Please help me? what are the top 5 personality traits women want in a first date with a man?

Question

I am meeting a very special lady and we met on the net, but I am afraid my desire to know her well might scare her away before we even know each other as people? I will be age 48 in May and she will be age 32 this year... Please offer real honest info for making my number one desire to have her trust me so we can become trusted and best friends who will be a couple to date without measuring each other as marriage possibles from the first kiss

Answer 1

well as this is ur first meeting aside from the web - the first 5 minutes will set the pace 4 the rest of ur date - so make it good as first impressions do last - and a tip - read her body language - as specially her eyes - and if u can interpret the subtle signals - i'm sure u will be able 2 respond appropriately and know exactly where u stand by the end of the date - but most of all enjoy the date without putting ur heart on the line and u will come out on top lol - but personally i think internet dating sucks yes got my heart wacked a few times - and learned from it - so dont take it 2 personally if it dont work out just move on, dont ask urself stupid question like y y y as u will never get the real answer (he eats like a pig look like a pig communicate like a pig smell like a pig or what ever reason she dont like u inperson or dont want 2 c u again or god forbid " just want 2 be friends " its all crap) coz her decision was made, she is not into u and there is not much u can do about it - so good luck !

Answer 2

I'll tell you about my 1st date with a young man two weeks ago that I met on the net, and we are going out again this weekend. He drove the 45min to get to me. I was ok with him picking me up from my house. We went to the movies 1st then we went to dinner, and it was like he was an old friend. He picked up the tab on everything, and he even opened all the does for me except the car door. When I got home he walked me to my door, gave me a nice hug, and a kiss on the cheek, and that was it. He called me the next day, and we have talked every since then. This may not offer much, but what I took from the date was, I went on a date with a really nice guy, and it was stress and pressure free. To me a date that can't flow or we don't know what to do next is stressful. We were both ourselves the entire time. Good luck.

Answer 3

courtesy
confidence
articulate
attentive
pleasant
Do more listening than talking.
Do not mention past relationships.
Do not mention past bad habits(smoking, drinking, gambling - if these are still current habits then work on yourself before beginning a new relationship).
Speak optimistically about the positives in your life - do not complain about your job, your mother, or your undone chores.
You are in a problematic situation because of the big age difference and you will experience difficulties in having things in common.
Show up clean and well dressed - little or no cologne. Have cash to pay for dinner with - shows preplanned. Be sure and tip the waiter.

Answer 4

From your post i detect that you are an intelligent person. Why not explain your train of thought to her? As a woman that is very difficult when it comes to trusting people initially, the thing i look for are as follows:
Honesty in the conversation itself - dont try and impress or lie in just petty conversation. It makes us wonder whether or not your honest in general.

Confidence - a guy who is confident without being cocky is a major attraction factor as well as leading her to believe that you are a stable person to be around.

Dont talk about baggage - major no no. Will make her bolt. Baggage is something you can discuss later as freinds/lovers but initally you want her to see you as into her and not going to be something to weigh her down. Later she will asses whether or not shes willing to take on your baggage.

Make her feel comfortable/dont be pushy - just acting/being comfortable in general will put her at ease especially because im sure shes just as nervous as you are about meeting in person! She'll probably open up more as well.

Be a gentleman/Respect. Nothing makes a woman feel as though your non threatening and able to open up more as a guy who is just a gentleman in general and very respectful. Immediately puts us at ease :)

Good luck with your special lady and i hope your endeavors pay off!

Answer 5

I don't know the " Top 5" but I do know what I would want on a first date, speaking from experience.
1 Polite towards me and others'. (opening doors, saying excuse me)

2 Sense of humor. got to have laughs.

3 Feel of protected

4 Honesty- don't lie.

5 Don't sweat it, just have fun, be open minded.

*Everything happens for a reason*

Good luck, let us know what happened.

Answer 6

Aaaww that is sweet that you are asking this! Just be kind, corteous, polite, and think of good topics to discuss to keep the conversation going. Make sure you avoid heavy issues and topics on the first date (i.e. marriage, kids, yada yada yada). Just take things slowly and relax! If you are tense, then she will be also. I am sure you will have a wonderful time. Enjoy! :-)

EDIT: Cutie, you need to relax and take a chill pill.

Answer 7

1) nice
2) again, nice, LOL!
3) mannerable
4) sense of humor- able to laugh if something goes wrong, etc.
5) respect

P.S. Cutie-Majority of rapists are people the victim knows. Look it up.

Answer 8

The qualities I would look for are:

Honesty
Interested in me and willing to show it
Kindness/goodness
Relaxed/confident
Willing to take things slowly-no preconceived agenda

And remember, this is supposed to be fun!

Answer 9

1 Respect
2 Hygiene
3 Not talking about exs
4 Not pressuring for commitment
5 Not being jealous

Answer 10

If you want honesty than u need to be yourself. just control ur emotions and concentrate on getting to know as much as possible about her and then on the second date you have better game. ofcourse because u will know her likes and dislikes and expectations, or if u even really like her. good luck!