What the heck should I do? I don't even know what Jesus would do in this case...?

Question

So my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago so that she would be able to go on a summer vacation with her ex boyfriend (let's call him Rick). I was a little heartbroken at first, but I had seen it coming (she had been dropping clues the whole time we were going out), so it wasn't that much of a shock.

Anyway, she hasn't really talked to me much since she confirmed her plans with Rick last week. However, I saw her last night at 1:00 AM. I approached her and asked "What's up? Where are you headed?!" She went on to tell me that she ditched Rick at his apartment 'because he's boring'; she had told Rick she was going home to sleep but she was actually going to meet a guy at a bar she had only met through Facebook.

She was drunk (I have never gotten drunk before), so I tried to talk her out of what was surely a bad decision. She wouldn't hear it from me, so I walked with her to the bar. I waited there for an hour till she left, then I left too.

She left with the guy going one way, and I went home to go to sleep (I figured I did everything I could... it's out of my hands now).

So today she sent me an email telling me that I'm creepy for going to the bar and how she can make her own decisions. She also told me that I would look like a psycho if I tell Rick because "Rick already knows about this guy". I'm thinking... does Rick also know that you called him boring, lied to him, and went off to sleep with someoen else?

I really have no feelings at all for my ex other than the same feelings you'd feel for a drunk who tries to drive home. Question is, should I tell Rick about this?

The reason my ex and I broke up is because she would always lie,so this isn't anything new.

Answer 1

No, don't say anything at all to "Rick".

Cut her completely loose and don't allow her to be a part of your life on any level in the future.

Answer 2

And Rick has probably encountered the same sort of behavior from her, so there isn't anything new in what you would be telling him, so why bother? And if Rick doesn't already know, he won't want to be hearing it from you. In any case, there's nothing either he or you can do about it. If she's found a new guy, you're both out of the picture.
Congratulations to you, though, for trying to make sure she got home safely.

Answer 3

Cut your losses and move on...it appears that she has no desire to do the right thing and no desire to change.

Telling Rick would only further entangle you in her affairs...and after all Rick was perfectly willing to run off with her after she dumped you...they deserve each other...just walk away and look for someone better. It sounds like she is an incredibly immature (living for the moment) type of girl, not caring about or willing to be accountable for the consequences of her actions...if you tell Rick, it is quite possible that she will end up blaming you for a good portion of her own sins...nothing is ever her fault, it's always someone else's...step in and she'll be blaming you for Rick not wanting her...let her lose him on her own merits/actions.

2Ti 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2Ti 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
2Ti 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
2Ti 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

Tit 3:10 A man that is a heretic after the first and second admonition reject;
Tit 3:11 Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.

Answer 4

Unless you are good buddies with "Rick" I wouldn't suggest walking up to him and telling him that she is cheating.

1.) Hostility is probably already high for him since you were the new boyfriend she originally dumped him for.

2.) He might think you're just trying to drive a wedge and get back into a relationship with her.

Unless you really still love this girl and want to be with her, then I suggest you just stay away from him and her and get on with your own business.

Drinking, and cheating are not great personality traits and you are probably better off without her.

Answer 5

It sounds to me that there is nothing good about this girl. She's using you while she's in between guys. She wants you to be around to pick up the pieces when her life falls apart. Your nice--too nice for her. She doesn't deserve you. Find yourself a decent girl at church or whatever.

She broke up with you so she could go on vacation with her ex-boyfriend? Sounds pretty lame. She goes out to a bar in the morning to drink? She meets a guy from facebook? That's poor judgment.

You sound like a decent guy and deserve a great woman. Go look for her--she's out there!!!

Answer 6

nah buddy. i know that you're probably mad at yur ex and all, but telling "Rick" wouldn't be a good idea. It would show that you still care for this girl, even though you say you don't. So if I were you, I would let the drunk live her life however she wants to.

Answer 7

Question is, should I tell Rick about this?

Answer = No

Power is yours only if you can step back from this "girlfriend".

Answer 8

Heck yea! Tell Rick. He deserves to know that she is using him. You are too nice of a man to her! You'll easily be able to find someone who deserves you. Do not settle for less!

Answer 9

Cut all ties with this girl. Rick will eventually find out on his own (if you tell him he would think you had motives for accusing her and probably wouldn't believe you).

Answer 10

Sounds like you did exactly what you should have done and have no obligation to go further. She is capable of making her own decisions (big honking bad ones) and you have no need to interfere.