I have a 7 year old brother who is an identical twin. He has ADHD. He has to repeat the 1st grade. He is currently on Ritalin. He never listens to anybody, and when he doesn't get his way, he throws tantrums or hits/kicks people or destroy things. For example, today at the amusement park, he was told to sit down, so he proceeded to scream and jump from table to table. His brother refused to give him the rest of his snack, so he hit him. I am at a loss of what to do to deal with him. Keep in mind I have autism/Asperger's and bipolar; so my cooping skills aren't great.
2007-04-22 16:14:35 · 7 answers · asked by aspergerskitty 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I will most certainly not hit my brother!
A. I don't have the authority to
B. It is WRONG WRONG WRONG
2007-04-22 16:24:47 · update #1
Wow, your parents should be very proud of your mature attitude. It's great that you want to find a workable solution to deal with your brother's behavior.
Kids with ADHD can have a complex of emotional, behavioral, social, and academic problems. Some can't handle change or authority figures who try to provide guidance; others rebel against every rule at school and at home. It becomes a battle of wills and it's very disruptive.
However, through behavior modification, appropriate doses of the correct medicine for the individual, frequent monitoring and evaluation by a neurologist, a loving, supportive family who isn't afraid to set boundaries, and a nuturing school environment, kids with ADHD can become productive people and learn how to act in appropriate ways. It is not an easy task for the parents, siblings, and the child with ADHD to deal with the ups and downs.
I'm sure you understand the angst your brother feels. I know you're frustrated and embarassed by his tantrums and anti social behaviors, but sometimes they are beyond his control. When the situation gets too difficult, remove yourself from the equation. Go hang out with friends or talk with your Mom and Dad, take a long walk or engage in a favorite activity or sport. Eventually as your brother matures, he'll be able to control his emotional outbursts. This doesn't happen over night.
Your brother needs lots of structure and a solid routine to help him through the rough times. You need to concentrate on your own situation so you are not anxious. Highlight the positive interactions between both of you.
When the situation becomes too intense to handle, ask for help.
2007-04-22 17:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by ne11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just cope with it the best you can. Be patient, but be firm. Try talking to him on just about anything. Try to connect with him at a basic level. Maybe that line of communication will open him up to you a little.
The worst you can do is shut him out and ignore him. That'll just make things worse.
2007-04-22 16:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. What a headache.
What you can do is not give into his whims. If he wants something, but he is rude about it, do not give it to him. Do not give in, especially after you have already said no. Giving in only teaches him that his behavior is acceptable.
But don't just be the "no" person. Praise and reward him for the things he does good.
Example: "Thanks for asking nicely." or "Wow! You picked up all your clothes! I'll color with you now."
2007-04-23 06:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the Ritalin isn't working correctly for him. Talk to his Doctor and see if perhaps there is another medication that might help him.
2007-04-22 16:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by SidTheKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a sibling, I'm not sure you can do much. As a parent, they shouldn't, nor should you, confuse bad behavior with ADHD. You should have your parents talk to a good pediatrician, one that is not so quick to write it off as adhd and give him drugs without a good evaluation. I have a 13 year old daughter with ADHD and she does not throw fits when she doesn't get her way or act out. Talk to your parents about your concerns. Good Luck.
2007-04-22 16:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by the4grubbs@sbcglobal.net 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
the best thing for adhd is as he does is destroy everything.eg.tv,video games,computer.just give him ball and bat to play.if he screams just plug ear plugs in your ears,after all,how long can he scream.but the best cure is,start hitting him even if he is a child.if you want him to be a good citizen when he grows up,you have got to do this.just harden your heart a little bit and do it.don't shrink because these people don't need sympathy.if they get,they'll take advantage.remember.
2007-04-22 16:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tiruvenkatan R 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
http://youtube.com/watch?v=T3FotGP0fcg
2007-04-22 19:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by ........ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋