Why is everyone in America a Victim of Something?

Question

Honestly it seems everybody plays the victim card somewhere. Always saying things like "I am fat because my parents put too much food on the table when I was little". People are always willing to blame someone else but never take any responsibility themselves. Why is this in American Culture. What ever happened to the days of people taking responsibilty and not blaming it on a sickness or hardship or other problems or people?

Answer 1

Please, Look what happen in Virgina, The man was from S.Korea and he blamed everybody for his hardships, The Victim Card plays everywhere across the world, Not just the U.S. I would like to know where your from so that I can research your culture and see how many murders/rapist/ violate criminals you have that blamed someone else for their problems.

Answer 2

First off: Where are you from? Your question didn't say, so I was just curious. Second, I read all the other responses and I totally agree with Monica & Kayla (among others). It's ridiculous. I think the problem is liberals. Liberals always want to blame someone else, say someone is "oppressed" and can't get ahead because of that. Or because there were slaves like 200 years ago. Not trying to minimize that at all, but that's enough time to recover and come out runnin. Or gays saying they're oppressed because they can't get married (which is illegal). They should respect our government, whether they disagree or not with the leadership. You can disagree without being DISRESPECTFUL. I have no problem with other points of view, others expressing those or even discussing them with people who think differently than myself, *as long as they are respectful*. I do not think that because I am a white, upper-middle-class, female, Republican that I am reverse discriminated against. But since I don't fall into any special interest group I can't say anything (as I suspect I will get a couple nasty responses on here to this answer from those same people). They can say whatever they want while playing the victim, but I can't? It seems like I'm the one who's being oppressed and made the victim here almost...

Answer 3

Honestly have you ever met me? Do you know how many people are in this country and you simply say everyone?! But you're right they sure do like to play the blame game here don't they? Denial is a biggie here too and exactly no will take responsibility for their own actions. Trust me I understand and it makes me sick, try hanging out with these people it's a real drag. I take full responsibility for everything I've done or do it's help me to be who I am today and I'm a American woman!

Answer 4

Just as in the Va. Tech. killings, there are reasons behind why people do things, both genetic and environmental. It is only scientifically reasonable to look for and examine the facts behind human acts. This is not playing the "victim card."

Americans do take responsibility for their own actions. That's why we have so many people incarcerated - more than any other Western nation. A good example would be Timothy McVeigh who clearly stated the reasons (Waco and Ruby Ridge as clear evidence, in his mind, of Federal warfare against the citizenry), for his bombing of the Oklahoma Federal Building. He did take full responsibility and went to the death chamber with a responsible, almost noble, conviction.

Answer 5

There will be no proving this, however, it is my opinion that the takers are always "victims" and the givers seldom are? True?

I don't think it is only the US, either, judging from UK friends, they seem to having a new class of takers there also, who contribute little to society, but stand in line for every giveaway available; and then complain bitterly of the government and how unfair everyone else is to them. Other countries, as well?

Answer 6

I agree everyone has a sad story to tell, but I don't think it's an excuse to be an under achiever. There are lots and lots of ppl that have been s.hit on and they're doing great things!

I know what you're saying about America, but I think other countries have their debbie downers too.

Answer 7

Boo hoo... I'm tired of it too. I had a crappy childhood, just like a lot of you, but I've refused to let that define who I am. I've tried to make something of my life in spite of my past. Honestly, I think it's just easier to be miserable and to blame it on something else. What a sad exsistence!
What has happened is that we have a generation of parents that have coddled their kids because they want to give them the things that they never had, not that there's anything wrong with that. But, kids feel as if they are entitled and don't have to earn what they have and parents are so quick to jump into the picture so their kids won't have to take responsibility when they do something wrong.

Answer 8

Well I just have to put in my two cents also.

Wouldn't it be logical in a society that holds lawyers in high regard and pays them huge fees, that the society would then become a "suing" society? You have to be a victim in order to sue and make a buck off it.

When being a victim pays off, and our society condones it, what should we expect?

But the only way to really better ones life is to be responsible for oneself, and make ones conditions better, oneself.

Answer 9

I would think that it's got something to do with the oversupply of lawyers in the USA. They make their money by playing on people's misfortunes and encouraging them to sue each other. Thus, helping to create the 'it's everybody else's fault and not mine' mentality. It's big money.

Answer 10

Probably about the same time that state welfare programs took over the charity formerly handled at a local level, by churches & families. Also, the system just keeps it going. If you blame the right people you just could get rich! Like the b*tch who spilled coffee ON HERSELF and then sued McDonalds.