It was peaceful with just me and my mother living here.I never wanted my brother to come back ever.I just want things to go back to the way they were.
* This is an urgent situation so please give me answers on lodging,jobs with benefits,ways to keep him out of the house for good.Please Help.No smart a** answers or you will be reported.
2007-04-20 16:05:51 · 12 answers · asked by ѕυρєя кαωαιι ¢нιнαяυ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
unless he is a drug addict or an abusive person why would you want your brother out of the house?
If he is that way inclined then your mother needs to be the one to make the call to get him out on his own & to be honest, I dont think any good mother would kick their kid out especially in a time of need,
If he is not in need, then maybe he just wants to be close to his mother & his sister? There is nothing wrong with that. Perhaps you need to grow up a little bit & realise that the world does not revolve around you. That is not a smartass answer either. You are coming accross as a bit possessive of your mother.
Have you thought about what she wants? Maybe she is loving the fact that her son is home. If he is too old to be living back at home then I seriously doubt he will be there for long, maybe he just needs to sort his life out a little & home is the best place for that.
Enjoy this time while you can, you will move out one day & will cherish these memories....providing you let them be good ones instead of behaving like a spoit brat who wants your mother all to yourself.
IF your brother is only there because he HAS to be & doesnt want to be there as much as you say you dont want him there then get him to look online (www.realestate.com for america .com.au for australia etc) or in the newspapers classifieds section. A job will help him move out faster.
2007-04-20 16:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to tell that you have to lower your head and be second. But we have to understand that sometimes we have to come to negotiate.
I can understand that there has to be a very good reason for you to ban your own brother from house. If you got reasons, discuss with your mom, because she has to take the descision.
But you have to understand that your mother's descision is the final descision on this situation.
You have to choose a way to solve the question than getting things worse.
Do not hurt anyone for your benifit.
I wish you good luck to come out of the troubles. May peace be by your side.
2007-04-28 02:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is your mother's child too. She has as much love for him as for you, let's hope. He deserves as much - and I say that knowing nothing at all about him.
You need to appreciate that - because some day you will possibly be a parent also and remember the childsh perceptions of kids who are used to the world being very small and revolving around them. It's part of growing up to see your world get bigger and more complicated.
2007-04-28 16:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure your place of resident's, but I live in Canada, and have worked many years in the Oil patch. They offer great wages, schooling and the best of the best accommodations. You may convince him to look there. Full on hands training.
2007-04-27 12:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
will be ok this is the way i look at it, if you are close with your mom why would you give that up just because he is back? your mom will have to set down the law with him, and i think you should try to get along because life is so short. you can never know how long you will have your mom or your brother in your life. i say try it if it dint work out then talk to your mom and tell her how you feel see what she says.
2007-04-20 23:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by attitude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me you have a bit of a childish nature. Has it occurred to you that your mom might like having both of her kids living at home? Is he abusive to you or your mom? Does he use drugs or is he an alcoholic? The best advice I can give you is DEAL WITH IT! If you sabotage his time living with you and your mom, it will change the way your mom looks at you. You will lose whatever respect she may have for you.
2007-04-21 00:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that's a shame, talk to him and see if it's something he's doing that you don't like. You really should work it out because a brother-sister relationship is a special thing.
2007-04-20 23:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do you have the right to live there and he doesn't??
2007-04-27 10:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to show your brother as much love as you possibly can. He needs you and his mother.
2007-04-20 23:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by JUJUBABE 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Don't report me. It's not your decision, it's your Mom's.
Unless you own the house.
2007-04-20 23:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋