Generally speaking, we have/had a good relationship. The main problem is we seem to argue over small things. Not money etc. just small meaningless things, it's stupid really but, it has taken it's toll on us. (She says that I was the best boyfriend she has ever had and she can see us spending the rest of our lives together and having kids.) She calls me everyday and we both end up upset and saying how much we love and miss each other. The problem is she doesn't know how to stop the bickering and wants to see if being apart will make us realize how important we are to each other. Last week we only talked on the phone and that didn't work for her because we would talk for hours, now this week we can only e-mail each other. We have been dating 14 months. I am frustrated with the situation. Am I right to feel frustrated? What should I do? Help!
2007-04-22 17:27:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the bickering is about trivial things to begin with, wouldn't it be better to try to find a common ground, some way to compromise, than to split and limit how much you're allowed to talk to each other? My fiance and I have butted heads several times, and over the dumbest things, but then we just walk away from the dispute think about it, and come back to it with open minds and ways to try to compromise so we're both happy.
If you guys love each other that much, and want to spend your lives together, you need to focus on the big picture, the important things, and get over the small things. Best of luck!
2007-04-22 17:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly want to try making this relationship work, you will need to get some couples counseling. Staying apart is not the answer. Being apart puts a barrier between you, and causes too many unanswered questions in a relationship. Have you ever heard the saying "it is hard to go backwards"? It truly is because there are so many questions about what happened while you were apart. That leads to suspicion and anger. Either find a counselor, couples therapy group, or consult your religious leader about help in working out your problems. Don't wait. Good Luck!
2007-04-23 00:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an advice from my girl friend.the fact that u love her is the solution for all problems.if the argument is from her end solely then u need be too patient and cooperative with her and also alert that u r starting an argument and then u have to take a stand an d correct her instantly with luv and patience and end up d argument.then wait and watch how strongly this process of being with her ll make u bonded together and u ll luv ur relatn.if u also sometimes have topics to argue thn tak on tht topic with ur gf.and one thng-u hv to b patient coz u hv not mentioned d nature of ur gf.whn u people luv each other thr z no space for anythng so stupid
al d best!hope u ll b able to put it into action and have a happy relation where there ll b luv
2007-04-23 00:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋