uhm, we're going to whistler for a band tour this week. there is this boy i like who is going, he knows i like him. he's also my best friend which makes things tricky, i guess. i want to ask him to maybe a nice dinner one night, but i don't know how to ask. the other thing is that he has this best friend and everytime i ask the boy i like to go somewhere, he says, lets bring my best friend too. how do i convince hin so that it's just the two of us? help please.
2007-04-20 12:45:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
better find out if he's gay. maybe HIS best friend is the one he always brings to dinner!!
2007-04-20 12:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey - asking a guy it is a thousand times easier than asking a girl out.
Guys are really simple and most of them find it too complicated to play all the games, guessing and sign-reading women do.
So the best way to communicate with a man is to tell him straight forward what you want to say. If you can draw him a picture - even better.
That said, I know you don't want to blur it all out at once, because you are afraid he will respond in a way you wouldn't like. Am I right?
So, try to get him alone and ask him if he would mind spending the evening with just you. Don't make it too fancy, because you don't want to seem too eager. After dinner, have something planned that you both like to do.
If he's your friend, he shouldn't mind.
When you are alone, later that night, and having nice conversation, you might tell him that you really liked the evening and that you actually would want to do this more often with him. If he reacts badly, you know you should back out.
If he says something like "yeah, me too", you could continue with something like "have you ever thought about how it would be like if we were a couple?"
And if I need to take you from there - you are too young to date :-)
But then again - there is another way.
I'm thirty years old and the other day a person I work with handed me a peace of paper. I opened it and on it, someone had written, with a child-like handwriting:
(A person's name) wants know if you want to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Please check:
__yes
__no
__maybe
It made me burst out in laughter, but you see, sometimes, the simplest ways are the best :-)
Best of luck, and have a great time.
2007-04-20 13:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Georgina Elin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! Can't you take a hint, that they are an item! The boy is gay! He is trying to be polite to you girl! Leave him alone! But, if you do go ahead and invite him then make it an invitation for the both of them!
2007-04-20 12:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't like you like that and wants to preserve the friendship - which is a good idea; how many friends do you marry? - after dating you usually lose them as friends. Let it go.
But if you won't let it go, your job as a woman is to get HIM to ask. Make him want to.
2007-04-20 12:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wud first make it a group date first of all so it wudnt luk like ur makin da first step so obviously and when your on that date ask one of your close girlfriends to tell him that u guys luk cute 2gether and shud hook up,or tell him a lie dat u've never been on a casual date with a guy b4 and since u guys are bestfriends if he mind goin...on dis date try our best 2 flirt wit him but don't make it luk dat obvious that u like him coz guys normally take advantage of dat.....dats my answer
2007-04-20 12:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by pretty sexy chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to convvince him just invite him to dinner and he say no then it no, but it doesn't sound like he going to say no. Just ask. You it make me sick went we girls have to ask the guy out .
2007-04-20 12:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that he suggests bringing his friend as a way to avoid saying that he's not interested in you in that way?
He knows you like him.
You have asked him to go places before.
He dodges.
Sounds pretty solid.
2007-04-20 12:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by mafiacarstarter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be straight up about it. just ask him would he like to go to dinner and if he wants to bring his friend say that you would perfer it just be the two of you.
2007-04-20 12:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cadet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come straight out and say it and if it doesn't work his not the one move on his only some you like not some one you date
2007-04-20 12:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by Booda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you really want to bye dinner but you olny have $10.
2007-04-20 12:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋