I've known this girl for 4.5 months, over that time, we have communicated quite regularly, mainly by text messages because she doesnt like talkin on the phone...anyways, I believe I have slowly gotten hints from her that she isnt interested in me "that way" but likes me just as a friend. how do i know this? she told me she just wants to hang out as FRIENDS when i jokingly told her if i hang out with her what if she makes the moves on me...
she goes to an out of state college, not graduatin for 2 more years, my big dilemme is do i tell her i like her? how long do i wait? i mean i have NOTHING to gain right now if i tell her i like her, i mean, its even bad as it is that i think she may not even like me more than a friend, shes probly always seen me as that
should i tell her i like her or NOT say anything and just be a friend or whatever and make sure things dont get awkward. what should i do? if i dont tell her i like her it may be too late that she even knew that i liked her?...help
2007-04-22 14:10:22 · 15 answers · asked by Wayne D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ohhhh that's a hard one.Who knows this could be you're last chance so in my opinion...I would go for it. You don't want to be left regretting the things you never stood up to or let slip by.Either way if she lets you down or not I truly believe life is about being true.
Although it's very hard to expect someone to wait for two years......go with your heart.This is a hard place that your at...Goodluck.
2007-04-22 14:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be surprised how often our opinions/ observations of people and their feelings can be wrong. When I was in high school I know a guy that I liked very much and like you I was unsure of his feelings for me. After he graduated he moved around a lot and we lost touch a few times. This friend is now in a serious realationship and I have since regreted not making my feelings known. If I had, maybe I wouldn't have gone through some of the things I have.
You have everything to gain by telling how you feel. I know some women to be just as shy when it comes to self expression. Just by telling her how you feel you gain the possible answer of knowing if she feels the same for you and if she does well you have just gained a partner to love and that loves you in return. If not, you will still have that deep friendship and you can now move forth in finding another companion though your heart may be a little broken.
2007-04-22 21:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER. That's what you should do! don't wait for the day to come when you will regret not saying it to her. It's better if you express what you feel for her than having to think all your life the answer to your question. If you have hints that maybe she just like you as a FRIEND, it's just a maybe so better ask her. If the truth hurts, at least you knew the answer than being hanging for the rest of your life. Good luck!
2007-04-22 21:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by alexynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make a fool of yourself by admitting first how you feel, save yourself by asking her how she feels about you and if she ever thought of being in a serious relationship with you. Also ask her what her expectations are of the both of you. That will help determine whether you're to remain in the friend zone or if you have a chance at moving up the ladder with her.
2007-04-22 21:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman....any time I've ever told a guy that we could hang out only as friends...it was because I could tell that he liked me and I didn't like him. Maybe she does want to hang out with you as friends...but it soundslike that where she wants to leave it. She doesn't like talking on the phone? come on....I think she's sending you many signs that your relationship is simply platonic. I think it would be a mistake for you to tell her you want more...I think she would run for the border. If you aren't interested in her friendship, then there's not much more to say.
2007-04-22 21:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by lutl424 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best idea is say nothing --- if she likes you will be able to determine that and if you like her she will be able to see that when you talk --- i would be a little concerned that she does not want to talk on the phone --- with all the people being dishonest online she could be a he!! ---- dont get too involved just let the relationship mature and see what happens --- she may also have the same concerns about you
2007-04-22 21:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? it's not that you have nothing to gain, but it's nothing to more lose if you tell her. she's almost lost anyway.
the fact that she doesn't want to talk on the phone already tells a lot. and also she told you that she just wants to hang out as friends.
but there might still be the chance that she might change her mind about you.
2007-04-22 21:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, but also tell her that you would understand if she didn't feel the same way. The worst thing you want to do is ruin a good friendship like this. You also don't want to live the rest of your life thinking "what could have been" if you do not tell her.
2007-04-22 21:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she knows you like her. Because she goes to school out of state, it would make it hard to be more than just friends right now. I would suggest for the short term not to tell her yet.
2007-04-22 21:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. because she may just be shy nad think u dont like her and she dont wanna get hurt
ur best option is to tell her the worst that can happen is her tell u she just wants to be friends
2007-04-22 21:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by nonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋