...and i believe him.
At first he was sweet
Then yelled a lot
And now hes starting to physically hurt me. He knows hes doing it because right after he apoligizes about it and says he wont ever do it again. He loves me, i know he does and i love him more than anything.
I dont know what to do anymore. Ive had people ask me how i got bruises (that hes given me) and i have to lie about it. It makes me really sad.
But i REALLY cant live without him.
What should i do ?
2007-04-20 17:41:45 · 21 answers · asked by Danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get strong, or get used to it.
2007-04-20 17:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must say that you're wrong!!! You can live without him. He has just made you think that you need him when in fact he needs you more than you need him. However, he only needs you in order to feel "high and mighty" about himself. To give him selfgratification. What he's doing is very wrong and illegal! Unfortunately, many women have and do face the same problem you are currently facing. He doesn't deserve you. Think about it, what do you see when you watch love movies. The man holds the woman in his gentle embrace, kissing her softly, and telling her he loves her. Do you ever see a happy love story with an abuse scene? No! Why? Because it doesn't make sense. Abuse isn't supposed to be part of the picture. As a matter of fact, not only have many women sustained major bodily injuries, but some have even been killed! If you don't get out soon, that could happen to you! I don't want that to happen to you. I don't want that to happen to anyone. Nobody deserves to be hurt! Not even you! People love and care about you and want only what's best for you. He only wants what's best for himself. He doesn't care about your well being. He just wants selfgratification. In order for you to get out of this relationship, you must prepare before hand. First, tell your parents, family, and friends what he does to you. Next, go to the police and ask what they can do to help you. Ask for a restraining order. Last, bring back-up with you when you break up with him. Without doing these things, he will likely hurt you even worse than before and may even kill you! One more thing. Please, I beg of you, take my advice. My parents are both in law enforcement so I've heard many cases where the man beats up the woman and seriously harms her. I don't want you to be another victim. You have too much to live for to sacrifice your own life for his pleasure. You'll be in my prayers. May God and St. Michael be with you.
2007-04-21 01:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by bond_fan_001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the CYCLE OF ABUSE. Abusive men do this and it will never get any better. Why can't you live without him? Will you die or will you disintigrate into infinity? Of course you can live without him. GET HELP!!! It is not normal for a guy to hit someone and leave bruises. Stop seeing this person. You can still love him, but let him go. You can seek counseling. Call the hotlines and get info asap. Don't stay with this abuser. All abusers cry and beg, then they do it again. Its a never ending cycle. Please take care of yourself and run for your life...literally.
2007-04-21 00:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw sweety, i'm really sorry but you would be much better off without him. it may be hard to think about and may seem devastating but he's abusive and abuse is NEVER okay. maybe you should give him an ultimatum that if he doesn't do some sort of therapy etc, that you're leaving. he may say some nasty hurtful things but know in your heart that they are not true and that he is being possesive and trying to keep you under his control. in the end you will be soo much better. and if all else fails (he threatens you with more violence) you should find your local women's shelter and they will be able to help you from there.
GOOD LUCK
2007-04-21 00:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by L7Weenie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously getting abused by someone that you love and trust you need to get as far away from this person as possible.
No matter how much he says he loves you he will still continue to hurt you, dont believe a thing he says.
You will find a way to live without him although it might be a bit tough for the first few weeks, you will come to find that you are much better without him.
A leopard NEVER changes his spots. please get out of this relationship before its too late
2007-04-21 00:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by unfixingblowfish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES U CAN cmon now no one deserves to be hurt and it always starts out with yelling then moves on to worse things like the brusing, ur sad already because u lie, soon ull say at least its not as bad as before when ur ribs are broken, if u dont run now then at least DONT ARGUE WITH HIM and see if he stops if he doesent run like hell because its him with the problem and until u see it it will be u he hurts
2007-04-21 00:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by dwtnjuliebrown1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to leave him, things will only get worse, not better, and if he is bruising he better hope that a decent man never finds out, a decent man protects a woman and would never do anything to hurt her if they could help it (we're stupid sometime though and hurt women emotionally periodically but never physically) it isn't that you should leave him and I doubt you want to most of the time, but you simply HAVE to.
and I would suggest you call the police on him.
2007-04-21 00:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by diablo_gjones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you can't live without him...but the truth is you can't live with him. To stay with him he will either kill you or destroy you physically and emotionally. Abuse does NOT go away. It will happen again, and will get worse...he will separate you from your friends and family...will be suspicious and isolate you. When you have children, they will suffer the same or worse. GET OUT NOW!!!! Ignore the suicide threats and tears. He is confusing you right now...but soon he will be totally controlling you and you will be trapped
2007-04-21 00:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he's developed a pattern with you that he won't stop. You need to get out before he kills you.
I've been there, sweetie, and I know.
When I left my husband, I literally left with the clothes on my back. My mother had to buy me a toothbrush!
When you've had enough, you'll leave him. I know you say you love him, and I believe it's true. However, you will NOT change him, and he won't want to change himself, because he will truly believe it's YOUR fault.
Get out while you can.
Sandy
2007-04-21 00:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship or tell him to go to counseling. Any other option is stupid no matter how much you love him. There is never an excuse for one person to harm another person that they love mentally or physically.
2007-04-21 00:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The bruises will become broken bones.
The broken bones will become gunshot wounds.
The gunshot wounds will get even worse.
He's sorry, all right. Too bad this isn't the appropriate place to let us know where he is so we can go kick his *** around the block a few times.
You deserve better.
Don't let this asshole screw up your life, hon.
2007-04-21 00:46:50 · answer #11 · answered by Stuart 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋