shorts. He grew up at the beach though, so I dont find it as surprising as I do when I read that you guys are in Calgary!
I know they make tuxedos that have shorts, I have seen them(a bunch of kids wore them to prom in HS, again we were at the beach though) , but you wont want him in tails, they will go below the shorts. And he will also want to wear Vans or a shoe like Vans and no socks. Which will make it an informal wedding, sorry, but no matter what you want it to be, the shorts will make the level of formality drop dramatically, so be sure that your dress and the girls dresses are a lesser formal to balance the informatlity of the tuxes.
As for the suffering, they wont, they'll have shirts and jackets on, their legs wont probably be a factor, especially if they wear shorts year round they'll be fine if its chilly that day.
Good luck!
2007-04-23 02:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-13 06:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, it sounds like you have problem with it. I can understand though. My wedding is in a month and as it gets closer I find myself getting pickier and pickier about details. I have to remind myself that details that may be different, like wearing shorts instead of pants, give the wedding character. I constantly found myself shooting down his input on the wedding and finally realized that it is his day also. My only concern is with the tail of the jacket, it might look funny if it is longer than the shorts. My best advice is to let him decide, but if you are really against it find some way to make it his decision to wear pants. LOL. It is always a lot easier if they think that they are changing their minds when we know that it is us. Haha.
2007-04-23 06:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Amy B 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
My wife would have kicked by backside if I asked her a question liked that, and I wouldn't have disrespected her in the first place by even asking.
I wouldn't even think of wearing shorts to my wedding, even if I did wear them every other day because they are not appropriate attire for said wedding. Fortunately, I am a grown up who knows that. I am sorry that your fiance is putting you in this position.
2007-04-22 19:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by j f 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋