2 questions in one. First question: There is this guy that lives on my street. (I'm 15) I'd really like to meet him. He doesn't go to my school. And he rarely comes out of his house. My mom sometimes talks to his mom at the bus stop and I found out his name. I'd like to meet him as he's rather good looking and as I've heard is really sweet. What should I do? Second question: A guy friend of mine told me to play "hard to get" with a guy. Guys, is that attractive? Be honest. Not exactly hard to get but if I were to act cordial to you, not exactly flirty or extremely interested but still nice but sort of like "i like you as a friend" but still look pretty and you know? but not snobby...guys explain to me what you like. I want to know so (if) when I meet the guy I can use whatever works on him. Thanks a bunch. Peace. <33
2007-04-22 15:08:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the guy is 15
2007-04-22 15:56:27 · update #1
Ok I'll answer question 2 first. The reason for the "hard to get" is so you don't look desperate. You want to see if he wants you so you act like you can find someone else if you want. If you look desperate he will take advantage of you.
Question 1 is more difficult.. You have to catch him while he's out of the house and just talk to him. But don't become his friend. Being his friend makes dating awkward.
If you need more detail ask me :).
2007-04-22 15:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Glenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If he is older (24ish) then its likely that playing hard to get wont matter cause he may think your too young (15 does seem like he is cradle snatching :P). Truth be told I dont have any 15 year old friends, its a little weird for me. If you came foward as a friend without acting snobby or anything I would probally go, mmmk and just go along with it.
Personally I like girls who are down to earth, girls with elitest attitudes is practically my pet hate. Honesty is good, but unrealistic in this world. Just try introducing yourself normally and see how it goes from there
2007-04-22 22:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the guy on ur street im not sure what to do
maybe wait till he comes out or go knock on the door and make an exuses of why u came knocking and then start a conversaion
but the play hard to get i personaly dont like that
my thought is if she dosent like u forget about her cuz if u dont u becoame a stalker
but dont go around being a slut around him just give him little or big signs and see how he reacts to it
2007-04-22 22:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Playing" hard to get is very unattractive. It makes us think less of you, because the truth that you ARE interested is going to come out. And then we're going to sleep with you and never call you again because, quite frankly, guys have no respect for girls who play head games.
BEING hard to get, on the other hand, will drive guys crazy in their quest to impress you.
My advice? You're 15. Forget about dating right now. Concentrate on making yourself smart, competent and confident now, so you'll have the self esteem that comes from achievement, and won't need to seek it from a boyfriend. None of the boys your age are capable of respecting you as a person, and no good man is going to risk going to jail over you.
This is drama that you don't need in your life right now. I know you FEEL ready for it now, but there'll be plenty of time for it later, when you ARE ready for it.
2007-04-22 22:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you can tell I'm not a guy so I can't answer that second question. But bout the first one why don't you just go over and talk to him or get to know his mom then she'll introduce you to him
2007-04-22 22:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant stand girls who are hard to get so i end up looking for another and im 16 just make up a conversation with him first and get 2 know him ask for his # sometime just give him an idea that youre interested in him
2007-04-22 22:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by kobe*mvp'09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out side a lot and "accidentally" bump into the guy if he happens to be outside too.
and from what i hear, hard to get is fun (guys like achallenge) up to a point. but if you play to hard to get, they will get bored and move on.
2007-04-22 22:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People (Girls)Say that we like it when you play hard to get but we dont. We are as emmbarassed in asking you then you asking us. So when you make it harder we dont even want to try.
2007-04-22 22:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by alex o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋