I'm 20 and have never had a girlfriend. I've been on one date. I've asked for 3 and gotten 3 yes's but got stood up twice (once for good reason). I have very little friends, and I'm socially awkward and shy. I can't help being this way, and it has caused me to have low self confidence that I'll ever stop being alone.
2007-04-20 21:35:02 · 7 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you sound just like my boyfriend use to be.
he was 20 when i met him, no girlfriend, still a virgin and no friends.
he was very unsure of himself but i worked with him and he is now somewhat happy with himself and getting better. we have been together about 2 years and i have never been happier. i promise you, you will find someone.
my boyfriend never thought he would find a girlfriend but he did.
so dont worry. just know there is hope out there and dont give up.
2007-04-20 22:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! We all have felt this way. Every person, everywhere, throughout all of time has felt this way. The issue is not that you feel this way, but rather what are you willing to do about it? How much of an effort are you willing to make to be the best you can be? There are two main things to do:
1) Good grooming. Wash, floss, cut, comb, brush, spray, etc. You need to take pride in your physical apearence--get in shape, clothes that fit, a smell that smells good on you... Look in the mirror, figure out what you don't like, then figure out what can reasonably be changed, and do it. Just remember, every one likes something diffrent, so be happy w/you, because that is the key to finding someone else who will be happy with you.
2) Find something you LOVE, not a hobby, not a job, not something you do to kill time, or to meet people, but something you LOVE. Find the thing that inspires you, the thing you can be passionate about, and then...be passionate. Learn everything you can about it, study it, immers yourself in it, make it your life. And it will lead you to other things... other passions, other places... and your life will come together while you aren't looking, because you'll be too caught up in living it.
It is when you feel strongly about something and there is passion in your voice when you talk about it (as long as you actually know what it is you're talking about) that you are your most atractive. Don't lose hope, your world is still young, and there is much to be explored...
Wishing you the best,
Kellgirl27
2007-04-20 22:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain a bit. I'm a bit introverted and don't date often (one part due to the fact I want to finish College before I get into anything serious, the other part due to me being a dolt around women), but you have to have faith in yourself and the confidence to know that someone is out there for you.
Go out, meet people! Find something you enjoy and do it. Who knows what'll happen?
2007-04-20 21:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA!! definite, daily! My 3 twelve months previous under no circumstances shuts up. My 17 month previous is beginning as much as chat ALOT. I long for the day as quickly as I could have greater effective than a three sentence communique with my husband returned!!!
2016-12-26 17:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by padillo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I find very often to believe in my self. For you maybe join a club or a hobby something to get you mixing with people.
2007-04-20 21:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem at your age (worse), then I met "Susan", "LOVE COMES WALKING IN" ! We have been together since we were both 20, we've been together 20 years, are married with 2 kids, stay the course my man, one day it's gonna just show up on you, and "WHOOOMP, THERE IT IS" !
2007-04-20 21:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better speak your mind & heart out once in a while. It will make you feel good.
2007-04-20 21:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Buddy Hodor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋