Well.. my fiance now. We've been dating for almost a year. He's gone out of state for 4 months, and coming back in a week. Im 20 and he's 8 years older. We only had sex ones before. But im still shy about it since we did it one time and he'll be a changed person when he comes back. I do want to but am shy and he'll probably want to. What do you guys think?
2007-04-20 16:38:34 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I would hold off, as he may want the sex, but not be as concerned as the person he is having it with as he should be
2007-04-20 16:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're an adult and old enough to make your own decision. You've done it once, so you know what it's about. I don't know why you expect him to be a "changed person" when he returns but unless he's been having sex with someone else, he's likely to be a h0rney one.
You need to do what is right for you in this situation. Nobody else can tell you what that is. Don't feel pressured and don't do anything out of obligation or because you think it is expected...do it because you want to do it, or don't do it at all.
2007-04-20 16:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your decission that nobody can make for you, but I would advise waiting. If your relationship is right the sex will happen naturally and comfortably. To often people explore sex in search of love lost only to find they are dissatisfied with the results later. Build your relationship first, trust yourself to know when it is right for you. Don't fall prey to peer-preasure, or feel you have to if you want to keep him. If the later happens, it will probably not work out in the long run. Hang in there and reap the reward of a strong relationship that enjoys intimacy for closeness and not a requirement.
2007-04-20 16:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by BappaPear270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ask yourself if this is something you wont regret the next day or the following week; then, if you are not sure then dont do it! regardless of the fact that you've had sex with him once before. if it is something that you are not totally comfortable with then just wait until you do feel sure. maybe you should just wait til marriage. intimacy is something special that should be shared with that someone special. in the end, you have the final say...
2007-04-20 16:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you been togather 1 year he has been gone 4 months and your to be married.......no no no no no no no,chances are he's been sleeping around then i can almost say that for certain, also he is almost 30 you dont wanna marry into that older men tend to be controling over younger lady's your best bet would be to find some one your own age or closer to it.i see your furture being one of misery with him.
2007-04-20 16:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by tolliver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when the times right! Don't do it just because you think you should. Only do it if it feels like the right time! Make sure you guys still feel the same as when he went away! Take it slow and good luck to you!
2007-04-20 16:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute u said ur 20 N HES 28 WELL i think u all should be used 2 havin sex by now... im 14 and i already know bout all of this crap
2007-04-20 16:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>Should I have sex with my boyfriend?
The two of y ou have already committed fornication.
The two of you have only been dating for 8 months -- excluding the 4 months he was away.
He is a lot older than you; conversely, you seem too young for marriage, at least for someone that much older than you.
I think you should wait until you have that wedding band on your finger, until the Clergyperson has pronounced the two of you "husband and wife", whom no one shall separate until death do you part.
2007-04-20 16:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by coming here and asking a bunch of people you don't know to make your major life decisions for you. Hey, if you already did it ones [sic], do it again, and then the third time's a charm.
2007-04-20 16:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has been gone for 4 months and you are shy, I would say rebuild the relationship.
2007-04-20 16:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋