hey so me and my boyfriend (16 and 19) want to elope. i need to know where we can elope, how much it will cost, and other things like that. thank yu so much
2007-04-22 13:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by kissesfromhvn807 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To spend a life together one must first define their life. Make sure you are certain before you possibly find yourself "trapped" feeling like something of your youth was denied...you will regret that forever if it's so.
Yes, it's not likely to be popular with your parents and they may suspect a bad deal and they will have problems with your lack of faith and trust in them.
It's very likely to be seen as a sex crime too, which will make it moot. I've had female friends who knew they would marry their boyfriends (mutual feeling) when they were sixteen and they chose to involve their families and wait until they were adults, giving the man time to become a part of the family and make sure that the relationship was a strong one and not guided by passion or the fear of losing the boyfriend.
Love is patient or not meant to be. Such a feeling as yours may be a fear of failure and not a true full feeling of commitment. If he is encouraging you to marry because of a military commitment, know that the military may not be happy with the notion either. He does not need to be 'complete' before he possibly dies, and likewise it's a terrible pain to put a young bride through if not any woman. Military codes frown on any conduct considered illegal between a male and female and prosecution, jail time and or discharge is a very good bet (likely dishonorable so he won't receive VA or other military benefits OR student aid from a GI bill grant or loan, etc). A military criminal record will make it hard for him to find a good job, much less a sex crime.
Think hard about it. You are probably close to seventeen right now. If you wait a year or so you have time to gain your parents full approval and have a full-blown wedding. HE has to meet their approval and marriage is between FAMILIES, not just two people. It is the way we bind as humans into a larger family to spread peace, understanding and BROTHERHOOD. Through marriage we are all one family of man.
Eloping is risky and you may throw away a family you need dearly, which will haunt you. You are still young enough that you have time to explore your life more before sharing your life with somebody else (and your children will need you to especially). You will be a better couple fully formed and I would urge you strongly to wait. Two years is enough time to find out if it's right.
2007-04-22 14:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by _ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay In School Elope Later When You Have A Better Job..Too Expensive...lol...Eloping Means You Embark On Lifes Journey together,He Needs College And So Do You....How You Gonna Support Yourselves With No Education ?
2007-04-22 13:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you need to be at least 18 to get married in TN. If you are under 18 you do need parental approval, unless you are ruled as an adult by the courts.
Assuming that you are able to get married, I would look into Bridal Path Wedding Chapel (http://www.bridalpathwebchapel.com). It is very pretty, and the prices are not bad.
I would advise you to think very hard about marriage before you actually go through with it, it's a big decision and you are still really young.
Best of luck to you!
2007-04-23 08:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by BZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be getting married without the consent of one or both parents. And some counties charge you for that as well.
I undestand being in love is wonderful, but are either of you able to stand on your own financially?
What happens if your boyfriend/hubby gets sick & you have to support the family? Do you have the education for a job that could do that? What happens if you get pregnant right away? Can you make it on his paycheck alone?
The mere fact that you are considering running away & getting married & cheating your families out of such a wonderful event tells me you haven't thought this all the way through.
Ps. Be careful. Someone could report him & have him prosecuted as a sex offender since you are under 18.
2007-04-22 13:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with the county court house in the city you want to get married in. Different states/counties have laws about how old you have to be to get married. Most of the time you have to have parental consent if you are under the age of 18. I'm not going to lecture about waiting or staying in school. I'm not your mama and I don't know you're situation, but I would wait unless your parents/guardians approve. Otherwise you're going to have to wait...at least until you turn 18. Besides if he wants to marry you this bad now, he'll be dying to marry you when you can do it legally!
PS
If you find a place where you can married without consent, but in another stae...don't do it! You don't want your boyfriend to get arrested for carrying you over state lines! Not that romantic!
2007-04-22 13:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have your parents permission. Do you have that? If you do you can go anywhere you like. If you do not, then you aren't going anywhere to get married. In ALL 50 states you must be 18 or older to marry w/o your parents permission. (In fact, in MS you have to be 21 and in NE you have to be 19) Canada also has 18 and up laws, as well as Mexico.
Link to check state laws.
2007-04-22 13:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the Nashville Chapel
2016-05-21 03:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live Near Nashville
you need to be 18 to get married
2007-04-22 13:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋