Ok this is gonna be pretty long so i hope everyone reads through this thoroughly.
Well there's this girl that i like very much i mean i think i'm in love with her i've been trying to get her since 9th grade but now we're about to end our 10th grade year and i finally confessed to her friday night before i get to the details on friday night i'm gonna geto from begining to end. Well anyways we have so much in common and we're actually best friends.well everyone that we know thinks we should go out and we acted like we were also. I invited her to my house many times and we cuddled and she'd lay her head in my lap at night and stuff when we watched movies like she would litterally start at one side of the couch when it started and we'd be close by the end of it. anyways. On friday she was supposed to come over but i told her she couldn't and i think she took it wrong. My mom says she likes me and she's never wrong. but i asked her out and on friday night she sounded happy and everything
2007-04-20 17:20:28 · 13 answers · asked by Therev_d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and we talked for about 2 hours on the phone about me liking her and she was happy and we shared things about how she said i should have kissed her and things like that.but on monday i ask her for a yes or a no and she has tottally flipped on me and everything she tells me that she can't and things like that and how i'm not her type and other bullshit that i just don't believe in any kind of way.but that was on aim monday night and at school that monday she was like i don't know yet i just don't know. But i think she's pissed at me about me not letting her over on friday at least that's what my mom said when i told her she said women say these things to make men pissed and **** and want them more. does that sound stupid? i'm not giving up on her but i just would like to know what's going on or at least an idea.and lastly today we were talking like we usually do again nothing is awkward or anythin' should i try again to ask her out or should i wait for a good minute.
2007-04-20 17:20:43 · update #1
I mean i feel deeply for her i love her scent her personality everything about her. I just dont know how to handle this we're back on talking terms.for some reason i just dno't believe anything she is saying i can feel it i know when someone is lying and the way she said these things didn't make any sense because she contradicted herself a lot. she also was like
but 2 years that's so long you should have asked me last year. i was like did i ask you too late and she was like almost but on monday i asked her again and she was snappy and said i asked her too late. she also used to talk about how she hated her last boyfriend from last school year but then she said on monday that she cared about him i don't think that's true i think she's trying to get to me.even she said herself that it was like we were going out already when we talked on friday night.I don't want her to drift away. I also feel as tho i should try again and try to restart everything over from scratch like inviting her over
2007-04-20 17:21:06 · update #2
Also i know she used to hate me with a passion last school year because i was a jerk and she cussed me out one day and i changed for our second year of high school for her lol.We've been growing up together and it seems like we'll end up together i just hate all this waiting.
2007-04-20 17:22:36 · update #3
wow, that was a long story .lol.
Since you told her she couldnt go 2 ur house on fri, she probly piss bout that. jst give her a few dayz 2 cool off.
n u guys might b rushin in 2 fast cuz u guys jst confest ur luv 2 each other.
another reason would b that she is afraid that if things dont work out, u guys r not gonna b the same cuz u guyz were so close n all. but it took guts to tell a person that u like them after a yr or so, n u even change 4 her, thats sweet!!!
u even told us how much she h8s ur last bf, mayb she jst doesnt want to b hurt again.
another thing could be.... she thinks ur lyin 2 her, i mean not expressin ur feelins to her well enough 2 make her understand y she this important 2 u.
2007-04-20 17:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Melinnie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for her. She is really confused and needs some time to think. You can't rush her right now. If you do you could ruin the relationship. I think she really likes you too but is just trying to take things a little slower. If you don't slow down then you might loose her too. Wait until monday and then ask her privately if she is ok. If she says she is then you might be able to ask her again. Just be Patient.
2007-04-20 17:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by !~!GoTHPuNkChICk!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have just taken it wrong, go back a few steps, not back to the start. Back off a bit, go back to talking, be friends. When she's ready, she'll give the sign, but you've gotta be there and ready, know that even if she knows its a misunderstanding she may be angry. Let her cool off, don't push the issue, but don't let it sit and become a major problem
2007-04-20 17:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes playing hard to get, maybe she liked you in the beginning like when you said you liked her and stuff but then she started thinking about the reality of it and then stopped liking you, maybe she doesnt want to go out with you bc shes scared that if you guys break up you'll lose that friendship that you guys have now
2007-04-20 17:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm. girls talk to their girls and if your girl told her girls she was talking intimately to you, THEY might have said something to try to change their mind about you.
hate to say it because i LOVE my girls, but that is the first thing i thought of, other than the fact that she felt rejected when you told her not to come over.
you must speak very gently to girls/women. be careful with how you say "NO". you gotta start of with good news before you break bad news and then end with good news.
read "how to win friends and influence people" by dale carnegie.
anyway, encourage her to be her own person and consider all you both have shared, that you want to be with her.
2007-04-20 17:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Gailybird - The Illest Violinist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DRAMA QUEENS will do this to guys. They will make you fall for them. I'm in one right now. And i'm trying to get out of it. Advice act like you don't like her. Also never and I mean never let a girl know how much you like her. Trust me it works.
2007-04-20 17:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell her again, that you really care for her and want her to be your girlfriend. Tell her that you want an answer and if it is no, you need to end your friendship so you can get over her.
2007-04-20 17:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand firm and tell her you have to see her no matter what! Plant the most incredible kiss on her that you can think of and tell her how beautiful she is. She will melt like butter in your hands.
2007-04-20 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are to young to worry about getting that involved with anyone if you like her plan a trip to the movies and take things one step at a time
2007-04-20 17:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me she doesnt want to lose you as a friend. most people are not friends with their ex's and maybe shes worried that if it doesnt work out as a bf/ gf relationship you guys wont be friends n e more
2007-04-20 17:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by jujubeee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋