We have a lot in common, and he has told me repeatedly that he is heterosexual. I'm not sure if I can believe this. It seems farfetched. His other best friend used to be a gay/bi male as well, but now they're no longer talking to each other. I'm not sure what to do, because everything other than this has been good. I don't want to be exposed to additional STDs, even HIV....then again, aren't there a lot of people that swing both ways these day? I'm not sure if I should just remain friends, distancing myself over time, or forge on. What is your opinion?
2007-04-22 15:05:54 · 6 answers · asked by JazzyJackrabbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're exposed to HIV even if the guys you sleep with have only slept with women.
2007-04-22 15:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very interesting living arrangement. I thought that mine was unique and challenging for perspectives in my life, and actually it is. I live with my ex who's white (I'm black) and sometimes a bit clingy and intrusive. As far as whether or not a lot of people are swinging both ways, personally I don't know anyone like that nor do I believe it's a predominant trend, but to each his own I say. I wouldn't want a man who's been with a man for a number of reasons, the least of which have anything to do with STD's since that's a risk for anyone who's sexually active and has unprotected sex. The real issue is trust. Can you trust what he says to you to be the truth? If you can, then I don't see the problem especially since you've stated that you like him and you have a lot in common. I suggest you simply get to know him as best you can before you make a decision about how to proceed. You'll know what to do at that point.
2007-04-22 22:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...on the assumption that you are serious, though i hope not:
-- Yes, a lot of people in this world and country are bisexual
-- Safe sex in a new relationship is important even if your partner isn't, for lack of a better phrase, a suspected bisexual; you can easily get HIV and many other things from the straightest guy in the world
-- This man has a gay roommate/friend and a gay/bi former best friend, and thus you assume he must be gay? By those standards, I must be a gay man as well. It really does not make sense to assume he's gay because his friends are.
-- He told you he's straight. If you don't trust his word, you shouldn't be dating or sleeping with him, anyway.
-- It sounds like you have a lot to learn about sexual orientation diversity among adults, and for that reason alone, I hope you keep spending time with this man and his friends.
2007-04-22 22:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to be exposed to STDs, dont touch this guy or his roomates ,or his friends. I had a relative I knew who got Aids and died, believe me it is not worth the risk!
If u find him attractive so do other people. You need to hook up with some wanker who cant do better than you! He wont cheat on you , because he cant score. Make sure that he is such a virgo that he has'nt even done a hooker.
2007-04-24 15:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tim'sSO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he into you? If yes, you're in good shape. You can't tell whether a dude is gay because of his friends and living arrangements. Also, before you get into any relationship you should both have yourselves fully checked out, whether the guy's straight, bi, gay.
2007-04-22 22:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by shahlordsaway 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure keeping looking....there are other fish in the sea (as the saying goes).
2007-04-22 22:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alletery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋