If I suspect my 17 year old son is?

Question

smoking the reefer, how on earth do I talk to him about this without feeling angry or causing an argument. I know I have to put my foot down and be a mother, not a friend....help, any other mothers handle this matter and have a positive outcome.

Answer 1

Well, like anything a parent has to talk to their child about, you need to get the nerve, and just do it.
Be sure to tell him that 17 is old enough to get thrown in jail these days, and that having the drugs in your home - can get YOU put in jail, too.
Let him know that you cant stop him, and that youre not going to be forceful, but give him examples of how drugs can lead to mistakes in life, and how true success comes from living a life that doesnt depend on drugs.

Also, drug experimentation is normal, remember? And also remember that using drugs doesnt make you a bad person, or pathetic, but legally it makes you a criminal.

God bless the green stuff. HOOAH.

Answer 2

You can ask and he will deny it. Calmly explain to him the risk he takes in getting caught. Tell him he risk his future career choices as well as the trust and things that he takes for granted now.

Then put your foot down and tell him he is under no circumstances to keep his drug or use his drugs in your house because, if he gets busted you will not pay for his stupidity because they were found on your property. Let him know that if he gets busted you will not bail him out and stick to it.

If he chooses to do drug unfortunately there is little we can do. Just continue to remind him of the risk and keep the lines of communication open with him at all times. Require that he talk to you and share his life with you. It will be worth the effort.

Shouting and anger will accomplish nothing. Stay calm and stay in control of the conversations. Let him know how much it hurts you to see him waste his life but, let him know you will always love him no matter what.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

As a mom, I totally understand your concern and worry...But I also think you must do something soon before this grows!

Perhaps investigating and doing some research can help you get facts and figures. Then, maybe a therapist or counselor can give you ideas on how to approach him.

The truth is nobody wants to have this kind of talk with a child, but it is necessary you do it..You are the adult here and he is your responsability! He needs guidance, so please pray and ask God to help you use the right words so you can get through to him.....Good luck!

Answer 4

i have a 17 year old son myself whom i just found out about a month ago that he had tried it a couple of times and of course anything like this is not an easy subject but i got really angry and went for a walk and talked to myself for a while and then he came to me and we sat down and i told him im not mad really at him just basically hurt but i cant really say nothing because i had smoked it a couple of times when i was about 16 or 17 myself which like i told him back then it was only pot now a days people lace it with bad stuff that can kill you or put you in the hospital or anything you dont really know how your body will really react to this kind of drug and then what happens if you are smoking it and driving and kill someone or yourself in an accident your life is over either way and if you accidentally kill someone else then that you cheated that person of their right to live only God has the right to take a persons life and give a person life we shouldnt do anything or put anything in our bodies and get out here and act a fool that might cause us to lose our life or someone elses......life is full of choices and if he makes a wrong one then he could ruin his life and not have the chance he was givin in the first place to make something of himself.....its hard to approach a subject like this when it comes to dealing with the one you love but do it in a delicate way and tell him you are just hurt and you know he will want to try things because peer pressure is so much more these days than when we grew up and its harder not to say no because they want to be cool with their friends......good luck and do lots of praying if you have never prayed before do it now because only God can guide you in the way you need to with this situation and help you also.......good luck to you and your son...its not easy

Answer 5

try to have a smooth civilized talk with him, no arguments, just take it one thing at a time..be on his side but let him know that wot he did is wrong and u wont accept that(after u make sure he is actually smoking it) try to know as much as u can abut what is actually made him start & maybe u can get 2 da cause of this & solve it....plus a male role modle wld be really helpful...

Answer 6

I would try to get a male role model involed, have some guy talk with him. Coming from you he will take it as a nag, and he is in trouble. If he has an older brother, or maybe a cousin he is close with, try to get them to talk to him. Dad could try, but at 17, kids want to be accepted by their peers, so if you could get a peer to talk to him, he may react differently

Answer 7

well don't come on to him forceful ( obviously )

just ask him in a nice manner if he says no trust him.

once you have gotten an answer from him then you can investigate ( don't make it obvious )

see the friends he's hanging out with,if you smell it on him, or you could just cut to the chase and go to the grocery store go to the pharmacy and ask for a marijuana test and test him :)

good luck!

Answer 8

Ask him and tell him it isn't acceptable. Tell him he needs to stop and buy a home testing kit. Tell him you will be checking him every so often and if he comes up positive then he has to go to rehab.

Answer 9

LaRae, two things:

1.) Anger on your part will be inevitable.
2.) Don't care about causing an argument. Just ship his @$$ off to rehab!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

going to be tough because at 17 he's probably thinking he's grown. but if he's living in your house he has to abide by your rules. give him a ultimatum and stick by it!