Sister wearing low rise jeans...How a Brother should discourage it?

Question

Hi. I live with my sister and dad (divorce). Me and my sister get along ok (we have the occasional sibling fights, but thats about it). Lately she seems to be following the trend of low-rise jeans. Frankly I wouldn't care, except she's ALWAYS SHOWING HER BUTT OR HER UNDERWEAR!

Honestly, some days if say we are doing spring cleaning, I'll unintentionally get half mooned at by her or find out what color underwear she is wearing. I feel tempted to yell "crack kills" or make fun of her underwear, something like that.

Real reason though, I care for my sister and she being 16, I do not want other guys (or older men) to look at her as a sex toy.

How should I convince her to stop wearing low risers, or at least get a belt? If I can see what color her underwear is and what brand it is WHILE she's standing, or if I can see her butt...that's a problem.

*Sigh* Seriously I am tired of seeing her underwear/crack...

Thanks!

Answer 1

first of all, talk to her when she's in a good mood
be honest, and don't be accusing
if u guys get along well she'll probably listen to u
u could also try buying her a couple of cute belts

Answer 2

Two ways this can go:

1). Just sit down with her and talk about it. It seems she can come to you for stuff. It may seem a little weird at first, but trust me it won't be too bad. Just go like "Lately everyone can see your underwear..." or "Your underwear/butt crack keeps showing, I think you are giving off the wrong sign to boys...". It's nice to see a brother who cares for his sister. Like someone posted earlier, give her a cute belt for her birthday or something... that may give a subtle hint about her underwear problem.

2). Make fun of her for it. When her underwear is showing, start describing the colors out loud. Sneak up behind her, grab that underwear and give her a wedgie she'll never forget. Have her friends join in. If her crack shows, make a joke about it, or drop some ice down it. She'll get the point, and perhaps be glad it's her brother, not some boy at school.

I recommend #1 over #2...unless things get desperate.

Answer 3

Show her that the new style is long tunics. That's long tops over jeans. Find some of those pictures in the Sunday paper or a magazine, and show it to her. Tell her you really like the new style. And with the low rise jeans, no one was ever supposed to see her underwear! Tell her that in a nice way if you can. Even if she gets mad at you, it'll be in her head.. Good luck.

Answer 4

Thats what older siblings are for...to impart wisdom upon the younger ones. I know most teens like to keep up with the times so to speak, but if it REALLY is out hand, then let her know in a nice way that it just looks slutty. But be sure that youre just not playing the father role instead of big brother role. Keep a good relationship with her, cuz who knows? She just might be rebelling due to the divorce...could be screaming for attention. Whatever you discover the reason is, take it slow and TALK to her..dont scold! Let her know that guys might like to look at gals dressed like that, but few will start a relationship.

Answer 5

My first reaction to reading your question was " it's none of your business, you don' t get to control her just because she is your sister", but after reading the details, I think you need to do something for sure. Your concern is legit. Since she is 16, you should say something to your parents. She is a child and shouldn't be showing her body in such a provocative way. It is both unwise and unsafe. Try approaching the authority figures in your home, if that doesn't work then it may be helpful to simply tell her why you are concerned, and offer to take her shopping. Tell her she is worthy of respect and dignity and that her current attire is not good enough for her.

Answer 6

ok this is definitely not a good trend for girls. You couold try talking to her but that could be really uncomfortable, o don't do the whole "hey we should talk deal" lol just be like hey i can see your underwear, or you could have a conversation in front of her wiht one of your guy friends where you guys talk about girls that wear their pants really low and how its so not attractive then she'd get the hint, i know it seems immature but girls are hard to get through at that age, especially when it comes to something so many people are doing!

Answer 7

In the long run- it's not that big a deal. Kids naturally rebel and it's better this than drinking or drugs or sleeping around. Talk to her respectfully about how you're a little weirded out by the situation- but don't attack her, or she'll start hiding things from you too.

Answer 8

you are so sweet to care the way u do. do this my
friend just tell her when u all guys hang around what exactly u guys are talking about, tell her, how guys looks and feels when they look at any girl who is showing everything. tell her, the first thing comes in your minds is oh she is out there every where, easy thing, tell her, guys do not look at gales like human but like piece's of meet.
tell her the more the girls are loose, flirty, and some other stuff i can not mention here, the more guys just want to do her.
tell her the more she does this kind of stuff when and if some guy who is disent, kind, loving and so on...... will dump her. tell her for no reason she is
ruining her name, and style.
when a nice gentelman shows up in her life he would not care how she looks, he will care what is in her heart, in her soul, then he will respect her.
teach your sister about sespect, honer, and dignity from guys point of view.
and through all just tell her that you love her that is why it is so hurtfull when she does all those crapy thing it hurts you.

Answer 9

Talk to her about it in a lighthearted way. Ask her why she is wearing them? Is it comfort? Some people - myself included- wear them because it's the most comfortable kind of jeans. Others wear it for fashion. See what her priorities are. And above all, DON'T PRESSURE HER TO STOP!!!!! She will resent you and it will only make her do it even more or begin going for the ultra-low-rise. Trust me, I've been there.

Answer 10

Tell her to read up on the Tyra show, I am sure she will appreciate it when everyone says "hey, no one wants to see your underwear! Buy her a really cool belt or something... or just tell her point blank that it is trashy and unappealing to guys to see the underwear!

Answer 11

As as sister to three brothers. Yelling crack kills will work wonders, but do it an a way that she feels loved not rejected. My brothers would have went as far as to mimic the same behavior.