PLEASE NO BASHERS THIS IS NOT MY BLOOD DAUGHTER
2007-04-22 11:35:17 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That is still sick. When you married her mother you took on the role of her dad. I hope she is not a minor, cause that is just sick and you should be castrated and put in jail.
2007-04-22 11:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
First of all lets pretend for one second that she is not your stepdaughter. You are MARRIED!! Which clearly means nothing to you. Not only is being attracted to your stepdaughter morally wrong on every level its also extremely disrespectful to your wife. You married her and should be loving her child like a father would.
How can you say no bashers when this is just so so so wrong. I hope for your wives sake and her daughter you leave her.
Heres an idea instead of asking yahoo answers what we think why don't you run it by your wife!!!! PLEASE DO I bet you will get a very honest answer.
2007-04-22 11:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this. Serious anything means trouble down the road. Didn't you have a serious sexual attraction to her mother, your wife once upon a time.
Immerse your emotions in helping others.
Sexual thoughts are a serious issue with men.
Since you know the stepdaughter, it is easier to approach her.
Meditate on this for stopping it. It can only mean devestating trouble for your wife (yes she does come first) your step daughter (she also comes first) and you (since you are so preoccupied with attraction you come down on the list.
Look more upon and love (agape love) everything in this world. Make meditation a part of your life with wisdom books
Change the focus from what you feel to what is correct.
(typical irresponsible hence foolish reasonings hopefully not for you: I can't help it, this is different, I wouldn't go all the way etc etc)
Turn your life to something bigger than yourself some choose God, some Volunteer work, some tire them selves out with physical work or a project.
You are too close in living space not to feel attraction. We are all like pieces of metal drawn to whatever is close at hand. Be aware that any display of immodest dress will only
escalate your helplessness before this condition. Also speech. Avoid too many compliments and flattery. Short and meaningful compliments on her work and efforts. Keep your mind free of lust.
Should you fail in not allowing to let this go further you will be in the middle of all kinds of pain for those involved.
Every good motorist keeps his foot on the brake and watches the road.
By the way step-daughter or biological daughter are both taboo. You are a keeper of her future. Your wife took you into this familywith trust. which rhymes with lust. You can't have both. Work on cutting out the conversation or actions or dress that invite this behavior in yourself or others.
And this is a definite form of cheating (your wife of trust and love, your step-daughter of trust and guardianship, yourself of integrity and possibly a family) Wishing you the best with your grappling with this situation. You can do it and be the better man for it.
Wila.
2007-04-22 11:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am usually not critical about people on these things, but with a question like that I really think that the authorities should be called on you. How old is this girl? If she is a child, then you need to be reported and stay far away from that girl. You obviously have some problems that you need to get help with right away. If she is grown, then your wife needs to drop you. Either way, this is your wifes child./...no matter how old. And in my honest opinion, I really don't even think that this a true question. You are probably an immature 20 year old trying to get a rise out of people, but joking about something like this is not the way to go about pulling a prank.
2007-04-22 13:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you see her grow along her years? were you around her longer then her real dad? You have to fix this problem if you say she is your step daughter well then you got to act like one and be there for her as a dad would. If you help her mother parent her you should focus more in your role and respect this young lady. You are with her mother and should respect her this is her daughter we're talking about here. You have to fight this off it is not normal for you to feel this way and definitely not healthy for her. If you feel your sexual attraction is getting out of hand which to me it already has she may not be safe under the same environment. There's just know way you even thinking this way. If she is living in the same house and is at age to move out then she should or you be honest with your wife and let her know the problem even if it takes for her to leave you. To be honest it should be you leaving before you hurt people around you this is very negative and yes she is in danger at your presence not healthy at all. Not being blood related doesn't make it o.k think about it how is this going to affect her and your wife ones they find out?
2007-04-22 12:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by amores 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blood daughter or not, you should expect people to be repulsed.
If the girl is a minor, you better seek some help before you become a sex offender. Most states make you register, and some will make you have a different driver's license or vehicle license plate for your indiscretions.
If she isn't, reflect on your relationship with your wife. Is it worth risking? Pursuing a sexual relationship with your step daughter will be awkward for everyone involved. Also, it's not fair to put someone else in that kind of position.
Best course is to keep it in your pants and seek help if you need to.
2007-04-22 11:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by fumblingkc 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I would recommend arranging some sessions with a therapist; not only because you are married ( I would assume) and having attractions to other women which could mean there are issues with your current relationship.. but also that your attraction is with your step-daughter. Even though she is not your daughter by 'blood', you are still a father figure and need to put those feelings aside..because it would be morally wrong, In my opinion. I know one cant help who he/she is attracted to..but sometimes you have to put those feelings aside for the sake of all who would be involved.
Hope this helps...
2007-04-22 11:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Stacie_Michele 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you ask for no bashers? That is just sick, twisted, and wrong!!! A lot of the people here are parents and step parents. You need some serious counseling.
2007-04-22 11:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Weather or not this is you blood daughter or not you have to understand that she is a child. You are a grown man that has to care for her in an approiate way. You can never follow through with these feelings. It is WRONG. I think that you should talk to a professional about this and keep yourself form being alown with her. You could ruin her life if you do follow through.
Please think about her life, not yours.
Good luck
2007-04-22 11:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by mommy05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read some of the answers I got for my questions today. Maybe you'll get a clue. In the meantime while your investigating your problem, "Give the hardy boy thing to your step-wife when she comes home. I am sure she will appreciate it."
2007-04-22 11:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by d4d9er 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you married her mother it was because you loved her, not her daughter(I hope). Maybe you should get some counceling. It doesn't matter if she is blood realated she is your step DAUGHTER. You are an athority/adult figure and shouldn't even have those thoughts in your head.
2007-04-22 11:40:11 · answer #11 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋