Most people would say "No" well then why get married before you have "taken a test drive" and make sure its the kinda ride you will enjoy for the rest of your life? Love is great and love is real in all its forms, but sex for pleasure is part of love.. you can love someones looks, thier personality, thier character but still be completely unsatisfied when it comes to sex.. In some cases people may be lucky and marry a person who they are sexually compatible with even though they waited until marriage but I see so many people who got married and "waited" for sex and they are completely unhappy with their partner in that area but are stuck because of their religion and all that entails. Isnt it better from a moral, logical and common sense standpoint to make sure that you love your partner in ALL ways BEFORE you marry them?? Isnt it a greater sin to marry someone only to find out you dont love them completely? Love is not a single facet.. it is many faceted and complicated..
2007-04-22 07:21:17 · 6 answers · asked by Kelly + Eternal Universal Energy 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I case you thought I have not done all the mundane things that marriage entails I have, I am not just "sex hungry" and I know that sex isnt the ALL of a relationship but it is a huge part. I wouldnt want to wash the dirty socks of a man that didnt please me in every way, why would you? Yes, the wanting of sex may fade but the spark has to be there first else it will have faded long before it ever kindled. I dont think sex is love in fact I know it is not, one may love having sex with another but despise the personality of that same person, by the same token one may love the personality of the other but dislike the sexual aspect of that person... You cannot truly love someone unless you love them in every way... you can ignore a problem and work around it or deny yourself but truly to really love you must love in all ways to be happy, content and respect one another. How could you respect a partner who disappoints you in some aspect of the relationship?
2007-04-22 07:47:17 · update #1
The subject then, is sex and love.
I read:
"Sex is not the pivot upon which a successful marriage turns.
Generally, if all other aspects are good, if there is love, respect, good communication and understanding, then sex shouild not be a problem. Not making sex the center of their lives, a couple can enjoy their partnership and solve any problem of sexual incompatibility."
Personally, I believe that carries alot of weight.
It only seems a bit strange because we live in a sex-hungry world.
2007-04-22 07:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this your reasoning for what you want to do, but know you shouldn't?
Too often, once a couple has started sexual relations all other aspects of the relationship become of minor importance and sex becomes the "goal" of every meeting.
Sexual love is not the answer to a fulfilled married life, COMMITMENT and COMMUNICATION is.
Waiting for marriage to start sex can be a great character builder of the relationship. Or, if the partner is not willing to wait, can be the end of a relationship, and you can say "good riddance". Better leave now than later, divorce is a lot more painful.
How about loving your partner by washing his dirty socks and underwear week in and week out, wanna try that before marriage to test your love?
2007-04-22 07:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by pinkrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked this question from inexperience.
Sex, is not what makes a marriage, for a fact, sex, and the interest in sex will fade with time, yet the deeper things of long lasting commitment far outweigh the importance of great sex.
Yet, the deep respect for one another for having respected the sanctity of married, and the mutual respect for the other by forgoing sex until after marriage, shows your partner that even before marriage you and your parnter had deep respect for each other that is more important for marital longevity than "taking a test drive".
This mentality of trying the sex before marriage is born of immaturity and lack of respect.
But, if that is what you wish to do to your relationships before marriage, you certainly have every right.
statistically though, with the divorce rates as high as they are, and the prevalence of sex before marriage, I can not help but wonder if there is a certain correlation.
2007-04-22 07:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stats are not in your favor;in fact my cousin feels like u and she divorced twice working on her third.Her mother followed suite with 3 too.The bible makes it clear to obey the basic principles.If you don`t God will not bless u.There are other factors in the spirit realm that we don`t see.Every woman I have met that thinks like u is divorced or either working on it.God invented marriage not you.The statististic clearly show that a man and woman wil not respect each other if having lustful sex prior to marriage.
2007-04-22 07:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the car feel rejected when you decide not to buy it? No. You're forgetting the dehumanizing process here.
2007-04-23 16:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by verygirlygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋