I like a classmate girl a lot. I wish I didn't. Is there anything I can do about this?

Question

I am a college freshman, and I am strongly attracted to a classmate girl. I think she is drop dead gorgeous and awesome in many ways. She is very smart and mature. She is articulate and writes very well. I think she has the most attractive eyes, second to Alexis Bledel, I like her smile, I like her body, I love the way she talks, and I like the way she carries herself. She may have the ugly side I can't see as of now, but I think she is the most attractive lady I have ever seen/met. She makes my heart beat like crazy. I, however, sort of wish that I did not feel attracted to her. In fact, I wish I did not feel attracted to any human being right now. She doesn't seem like she wants to be in a relationship with anyone, and I want to fully concentrate on my work. I go to an extremely competitive school, so I have to study my butt off. I have sort of tried to get over her, but I haven't been successful at that. Is this natural? I don't know what to do. She is such a great distraction.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, this is a fact of life. There isn't anything you can do about the way you feel about someone. The best you can do is try to avoid her, and concentrate on your work. Mind over matter.

Answer 2

First, the attraction is natural and sometimes it sucks to be attracted to someone that doesn't seem to want to be in a relationship. Key word being "seem". From what you say about wanting to gain knowledge more than concentrate on her beauty, you should sit down and weigh your feelings. If she is more of a distraction than attraction perhaps you should change classes to "get over her" as you put it. Without the temptation, you may be able to concentrate on studying your butt off. But remember you are only human and the first rule to being human is self preservation.....which is closely regarded as reproduction....and you know what that is hopefully.......remove the distraction, attraction, and first primordial rule of survival and you will be able to worry about being number one on the dean's list instead of being number one on the awestruck list :) So to sum it up, if I were you, I would change classes so that I wouldn't have to worry about the beautiful distraction in the corner seat of the class room :D Always choose education over attraction, when you're a doctor or lawyer you'll have beautiful distractions falling all over you instead of the other way around :)

Answer 3

Well if you want to forget about her, then try to keep your distance, if you find yourself thinking about her then just stop and think about your homework for the night.

If you think that she is just a distraction that is taking away from your school work, then maybe you need to find out first if she even likes you and second if the distraction of wanting her is more of a distraction then being with her would be.

You will meet allot of hot women in your life... and most of them probably wont want to be in a "relationship". Thats all i'm gonna say, you deduce the meaning of that on your own.

If you Really wanna make sure that there is no chance of her distracting you then just do something so completely retarded that she will never speak to you again. (and i mean something like going to class with your underwear over your pants while wearing socks sandles and a nice muscle shirt from 1985.


Thats the best i can do sorry....

Answer 4

you have alot to think about right now and dont have much time to be over obsessing on a girl who has no desire of being in a relationship at this time. the same thing happened to me last year i was obsessed over this guy who did not want to be with anyone and i could find no flaws in him. so i really tried to picture myself with him in the future and noticed that we were not ment to be and that he did have a few personality flaws even though he was the stud of the town!
try it out really examine and take a look at where you are in life and just try to be friends with her and then maybe later when you are both ready you could take it a step further and see where you end up!
good luck! and by the way it will take a little effort on yor part.

Answer 5

I personally think that you should go for her and see what happens. You seem like a great guy. Also you never know...she may be able to help you with your school work.

Answer 6

those are the type of girls that appear so independent and above it all that they, in fact, usually go home to themselves. why don't you ask her out? if she's all that, she's going to share your priorities and encourage you to be the best that you can be!

yay! wouldn't that be great! turn her into your championer and then, you could be her championer, too and it would just be like a romance made in heaven and you'd make each other so incrediably successful! then, you guys would have little championers to champion and life would just be so great!!!!!

so, why don't you ask her out to start it all off?

Answer 7

i think its better to pursue both the school work and the girl. Its worth it and plus since youve gotten yourself involve to this attraction it will stay in your chess for a long time if you forcefully let go of this girl, and this could effect your school work.

Answer 8

if u truly like this girl, u should talk to her n get 2 her more than who noes or when ever u c her try 2 think of sumthin else. like an old wrinkled up grandma .lol.

Answer 9

Wow, to bad your trying to end this, because she seems like an awesome girl. hmm i would say try not to look at her. Think of her as someone else. Every time you look at her (gross but it might work) pictures some old gramma naked.

Answer 10

Oh my goodness I have the SAME EXACT PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't want to like this one guy too, and it's also VERY distracting, but I just can't control it!!!!! I hope you find some help. Good luck.