Boost my self-esteem?

Question

I have very low self-confidence because I just don't think I'm pretty. From my picture on my 360 many people have told me I was cute, but I have trouble believing it. How can I boost my self-esteem?

Answer 1

I think this question is an excuse to show off "your" picture. I don't think it's you.

Answer 2

Self esteem is a very hard thing to manufacture. If your image issues are really related to your looks, you are deluding yourself. You are a very attractive looking girl.

Personally, I suspect that you low confidence stems from something else. Without knowing more I can only guess. But the two most likely things are you were told through your childhood by someone that you were not pretty, and this has been ingrained and you are having trouble getting past it. Or, you have an older sister, or cousin, or a friend, that is very attractive as well, but is more open and outgoing than you. This would cause you to feel like they got all the attention and you may have blamed it on looks.

You are a beautiful person, and from your brief question you seem articulate and intelligent. I hope you find a way to deal with this, because you have no cause for a lack of confidence.

If you want to contact me, I'd be happy to discuss it further. If you contact me by the e-mail option in answers, I won't know your e-mail address, so it's still anonymous if you're worried about that.

Otherwise good luck.

Answer 3

I heard that having lowself esteem comes from your bad experiences while growing up. Somehow, who ever it was that hurt your ego, whether it was said to your face, you were a victim of gossip, your tease by people around you including your family, or worse, there was a person that was always into image.....those can be the source of your problem now.....anyway....it is really not a problem....you are just caught with it. I bet you, you are a beautiful woman or girl. You just have not seen it. To see it, you have to look around you....look at your hair...you're not happy with it? Think how you look like without your hair - which do you prefer? Look at your eyes? with or without? And go over all the beautiful parts of your body - Would you exchange that to other girl's body parts? Of course not. To tell you the truth, sometimes it is like cursed being very beautiful. You will be facing envious friends, rapist, stalker, branded like you owe "it" to your looks not your brain, and so forth and so on.....I also read in an article that these beautiful women (Angelina Jolie, Lindsey Lohan, Demi Moore...and other actresses) have the same as what you have in their younger days...Look at them....they are beautiful women....make-up also help....but only when you need it. Just be genuine...be the best on what you're doing....be it at work, at school, at home, church, party, anywhere you put yourself...remember, you, yourself and (your name _____) are you bestfriends...talk to them and tell them "you are so fine, girl". Don't make a mistake by thinking that you are not going to be the most popular - the answer is probably you will not be for other reason, but not because of that thing that make your self esteem low....find that "thing" in yourself and try to fight it if it's the culprit...if you think you don't feel good in bathing suit, don't wear bathing suit then (if you can't fight that thought)..consequences is that you miss on some fun in the water...don't worry....your problem will go away by itself...sooner if you will not worry about it all the time.

Answer 4

Self-esteem is worthless. Self-esteem is saying "I'm a really great person". You can say that to yourself till you're blue in the face and you'll still feel terrible about yourself. You need self-concept, that is be honest with yourself. Find something you're either good at or feel good doing and do whatever that is. Feel confident in what you do well and not let what you don't do as well affect you. Realize everyone has shortcomings.

The starting of feeling good about yourself starts with feeling good about doing something. You'll gain confidence from that. To feel good about yourself you have to figure out what you do well.

Answer 5

Try a simple thing that could actually help a lot, write a list of good things about yourself. Also just tell yourself that you are pretty, the amount of self-confidence you have is how much you decide to have, so change the thoughts about yourself and just think positively.

Answer 6

Why do you care what strangers think about you? Is being physically attractive that important? How shallow is that? Even if you were the most beautiful woman on the planet, the fact that you care what a billion other people that you don't even know think about you is cause for deeper reflection on yourself - not just how cute you might be.

Answer 7

hmmmm lets see here have you had many bf's. or do you talk to alot of boys. or guys men w/e do you prefer guys as friends or girls?¿ what about firend you got alot of those. and you are pretty. i think the more you here that it will help boost your esteem. but to much and you will subconsiously start taking it for granted. thats not good. try talking to more peopple and that the more people you talk to the better you will feel. it might be hard to meet new people. but you gotta try. just say hey whats up and try. but yeah i dont know what else to say but good luck.

Answer 8

Try thinking less about yourself.

Try to do something that will make you feel good about yourself. Try to do volunteer work. Visit a lonely neighbor. Helping someone else WILL make you feel good about yourself.

Exercise, following a good diet, taking vitamins will also improve your physical health. When you feel good, physically, you feel good mentally.

Don't surround yourself with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Some people try to make others around them miserable so they'll feel better. It's juvenile, but it's the truth.

Finally, if people tell you you're cute, then you are!!!

Answer 9

Believe in yourself and don't worry about others. Be confident in yourself and your self esteem will improve. Be assertive and focus on the things you like about yourself.

Answer 10

Have you ever heard of Jack Canfield? Download one of his audio books... He is a great help. Also... The movie "The Secret" and "What the bleep do we know" will be an eye opener for you. Only you can change how you feel. People telling you won't help, you have to convince yourself.

Answer 11

just realise you are who you are,and by the way, you ARE cute..so many people are never happy with how they look, it is just the way we are..i have even had doubts about my self, then i realised i cant change my looks much at all..so i say to you, let people accept you just the way you are and be happy with your life. there is also a thing called inner beauty in a person, i bet yours is as bright as the morning sun..so keep shining for yourself.