It starts out like this. My parents get really stressed whenever I mention marching band or percussion ensemble because my older sister use to be in marching band but she let it ruin her grades by focusing ONLY on band, she might not go to college and its what they REALLY want for us. So theyre afraid this will happen to me because Im in band. One day they got so angry they start yelling and screaming like the usually do since my mother is bi-polar and my father is a jerk. But this time theyre yelling at me. He slapped me, my mother tried to choke me but my dad stopped her. The next day after my dad goes to work my mother tells me I cant be in band, that I suck at it, that even if its my passion it doesnt matter. Than days later when theyre NORMAL again they say I can stay in band and she says she's sorry. But now I wont let them come to my percussion competitions, concerts, & other music related things. When she says she supports me on music I ignore her. AM I being too hard?
2007-04-20 15:40:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know they sound bad, well my father is of coarse...but my mother can't help if she says things like this but I can't help but hating her for the things she said...
2007-04-20 15:52:35 · update #1
i am sorry you have to suffer from your mother's disorder, but i think counseling will help you deal with the mixed p feelings you are probably experiencing from her abnormal behaviors she has towards you. have a heart to heart with your mother and explain that her drastically changing moods will not make you quit, and that you are your own person- NOT your sister, and that band is good or your trans scripts for college and that you do well enough in school for it.
2007-04-20 15:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
I mean, you have every right to feel that way. I personally believe that a parent should NEVER tell their kid, "You suck at is." or whatever. That's so rude and can really hurt a person. Plus, your mom tried to choke you and that's definitely not good. If she keeps doing stuff like that, you should call a teen helpline and seek help. Teen hot-lines are confidential and you don't have to say your name-if you want, just make up a name. I know your mom is bi-polar, but I still don't think she should try to do something like that to you.
Anyhow, I don't think you're going too hard on your parents. You have every right to feel the way you do. If you want, you could sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel. Maybe they will see what they are doing and will see how it affects you.
Either way-with your family's support or not, if you love something then pursue it! Don't let anybody shatter a dream you have. It may sound stupid, but it is SO true.
Good luck!
2007-04-20 22:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better stop talking about the band--it is something that infuriates them now. You can pursue music when you hit 18 and out on your own. I was in the band and drum and bugle corps--I think it sounds odd that they are reacting the way that they are--but play the cards that are dealt to you--concentrate on something else.... keep the peace.
2007-04-20 23:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being too hard on them. I hope that you have someone to talk to who can help you deal with your parents. They both are being abusive. If your mother has been diagnosed with being bi-polar then her illness should be under control. Her illness is no excuse for violence such as choking you.
Good luck to you.
2007-04-20 23:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. your not. Ur doing something you love. If you got abused, then they want to be friends again, its nt right. Concerntrate on music. Looks like your good at it. Go for it. Good luck... xoxox
2007-04-20 22:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋