I became furious with my ex when he dated someone else after I broke up with him because I wasn't sure he loved me because he was younger and didn't seem to know his own mind. I guess he did love me, as it now turns out, but he has only really been able to be clear about this after a year. I thought he was just using me as a mother. Trying to figure out what was up with him brought me so much difficulty and agony because he kept shutting down and not communicating that I feel I have no power left. We have decided to make a fresh start of sorts after seeing each other 2 weeks ago and are talking, but I still feel compelled to write him and tell him things, and he only seems to make contact about twice a week. I also just realized that the reason I have been feeling so badly about this is that I blamed him unfairly for telling me what happened with this other person; in fact, he was doing the right thing. I want to apologize, but I don't want to contribute to power imbalance. What 2 do?
2007-04-22 09:36:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This looks to be a lost cause. You want your power back....dump this guy for good and find a good guy.
2007-04-22 09:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think being able to share your true feelings and admitting you are wrong in something is a weakness or a shift in power? The most powerful thing is to know your own emotions. The only thing you are doing in error is overcompensating for your partner's emotional shortcomings. Move on, to continue to do this is exhausting and rarely solves anything.
2007-04-22 09:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To restore balance step back let him call contact and meet u
2007-04-22 09:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by miss2bmissus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋