What would you do if you made plans with a friend and that person never showed or called to canceled?

Answer 1

I would call and ask why they didn't show, and if there wasn't a good enough answer, I simply would not make plans with them again, of course I would be polite and pleasant with them, And if then situation should rise again and there where plans to go out, I would ask" Are you going to stand me up".

Answer 2

Things do happen, trips to the emergency room, the police station, illness. But, it seems, when these things really happen, the person usually manages to call to explain why they could not be with us. I think it is the human love of drama, we call from an E.R., but not when we are lazy, or made other plans.
My friend used to do that, and when she did show up, she was way late. She doesn't do that anymore. I think she grew up, and realized the world does not travel around her. And for reasons none of her friends understood, every friend she had was an early bird, show up unless almost dead kind of person. Maybe she decided to keep us.
Being me, I would call, feign interest or concern about where they were, thus forcing the person to think up a lie to tell me about where they were. You find out who your friends really are that way. Anyway, they will eventually let it slip, or somebody tells on them, so you might could skip the pretend compassion, and just wait, if you have mutual friends, or see the friend a lot, you'll find out.
And if it bothers you, stay away from that "friend", or if you want to keep her, start asking questions, like, "are you going to show up, or should I ask so and so to come too, so I won't be sitting by myself in the restaurant again" Or, choose the nonconfrontational method, and invite someone else along, so you won't end up alone.
Good luck.

Answer 3

You can't be mad until you hear their excuse. Ask what happened? If their excuse is that they had a family or personal emergency, then of course, you immediately forgive them. Also express concern for whatever person experienced the emergency.
If their excuse is something lame, like "I just forgot," then don't sweat the small stuff. You may remind them on how you were expecting them, and were disappointed they didn't show. No need to dwell anymore after that.
If the friend continually cancels out on appts. with you, you need to seriously consider whether or not this person is worth even calling a friend.

Answer 4

A true friend would call, whether it's the one that ditched or the one that got stood up. If both of you are making the effort to resolve the situation, then that's a good sign.
If you've called and left a message, I'd give it a couple of days. After that, if still no response, a simple request to explain the behavior is fair. No response after that? You may have to move on because your friend may be a real flake.

Answer 5

It depends on several things. Is it a reoccurring theme with this person? How much of an investment have you made with this friend? A newer friend you only see so often or a long time friend you see frequently?

If it's a one time deal and out of character, I would (after making sure s/he is OK) just chalk it up to life happening.

If it's a regular situation, talk with your friend and let him/her know you feel disrespected and hurt when s/he doesn't seriously value your time.

If it's a newer relationship, set boundaries regarding setting dates with each other.

If this is out of character you may also wish to watch for signs of depression. Perhaps s/he originally committed to go but could not find the motivation to actually get out of the house.

Answer 6

First thing I would do is give her a call and just say "Hey what happened to you the other night?" Then I'd take it from there. Now if she doesn't answer when you call, leave a message to call you back when she gets a chance. If she doesn't call you back within 2 days, then I would try one more time to get a hold of her. Chances are she either was so busy she forgot or something important came up and didn't realize she needed to call you. Don't sweat it too much. Take it step by step and day by bay. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Waiting without calling or contacting someone is really not a good idea; best to call and see what happened. I usually accept only once a forgotten invitation, even if it is one for supper; but the second time they are basically dropped from my social contacts.

I'm still civil to them, might invite them to large parties, but have little to do with them, because they have shown how little they actually care about me.

Answer 8

Don't sweat the small stuff. People are different, so sometimes it is good to accept them for who they are. Perhaps your friend has a problem committing, or maybe something important came up. (Note that somehting important to her may not be important to you.) Life is too short to get upset over a friend cancelling.

Answer 9

There are many possibilities. A friend of mine was stood up once by a date and it turned out that a family member of his had died. I once forgot to go to a friend's house for a special lunch -- there was a big snowstorm and I just stayed in. Give the friend the benefit of the doubt. You can talk to him/her about it if you want to, but be kind.

Answer 10

It's always wise to call about 2-3 hours before the meeting to confirm.

Call her to find out what happened. If she gives a lame excuse, don't be her friend anymore.