If a 14 year old male molested a 4 year old girl and plea bargins to gross sexual imposition - should parents within his school district be notified that there child could be sitting next to a child molestor in English class??? Give your opinion - especially if you live out in Bellvue, Nebraska!
2007-04-20 16:37:11 · 22 answers · asked by KaseyT33 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh, by the way - the boy - as a first time offender received court ordered counseling and probation - I think counseling is a necessity and if it is considered a punishment then you are on a mental health care slippery slope. Soooo, that leaves probation as his "punishment" - since I (and I'm assuming most of you) are law abiding citizens) what is the big deal about probation. Since I obey the law daily, what is the big deal about probation - where is the negative consequence to his actions??? So, you deserves protecting more - the child molestor or his potential victims??? Yes, he doesn't go to school with a bunch of 4yr olds, but who is to say one of his friends doesn't have a little sister???
2007-04-20 17:09:32 · update #1
i think the safety of all supercedes the rights of one so yes i think the parents should be notified
2007-04-20 16:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I definitely live outstide Bellvue, Nebraska. West coaster and quite northerly. Yes ... parents should be notified but more importantly the 14-year-old needs some serious counselling. He's at that precarious age where if he doesn't get help now it becomes an ingrained behaviour pattern that will not only mess up his life but potentially others as well. At that age it's questionable whether or not it becomes repetetive and incurable. He needs to be made fully aware of the consequences of his actions... seriously. I would suspect there is more to his acting out than meets the eye. The conditions should weigh heavily on a thorough psychiatric evalution and ensuing therapy if the behaviour can be modified to ensure the behaviour does not reoccur. Touchy subject. I've known of some miracles but they are few and far between.
2007-04-20 16:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by OP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That a really tough one. While he is still a minor some information about him is protected, unless he was tried and plea bargined as an adult.
Personally as a parent I would want to know.
My children went to school with a boy who raped a neighbor at the age of 13. It was not common knowledge and was not publized to protect the girl. (same age) I only knew about it because my children were friends with the girl. It always made me uncomfortable about him being within the school system.
2007-04-20 16:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Queen Has Spoken 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this were an adult who was the perpetrator, absolutely, but this is another young man, another child. You tell the parents and this young man ends up physically harmed, or worse, and you are culpable for that.
This is best left to the professionals - the police, campus security, principals, bus drivers, teachers - to handle. As long as they are aware of the situation, they can take the proper measures to either ensure that it does not happen again or provide you with the legal procedures to put the young man behind bars.
Vigilantism may appeal to you because you desperately want revenge for the little girl but it will not help anyone. It won't help the little girl heal and it won't "cure" or "teach" the young man anything. Calm down and please let the legal system handle this.
Peace,
Jenn
2007-04-20 16:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ABSOLUTELY. My daughter was the victim of a sexual assault. He was not a minor but its no less painful. This kid will probably grow up to do really really bad things. That is sick and wrong and a 14 year old knows right from wrong. He should be locked up somewhere until he is at least 18. He is big trouble waiting to happen.
2007-04-20 16:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is one, truly, and I would prefer parents knew what he had done and that he is in that school. I am not joking in the least. We do not support what he has done, it has affected so many lives, but we do understand how people feel, we are on both sides of the equation because we have the offender in our immediate family and a victim. Most of the small children in our close but not immediate family became victims and I am all for knowledge being shared.
2007-04-20 16:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not possible under the present laws for the school to notify about this minor in age person but there is nothing to stop a parent who is sure of what is going on to pass the message on then have a large group confront the school authorities~~
2007-04-20 16:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would call the child protective services because the school isn't protecting your child by even having him in school because there are schools for someone like him or the parents can home teach him its not only to protect the kids but him to because of false accusation by parent and children if they find out. i know as a parent of 4 little girls the oldest being 12 i wouldn't want him around any of my kids not even if specialist say hes OK to be around!
2007-04-20 17:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they should defiently be notified!! But the thing about it is hes not mesing with kids his age he wants little kids..so hes already going to be a child molester. Its disgusting but maybe the reason they arent telling people is because they dont want everyone giving him a hard time at school and trying to kill him anything. I still think they should notify tho
2007-04-20 16:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course the parents should be notified. It is much more important for the children to be protected then a child molester that is a minor. Simple as that. Chances are he will molest again..........and again.
2007-04-20 16:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by dawnsdad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Absolutely. The school has a duty to inform the parents of a danger to their children.
2007-04-20 16:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋