smacking....naughtey step....?

Question

i smack my 3 girls

i find it very affective.

i find the naughtey step only ever works with my 2yr old and thats very rarely.

they seem to find it like a big game they will do somthing and get put on the step say sorry do it again and laugh when they are sat on the step.

so now i useually sitthem on the step andif they do itagain smack there bottems


does any one else have this problem?

Answer 1

i think for the naughty step to work you have to be persistent, and dont give in at all, and we all know thats easier said then done
whwn i was a kid i got smacked when i was naughty, now as an adult i dont say it did me any harm, i was a loved child and not abused in any way
The trouble these days is we cant raise our kid how we see fit, its all wrong
it was in the paper, some guy took his kid to the dentist, the kid was being really naughty, the dad tried several tactics before finally smacking his son, i mean one smack on the bum, not a full blown beating, the dentist rang social vservices and the dad got in deep trouble
i smack my daughter when i see fit to, i dont mean really hard, but just enough so she knows what she is doing is wrong or dangerous, and i only smack her as a last resort
i feel we as parents should have the right to discipline our kids as we see fit, as long as we are not harming them in any way, but this nanny state prevents it , its all wrong

Answer 2

So the naughty step doesn`t work. And when you smack - what results do you get then ? Does that work ? And in what way ? That they are crying and miserable now and you feel you`ve won....?
Wrong - you lost hands down.
And what will you do if you keep on losing ? Smack harder ?
Review your use of the naughty step. There is only supposed to be one child there at any given time. If 2 are naughty at the same time seperate them. How about early bed time or no tv for the rest of the day, or missing out on a treat ? And stick to your word. I think you might find this is more effective than causing them physical pain. Once they`ve done their time on the naughty step why does it make you angry that they laugh ? That`s like saying to the man who comes out of prison, " you come out with a smile on your face after you`ve served your time mate - happy to be released - you`re gonna get a punch !"
You`re getting much too worked up about this. Three small girls together are bound to be giddy and giggly. They sound happy enough - why would you want them miserable...?

Answer 3

I disagree with smacking...I feel that it promotes the use of physical "assault" ( for use of a better word). It lets kids "know" that hitting someone is the answer to a problem and this can cuse problems in the future. Especially in the school system where children are taught that they shouldnt touch another person in that way!

However Im not judging you when I say that!!!

Others way other than naughty step is taking things away from them such as a favourite toy, the tv out of their room, pocket money etc. A chart is good to show them visually the consequences of their actions!

Also talking to the child abotu what you felt was "wrong" and why and what you prefer them to do.

Then use positivity such as hugs, a well done, a smile, a trip to macdonalds (occasionally) to let them know when they're on the right track and that good things happen when they are gooD!

Answer 4

I think you are kind of missing the point with the naughty step.
You keep repeating it until they get fed up of being on the step. Don't show how annoyed you are - this is rewarding their behaviour. It only works on young children. Older ones will think it is a laugh, so you need other techniques for them. Also, the fact that they are still misbehaving would indicate that smacking does not bother them enough to stop them.

They are clearly doing this because they know it winds you up. Therefore use a different strategy, ignore the behaviour of the naughty child and give your attention to the children who are behaving. Play with them, praise their behaviour (do not mention or compare them to the naughty child). Refuse all eye contact with the child who is misbehaving. If they scream and carry on say ' I don't talk to children who scream at me, I like children who' and describe the behaviour you want from them. Don't let them draw you into an argument. The minute they start behaving as you want, pay them attention and praise them.

Believe me, nothing wipes the smile of the face of a child misbehaving to get your attention than being ignored. Think how angry we are when a friend or colleague deliberately blanks us.

I had two kids and rarely smacked. With hindsight and better techniques, even those few times could have been avoided, because I smacked from anger and frustration.

It may look the easy option, but positive parenting techniques will last you right through the teens, whereas smacking has a limited shelf life. It can indicate to the child that you feel your authority is weak, because you had to smack them to get them to stop.

Answer 5

Yes I think parents have every right . The state should not interfere unless it is brutaliastion.The behaviour of children is atrociauos , screaming tantrums in the library etc . It is diconcerting for everyone .
Quite a few months back a mother had girl twins one was good and sat in the pusher the other was a little madam, screaming the place down no matter what her mother did and quite obvious about it she looked at the other as if saying look IM GETTING AL THE ATTENTION. These are the girls that get pregnant and develop drug additction .

Answer 6

With the naughty step you have to be persistent. If they get off or mess around put them back. Don't engage in conversation and if you have to do it a hundred times, then that's what you have to do. It's soul destroying at times but I personally think it'll be worth it. Now my son knows if I say to go on the naughty step, he'd better go. I've never smacked any of my kids and never threatened to, they hate being sent to the naughty step as they're afraid of missing out on something and don't like being ignored. Personally I think smacking is just teaching violence. I know someone who when her kid smacks her she punishes by smacking back. What kind of message does this give a small child? With my older kids I just stop privileges. No computer forthe rest of the day, or not going out with friends etc. That hurts more than having a smack. Besides if you continue to smack your kids where will it end? What happens when they're older and you can't smack them and you then have to bring in another form of punishment that they refuse to accept? It's much easier to introduce a way at a young age that grows with the child than have to change totally.

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Answer 8

When you say you are having problems then it really isn't working for you right?

It may appear to be effective short-term but in the long run, while your children are scared of you, they may not open up to you in the future.

They learn to be sneaky when you aren't around to control their behavior and that technique doesn't teach them inner control.

They will do things on the sly to avoid getting caught, not think about what is right or good.


My favorite saying is:
Teach with our heads and hearts rather than with our hands and belts.
Effective discipline for us all in the house is kind, firm and safe. Smacking isn't a kind, firm or safe way to go about it.

Children's behavior occurs through imitation. You are the role model right??
Something to think about.



I don't have that problem so sorry, I am not of any help to you.

Answer 9

hi i have 4 children eldest is 16 yrs youngest is 9 yrs old i do not believe in smacking and have never done so i find other ways of punishment like taking away a favourite game/toy or take away ther tv for a week etc i treat my children how i would like to be treated and i would not want someone twice the size of me hitting me so ill be dammed if i,m going to do it to the most precious things in my life and might i add my children have grown up very well and respect me and other elders

Answer 10

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