My boyfriend got his heart ripped out by his ex..and I want to leave but I know how sensitive he is and how he still hasn't healed from his last breakup.
He sometimes gets rough with me..and pushes me into walls and he has slammed my head against the car door. I know this isn't normal..but he has annihalated my self esteem.
I told him I can't take all the fear and abuse..and he said his couldn't deal with the pain of getting dumped again and that he would hurt himself if it happened. What do I do? I used to be so strong, so happy, so determined. Now I'm apathetic about my own life.
2007-04-20 13:07:16 · 11 answers · asked by GoldenGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out while you can. Don't let this guy control you. He will eventually get over it, if you don't then he could seriously hurt you and you don't need or want that...No guy should ever put his hands on a girl. So in my opinion, get out of it...Good luck
2007-04-20 13:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, stop making excuses for the prick....he is abusive and wont stop. Make some guy friends, preferrably big ones, and make sure a couple of them are there with you, that way if he gets violent, you are protected.
As far as worrying about him hurting himself, better him than you right? Besides, he is just using that threat to manipulate you, if he had any intention of hurting himself, hed be slamming his own head into car doors, not yours.
2007-04-20 13:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bubblz7184 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave darling and dont look back this guy is a loser and if he hurts hisself its on him.you do not owe him anything he has no right to treat you bad and then blackmail you into staying cause you feel sorry for him.if you think he may be dangerous leave when he is not there and be gone before he gets back do not go where he will find you.if he is really unstable notify the police but get out it will only get worse i know i lived with an abusive husband for 24 years dont waste your life.bless you and good luck you can do this!
2007-04-20 13:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy in anyway you can, and do it fast. If he is hurting you, tell the family and authority. Get help for yourself first, and then let the police or others help him. He's dangerous and could seriously harm you or a family member. The other girl who broke up with him knew something was wrong that's why she left him. Be smart follow her example.
2007-04-20 13:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anothername 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't worry about him. To me, it sounds like he doesn't really even love you, he just doesn't want to be alone. You have to go into self-preservation mode. Worry about you now and him later (if ever). You need to get out of this relationship AT ALL COSTS! You need to do it for yourself so you can love yourself. You need to get your self-esteem back and care about life again. And you can do it. You just need to get out of this relationship. It's doing nothing but hurting you now, obviously. So do whatever you have to, cut off all ties, don't speak to him anymore. But get your self-respect back.
2007-04-20 13:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you need to get OUT of this relationship. I know that you are confused, as this person has done his best to make you second guess yourself. As someone that was in almost the exact situation, please listen. He is using harming himself to get you to stay and feel badly for him. GET OUT NOW. You are being abused. It will not stop, it will not get better. He needs help and you need to get out of that relationship and get yourself some help in getting your dignity and self esteem back. best of luck to you.
2007-04-20 13:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need permission to break up. F--- him, let him hurt himself. Tell him to go get help.
You need to worry about yourself because him threatening to hurt himself is not far from him threatening to hurt you.
And if he does kill himself, it isn't your fault, you didn't do it. He may say you did (via a note or whatever), but it is a lie to try to hurt you more.
Honestly, if he was still hurt over his last relationship, why did you start dating him?
2007-04-20 13:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 17:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell someone what is going on. stay with him for now until you get help. dont give him any reason to hurt you. just get help NOW!!!!! i know your worried abt him but you should be more worried abt yourself. but once again tell someone that will help you get out of this situation. good luck and be careful.
2007-04-20 13:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl463mp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to seek counseling, but leave him anyway. If the most he can do is threaten himself if you break up, then leave him for your own safety, but certainly ask him to get help.
2007-04-20 13:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋