one of friends came over yesterday to bake a cake with me for another friends birthday. since its after, we still have easter candy in our baskets- on the table and one on the counter. we also have a few unopened bags of candy on the table. so, my friend decides to help herself to this candy. i thought this was kind of rude considering she didnt ask... it could have been the basket belonging to my sister! i also noticed her reach for the unopened bag, but then let go when she realized it wasnt open. i didnt say anything, but later she went for it again when my mom was around. my mom said she could open it. do you think this was rude? or is it just me? i mean, if i went to a friends house, i would ask to have some of their food, incase it was their siblings, or maybe even something they were going to give away!
2007-04-22 05:28:06 · 18 answers · asked by laura 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
to "a t": we had just gone to jamba juice like 2 hours before... i dont think she was hungary!
of of course if she were to ask, i wouldnt have said, "NO! DONT EAT MY CANDY!"
2007-04-22 05:45:58 · update #1
ive noticed a LOT of people taking my question the wrong way. im not being protective of my candy. if she were to have asked, of course i would say it was okay. im just saying that isnt it sort of a common courtesy to ask before taking something? even my best friend that ive known for almost 12 years would have asked! as for my spelling, you have got to forgive me. i asked this question while still half asleep.
2007-04-22 09:28:50 · update #2
No matter how close or not your friend is to you, she should never ASSUME it's ok to do anything in your house without asking. It's basic courtesy and common sense. A simple 'may i?' would suffice. Do let her know about this.
2007-04-22 05:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is rude. It doesn't matter how close you are, it is not polite to eat food in another's home without first being asked or having an invitation issued. (May I have some of this candy? or, Susie, would you like some candy?)
Maybe the next time your friend comes over, put away anything you don't want her to eat. (take away the temptation)
BTW- work on your spelling and grammar.
It's hungry, not hungary (Hungary is a country). And it's SHE reached for the unopened bag, not HER.
2007-04-22 13:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you are inviting someone over and you don't want themt o get into your stuff, you put that stuff away. It would have been rude for her to open a cupboard find the candy and eat it. if it was on the counter in full view, then it is free game, anyone passing by can have it.
Sounds to me like you are being very petty. You just said it was left over candy, it shouldn't matter that someone took one or two, seeing as how you have an unopen bag on hand.
2007-04-22 12:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Standing rule in my house... If you don't want it eaten, don't leave it in the middle of the table/room, put it away.
Anything on the table is free for anyone to take in my home.
If someone taking some OLD stupid candy is such a problem for you that person is not a friend... No, YOU are not a friend to that person. Be honest.. you didn't want that person there at all, except to do your grunt work.
2007-04-22 15:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of households keep a candy dish out on the table filled with candy. She may have assumed the candy was available for everyone.
If it bothered you why didn't you say something? Most friends wouldn't think twice about it, or would assume that you would say something if the candy wasn't supposed to be for everyone.
2007-04-22 12:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Harmony 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's a little rude!!! But it goes both ways, you noticed all of this, you could have said something like "Please don't help yourself to that particular candy, here have some of these" and "Excuse me, that unopened bag of candy isn't for you, put it back"
Friends that take take take, usually becomes users in the long run. watch out. But with some simple communication, thing could acually work out.
try to get along, and watch her, point out what she does that take advantage of you.
2007-04-22 12:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kalvin G 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
People don't teach their kids about manners anymore. We have friends who would let their 4 year old go into our fridge (or anyone's fridge for that matter) and point to whatever he wanted. Then they would say something like "xxx doesn't want you to have their whatever" looking at you for your response. So then the kid just pulls it out and gives it to his parents to open, and they open it. He might taste it then decide he doesn't want it and go back in for something else. They would never make him finish the last, never tell him not to go into people's fridge, nothing. What happened to people's manners these days?
2007-04-22 12:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whenever I go to a friends house or they come to mine, we share whatever is hanging around. But we are adults; When you get older you'll realize it's not a big deal.
2007-04-22 12:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I only invite my close friends over and since we are close I don't mind her sticking her head into our fridge!
So it wouldn't be rude if you guys are close.
But I hate it when someone who I've just met sneaks around my house!
2007-04-22 12:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i mean, it was wrong of her to do that and get candy without asking....but just confront her about it and maybe she will say sorry.
If you are leading towards never letting her come over to your house again then, it is not worth it!
but yes, it was rude of her.
2007-04-22 12:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by 9876578 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋